Is there a tasteful way to personally proposition a woman for sex?

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One exception just occurred to me when I looked at the location of the OP. When I was in MI one winter, and I was about 23, I saw this gorgeous guy at a bar. It was a big, big bar, I think in Mt. Pleasant, right across the street from some dorms, and down the street from Sonic. I didn't see a lot of black guys in MI, and though I do not discriminate against potential partners based on race, I am more attracted to brown skin and brown eyes. When I got there, there was only one person dancing, a black guy about my own age, maybe a little younger. He was stunning. The way his body moved, and they way he loved the attention as all eyes were on him appealed to me. I decided I was going to fuck him before I left MI. I never had that kind of instant attraction to anyone before that. I wanted to wait for him to take a break from dancing, and after I could have a drink or two. By the time I got back from the bartender, he was gone. He was still there, but the place was so big, I'd lost him.

I spent most of my time that night dancing with a guy who was so drunk that he misspelled his own name on the slip of paper on which he wrote his number. He wrote Dane. He said, Dante. The DJ announced he was playing only one more song, and that guy bailed. I wanted to leave too, but the girl I went with was talking to some guy. She never meets guys so I hung back to wait, and spotted the guy I saw when I first walked in. He was way more sober than I was.

I signaled him closer, cracked a few jokes about the way the place looked now that the lights were coming up, told him he was even better looking with the lights on, and he said, "So I won't have to turn them off to get you to fuck me?" Sold! From that point forward he just kind of took control of the evening, guiding the rest of us according to his agenda. We didn't end up having sex because there wasn't a condom, and I just couldn't hook up with him again before I went back to NY, but. . . He asked for sex within a minute of me learning his name, and my answer was yes.
 

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I'd rather not talk about it mistah bossman. We seem to be on topic and I want it to stay that way.

AlteredEgo, great story! Mount Pleasant is a ways from me though.
 
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AlteredEgo!!! I sometimes think about a scenario like that, but I rarely meet guys that are just THAT attractive.
 

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In my experience, many women are willing to have sex with friends. Total strangers, I'm not so sure about.

Believe me they are!:wink: And girls do come up & straight up ask, though most are a bit coy in their intentions. I'd never met about 9 out of 10 girls that I slept, or had any mutual friends with any of them, before the day I did.

Women get off on danger just as much as men. Even when some women think that you're a prick and an asshole, there's always someone who thinks that you're like Zorro & will bang you that night. Neediness always shows through & is a turnoff to pretty much everyone, but confidence & a devil may care attitude will always mark you out positively to some people.

Glad you're off the size schtick, now get down the gym & start building your confidence from the outside in.
 

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I think some women reported that man to the police.

I can imagine how this experiment must have gone.

Male: "Excuse me, lady, would you like to have sex with me?"
Female: "Oh my god no way! I'm calling the police!"

:biggrin1::biggrin1::biggrin1:
 

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Wow, I have been approached in a similar way (just blunt and straightforward) and even though I don't sleep around, I would never get offended unless the guy was vulgar or cocky and rude.

If the guy is respectful, most women would appreciate the honesty (at least any women I would hang out with) and decline nicely. I always thank a guy for being up front and have even sent a guy over to talk to one of my (less discriminating and more drunk) friends or point him out some other girl who looks like she might be on the prowl to hook up. Maybe you're just approaching the wrong kinds of women. Try making eye contact from across the room and seeing how her body language changes when you get closer to her. If she just wants some fun for the evening and she likes the chemistry, you should be able to pick up on that pretty easily. If you can't tell she's keeping her guard down, then you've got bigger problems than needing to get laid.

In my experience, men who make generalizations about "women" are usually either ignorant and don't have a lot of experiences with different types of women or they are fishing around in hopes to get a girl to prove them wrong.
 

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Really? Care to explain the evidences of that assessment? Though I'm sure you'll admit that what you're saying isn't what the OP says, he offers no qualification of his statement that women would respond in the way he describes.

He also seems unaware that making sweeping generalisations about the sexes has an ugly name which i wont even bother using because it will draw down cries of "Fie and Damnation! For it is ye! The PC-Police! With your Jackboots an such! etc etc and so on".

are you always so obnoxious? Geez.

And yes, as surprising as it may be, men and women are deserving of their own distinct classifications. OMG! Shocking, i know.
 

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AlteredEgo, great story! Mount Pleasant is a ways from me though.
I looked on a map, and you are right. But I have no idea where that bar was, other than it was 90 minutes from where I was staying in Farwell, MI.

I wish I had been sober enough to go out looking for condoms. We were way too wasted. I was very tempted to forgo the condoms. I have a special place in my libido for a hot guy oozing precum. I don't really like MIchigan winters, but I have a lot of delicious memories from there.

One thing that stand out to me though, is that men in NY at the time, would always approach me at some point if I kept catching them giving me the hungry eye. Men in MI would stare all night long and never say a word. Just for fun, I asked a few of them why, and they said they were too shy, or they said they couldn't tell if I was interested. Men I met in NY assumed the interest was there, and made a move, or invited me to make mine. Men I met in MI just stared at me like I was walking sex, but unless I spoke to them, they did not speak to me. There were two exceptions. One touched my hip and tried to get me to dance with him. When I went to the bathroom instead, he took that as a rejection, even though I told him I would want to dance when I got back. The other was the hot guy I couldn't resist. When I first made eye contact with him, he immediately came over, but stood at arms distance, smirking and sizing me up. I asked him to come closer, and he got right in my face. If I'd inhaled deeply enough, our chests would have touched. He turned out to be from Jersey.

