Is the boss fooling around?

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  1. rrkrd

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    Our boss is a married man with an attractive wife and 2 sweet kids age 4 and 8.He is 37y, a very good looking man; works out and judging by his bulge, he appears to be very hung.
    He has a very close buddy who is 36 drop dead gorgeous, tall,masculine, muscular and appears to also be hung. This buddy has never been in a relationship with a woman until the past 10 months....and she says while its nice...it probably wont last. He sometimes comes to the office but usually the office door is closed
    They have always been buddies, but people who have been at the firm for 15-20yrs think there is something going on. The boss is constantly away from work (often friday to tues) and often when his personal secretary asks where he can be reached, he says its personal.
    His wife must be suspicious, she calls work often to see if he is there.The buddies girl friend told our secretery the guys like to go up north fishing.
    His wife says her husband goes to a lot of conventions Once a year he takes the family to Florida for 3 weeks. When the boss is back to work on mostly Wednesdays and Thursdays, hes often suffering with a head ache or flu like symptoms.
    His secretery asked the boss s wife where he goes fishing. She replied that he doesnt like fishing!
    Only recently are people at work starting to talk among themselves. While no one out and says it , its implied that the 2 men must have something on the go. We all like our jobs and as a small company we practically run it whether hes there or not.
    We feel sorry for his wife and kids but its not up to us to squeal.
    Have you ever been in a situation like this? Do you think the men have something on the go?
     
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    I lost my job recently due to this. My boss seemed to be having an affair with a young female employee. In order to stop people from talking he made an example out of me. Not because I really new anything or not because i was talking about. I was the example because I wa a subcontractor and with almost no legal recourse. My clients were so upset with him most walked away from to another competitior just to spite him. He has a horrible repuation in our field anyway. I just found another good job, but I am relocating 12 hours away. Anyone from Southern Mississippi???
     
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    maybe they are 'buddies', maybe they do go 'fishing'. maybe they go fishing for other women and indulge in 3-ways, 4-ways, etc. who knows? who cares?
    you say you feel sorry for the boss's wife and children..is that because of the length of his absences? would your concern be as great if he were not paying his income taxes and jeopardizing their financial future? would your concern be as great if you were talking about a man who might be of small endowment, travels with others and is away from his family?
    i used to own a business and traveled 25-30% of the time and no one (in 20 years) ever expressed surprise, concern or sorrow about the time i was not with my family...as a business owner sometimes i needed to travel and sometimes i didn't need to. sometimes i had fun on the road, sometimes i visited with out of state relatives and friends, sometimes i went to football games, sometimes i had great meals and saw wonderful places, sometimes i fooled around (SHOCK!...a grown man having sex while on a business trip!!)
    the bottom line is that when it comes to fellow employee's sex lives, as long as they are adults and the sex is not occurring in front of other employees, it is nobody's business.
    when 'concern' turns to 'being nosy', employees are walking on thin ice when their boss is the object of such 'concern'.
    i know of some 'concerned' workers who ended up in the unemployment line because they spent too much time 'wondering' (aloud with other employees) about stuff that had nothing to do with the business.
    apparently (from what you say) that there are certain facts about this situation that are don't seem to be fully known by the employees and the significant others of these men.
    this is the case is many matters in people's private lives.
    let sleeping dogs lie, don't rock the boat and MYOB!
     
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    As long as he acts professionally by informing the staff of his absences beforehand, I don't see the absences as problematic in a company which still functions well without him. What I see here is just idle speculation and gossip, which needs to stop. Until there is evidence to the contrary, there is nothing to squeal about.
     
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    I think it's natural to be curious, but I wouldn't say anything about it either, unless you don't value your job and you aren't concerned about everyone else's job.
     
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    I would:

    1. Stop worrying about what my boss does in his/her free time. It's no one's business if he is fucking someone else at work.

    2. Stop gossiping with others at work (if they are gossiping with you, they will gossip ABOUT you).

    3. Continue to be the best employee ever.

    In that order.
     
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    Its none of your business.

    I am a manager and my staff teams love to gossip, funny thing is, there is always someone from the teams willing to squeal and name names to me- be careful.
     
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    this sounds almost exactly like Brokeback Mountain.

    I hope the wife doesn't take it hard though.
     
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    Do they go fishin up at Brokeback Mountain together?
     
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    It's good to be the boss/owner of the company. People are always going to try to find something to gossip about when they should actually be working and doing their jobs.
     
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    I twice worked at a companies where the founder/boss had an affair going with one of his employees. In both cases, she got promoted despite every thinking her incompetent. In both cases, the wife said "Either she goes or I go." Boss seeing how a divorce would cost him half his wealth, quietly got rid of the other woman.

    In both cases, the boss was an asshole who bullied people and treated them like shit. Nobody respected either man - and not just because of the affairs or the asshole behavior. People just ended up quitting and going off to better jobs.
     
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    well stated LEX
     
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    Agreed. What are you the company gossip. STFU and do your job.
     
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    Ann Landers said it a million times -- MYOB.

    (But feel free to PM me pics of them. I love good looking Canadian studs. LOL)
     
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    if he's the top manager or owner, he can do what he wants until the State Labor Commissioner or the EEOC knocks on the door. a lower manager is always at risk of being caught by his boss who woesn't like it.

    worst case is the manager playing with the top manager's babe. happened once where I worked.
     
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    Lex said it best. Noboby's business. Do your job and ignore the gossip. Everyone at work gossips. They tell me and I tell no one. In other words, as long as you get paid every payday, your boss has fulfilled his obligation to you and his is life is just that, his life.
     
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    yeah, you have more important things in life to concern yourself with, stfu at the watercooler.
     
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    I know I will get responses about fantasies, but I do know for sure that one of my bosses was fooling around because he was one of my wife's "friends" for a while. But, he was my boss before he started fooling around with her and I did not benefit from it.
     
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    Another one for the fantasy section. The OP stated that the boss was 37 and the folks that had been around for 15-20 years were gossiping about him. When did he start this company? As a senior in high school? The OP had far too much detailed information that would be known to anyone unless they were a private investigator.

    Odd post.
     
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    Note: The company has been owned by 3 direct generations of the same family. I started there as a teen part time working for the current boss' dad......Just to clarify things
     
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