Is there any way to know for sure a woman has had an orgasm?

[Unnamed]

whatever floats you and your partner's boats, but those kinda dramatics make me think of porn stars. and though my 14 year old wide eyed internet porn discovering self might like the idea of having sex with a Lisa Ann, sexual theatrics outside of role-play seems disingenous and is a turn off.

it spurs up threads like this and makes a guy pause during sex because, since its not cool to ask this question to their gf, they have to just fuck in doubt. that is if your acting isnt all that good, the person doesnt care if you fake or could be faking too.

 

[Hoss]

if she did. if she didnt.it doesnt matter.
as long as the guy enjoys the sex is all that matters. if she finds the need to fake it, then she is prolly ego stroking and may wanna just be done with the sex, so if the guy is concerned with getting her to feel orgasmic pleasure he shouldnt be. why fake it? why not just enjoy the sex and just not pretend to orgasm? not doing any real favors, except if youre a prostitute.

fakers just dont see sex the same way as ppl who fuck, orgasm and orgasm some more do. so only if he wants to fake a long with her, he best have the sex for himself or find a partner who isnt afraid of some intimacy and honesty in the bed room.

It isn't just about the man. Pleasing and satisfying the woman and her needs and desires is equally important.

My ex-wife (1 of them) could not orgasm. Toys, sex, fingers, mouth, tongue, her own fingers, other women, other men, it didn't happen. She lubricated, everything else was fine, there was just something which kept the orgasm from happening.
I love sex, so did she, at times she wanted it more than I did. When the truth came about on her inability to orgasm she told me that she did enjoy the sex although she always had the lingering disappointment that she would not be able to orgasm....many times she faked it. To her the intimacy of making love was what part of what appealed to her. She enjoyed the breast play, the foot massages, the actual penetration of my penis in her vagina, the embrace afterwards as we lay there exhausted, the kisses, all of it was important to her not just the orgasm. After the truth came out (during a really nasty fight) she stopped the faking. Our relationship improved. I have mentioned elsewhere that we grew apart, she ended up remarrying, as did I, later her husband died, and I was single at the time and we resumed our intimacy, our sex life. We still love each other, we just know marriage is not right for us together. In the years after, we have been together even when I was with others (those I was with, knew and she knew as well, it was completely open and honest).

Orgasm and intimacy are not necessarily synonymous.

 

[Unnamed]

and faking and intimacy definitely arent synonymous. sex is for both parties, but when one isnt into it, then its masturbation with another's body.

dolf made it clear she loves the sex she fakes orgasms in. no problem there. have your fun. but her partners know, most partners dont and end up doubting like the OP's friend.

 

[Mercurygirl]

because it adds to the fun and reduces the need for explanation. but for me, mostly because it's fun.

i've said it before and i'll say it again, i fake when i wank sometimes too. it's nice to thrash about and make some noise!

That's just silly.

 

[dolfette]

nothing is silly if it makes you happy.
that's why we eat chocolate, knowing it rots our teeth and contains as much nutrition as sand.
climb a tree, kid. climb a tree today.

 

[Mercurygirl]

Yeah, whatever rocks your boat. I just had this mental image of someone rolling around on a bed alone screaming to a fake orgasm. Gave me the giggles.

 

[dolfette]

i'm not a fake screamer! :tongue:
my reality is barely a sound.
my fake is breathy moaning.

 

[D_Jacqueline_Boozanne]

I'm gonna toss this out there because I don't think it has been brought up, but faking can serve as a way to help end sex. I don't mean that in a bad way, it's just that some guys will not finish until they think you've gotten off. I know there have been times where I might have agreed to sex when I wasn't 100% into it or I just wasn't going to cum no matter what, and the gent was damned and determined to thrust me to finish before ending himself. So, to spare my own discomfort and his self esteem, I faked it. He took this as mission accomplished, and voila! He pops, sex is over, we're both happy!

 

[RawDog]

I'm gonna toss this out there because I don't think it has been brought up, but faking can serve as a way to help end sex. I don't mean that in a bad way, it's just that some guys will not finish until they think you've gotten off. I know there have been times where I might have agreed to sex when I wasn't 100% into it or I just wasn't going to cum no matter what, and the gent was damned and determined to thrust me to finish before ending himself. So, to spare my own discomfort and his self esteem, I faked it. He took this as mission accomplished, and voila! He pops, sex is over, we're both happy!

My wife faked with her first husband for that very reason. I'm sure someone's mentioned it in the last 25 pages, but it does deserve to be repeated.

For what it's worth, I read somewhere that the "Fake it 'til you make it" philosophy can apply to women who want to be able to cum from sex. If there are certain mental blocks short circuiting the orgasmic loop, faking it can sometimes jump the blocks and get the body rolling on a new set of patterns to recognize an oncoming climax.

Not being a woman, I have no idea if that's bullshit.