Actually, remember the guy my friend was talking to? We all went to his dorm at Mr. Irresistible's insistence. At one point, when their awkward, nervous chatter and refusal to leave the living room for that guy's bedroom was too much for us to take, we got off the kitchen counters, got dressed, and joined them. My dude pulled her dude aside, and gave him a pep-talk. Within minutes, they were making out, much to my friend's relief. She definitely wanted to get laid. Badly. Really badly. But she was shy, and cared about guys' opinions of her, and would never have asked. Neither would that guy. She was able to meet up with him a few times before we left, and they never had sex. She stopped taking his calls, and said, "I'm going to wait until we get back to NYC where I don't have to spell out for these motherfuckers that I'm horny and think they're cute." A cashier overheard her, and said, "Really? Oh god! Take me with you!" She said she lived in Michigan her whole life. I think that was a Meijer in either Clare or Mount Pleasant.

What do you think that's about? Do you know a lot of dudes like yourself who would be willing to just ask girls for sex? Do you know a lot of dudes who go talk to women?

AlteredEgo!!! I sometimes think about a scenario like that, but I rarely meet guys that are just THAT attractive.
You know, I'm not sure anyone else would have found him exactly as attractive as I did. I think other women there thought he was exotic, because we were in an area where there were not a lot of non-whites. But he wasn't buff, or anything. He had a thick trunk, not fatty, just big. He was tall, and had an enormous afro. He had a fantastic smile. Smelled nice. He just had "it" you know? That unnameable X-factor that separate the normal people from the stars. Sometimes I have dreams about him, and I can taste and smell him. I knew him for a few hours, but those hours made a lasting impression.

Usually, a guy I might have found THAT attractive, does or says something that just makes me skip him. I am 31, and only three times has anyone been that attractive to me, but I dated the other two.
 

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are you always so obnoxious? Geez.

And yes, as surprising as it may be, men and women are deserving of their own distinct classifications. OMG! Shocking, i know.




That's not even close to how obnoxious I am most of the time. Ask around, I'm a pure cunt. :rolleyes:

Mind you that doesn't change the fact that these classifications of yours have an ugly name.
 

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Must we always be indirect when playing the dating game?
I"m sure you thought I was previously "trolling" (though I gotta tell you, if you use the words "exquisite aura" I'm betting you will always go home empty-handed) but after some though I wanted to address this question.

No, you don't have to be indirect. You can be as direct as you like. But how far will it get you? And why wouldn't you want to take a little extra time to seduce your potential evening playmate? Isn't that half the fun? Even if I know I'm having a brief one night fling, I prefer the gentleman who caught my attention with a glance, held my gaze, smiled, saunters over and says something funny or observant to put me at ease. He's showing me I can feel comfortable with him AND since he went to certain lengths to do so there's a chance he's just as attentive and considerate in the sack. Seduction is a powerful drug. If you learn the art it can prove to be most valuable.
 

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For me, seducing a woman isn't fun. Maybe thats because I don't know how to do it and I sound stupid when I try. Maybe thats because its never worked for me. I'm not being bitter. I just don't like it. It works for other people though.

I'm not saying I want to go up to a woman and say, "Hey you're really pretty. Lets go back to my place." I know that won't work.

But my dick has ADD. After 20 min of seduction, my dick has lost interest. I wish I could just walk up to the woman that I locked eyes with, introduce myself, get her name, give a complement, and proposition her. If she declines, then fine. But I don't see why she should get offended.
 
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I've considered trying this (when considerably 'oiled') in the past, and contemplate the possible replies...

Since I have the appearance of being eccentric and weird, yet in a charming and well-spoken manner, I'd probably go with the following:

'Hey there. I just wanted to say, I find you absolutely beautiful, and would love to have sex with you.'

I haven't quite grown the cast-iron knackers to try it yet, though I'm working on it.
 

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I'll add a story which happened to a buddy of mine at a club (I was with him when this occurred), which is extremely relevant to this thread:

I'll be brief here. Myself, a friend of mine, and two other mutual acquaintances had been drinking for about three hours at my friends apartment, virtually in the city centre. We were pretty buzzed, but not drunk in anyone's opinion. We decide to make our way to the clubs.

I bet my buddy and these two acquaintances, as was often the practise once we went out, that he should do something or other, and I'd buy him a drink if he succeeded (or attempted, depending on what it was). The conversation went like this:

"So who do you find most attractive here, right now, in this club?"

Him: "Hmm...", he looks around, before settling on a brunette, "That girl there."

Me: "Go up to her, tell her she's beautiful, and that she's coming home with you tonight."

Him "What!"

After a few minutes of persuasion and predicting the hilarious consequences, he goes over and utters the famous last words. The girl in question turns round from her two girlfriends, and tells him to fuck off. Me and the other two guys almost shit from laughter. I should mention my friend is a muscular guy, black, and pretty damn charming.

About forty minutes and two drinks later, we're sat at the bar after some dancing, and he gets a tap on the shoulder. It's the girl he propositioned earlier. She starts the conversation, he responds, and two minutes later, they're out the door and fucking on his sofa.

Essentially a straight-up proposition, with a little twist. You could say it was the environment, my friend (being quite conspicuous), the alcohol, was she a whore? It may have even been a combination of all of them. Still, he got laid with zero effort.
 

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Essentially a straight-up proposition, with a little twist. You could say it was the environment, my friend (being quite conspicuous), the alcohol, was she a whore? It may have even been a combination of all of them. Still, he got laid with zero effort.

things were going so well. *sigh*
 

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things were going so well. *sigh*

Hey, it was a club notorious for that kind of person, so I'm not stepping over some imaginary line stating just that. The fact is, yes, if you were to proposition ten women, the leeway to success would be much higher if the woman had promiscuous tendencies.