Is There Such A Thing As Too Much Sex?

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66 year old male here and I have to say that I have NEVER experienced too much sex. Granted I have a very high libido but I have never been able to satisfy my sexual needs and wants. Has anyone on the forum male or female been able to do this?Sex can be physical or emotional or both. Physically I have never been satisfied and I believe this has led me explore bi sexuallty and various kinks and fetishes. By physically I mean I can orgasm but I want more. It can be in a half hour,an hour or the next day everyday.Trying to find a female partner with my libido is all most impossible, men are alittle easier and more open to kinks and fetishes. I find sex very pleasurable and want to keep repeating that pleasurable feeling.It has not interfered in my daily life, I am married, have children and a great carreer. But my desire has made me seek safe sex anywhere I can get it. Right now it feels as though the lack of it has left a hole in my life, mixed in with some anger and regret.
 

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I have to say, when I see men talking about how they can't find a woman with a similar libido I can't help but think: do you *really* want that? Or would her needs eventually make you feel inadequate when *you* are the one who can't keep up with *her*?

Yeah. I've been that woman. The only reason I've ever not wanted to fuck my guy is because I was physically ill. I don't have to be in the mood to get in the mood, and he turns *me* down more often the I do him. My ex, he found himself very insecure when he realized I was always able to continue fucking and getting off on it. He would have to wait for his balls to calm down, catch a second wind. I don't. I can just keep cumming, without taking breaks between orgasms. We fought several times over the duration of our relationship over the fact that I couldn't be "fucked to sleep" the way he mistakenly thought it worked with all women. I made him feel like he wasn't enough, because I was the one who needed to be kept up with.

I still haven't found a man willing to let me fuck him in the ass, so the whole "men are more open to kinks" is inaccurate in my experience.

Be careful what you wish for. Sometimes when they come true, it can completely change things in a way you didn't think it could/would.
 

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Definitely have been more than any of the people I have slept with could handle. I am "too much sex". Even if I have sex all day outside of food, bathroom, and bathing breaks. They needed rest and recovery periods, not so much for me. When single it is why I have multiple friends for sex. One or even two isn't enough. Even with multiple friends, it still isn't enough.

My existence, my entire life is not being sated or fulfilled. I no longer get angry about it. Frustrated and sad? Absolutely.
 

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I have to say, when I see men talking about how they can't find a woman with a similar libido I can't help but think: do you *really* want that? Or would her needs eventually make you feel inadequate when *you* are the one who can't keep up with *her*?

Yeah. I've been that woman. The only reason I've ever not wanted to fuck my guy is because I was physically ill. I don't have to be in the mood to get in the mood, and he turns *me* down more often the I do him. My ex, he found himself very insecure when he realized I was always able to continue fucking and getting off on it. He would have to wait for his balls to calm down, catch a second wind. I don't. I can just keep cumming, without taking breaks between orgasms. We fought several times over the duration of our relationship over the fact that I couldn't be "fucked to sleep" the way he mistakenly thought it worked with all women. I made him feel like he wasn't enough, because I was the one who needed to be kept up with.

I still haven't found a man willing to let me fuck him in the ass, so the whole "men are more open to kinks" is inaccurate in my experience.

Be careful what you wish for. Sometimes when they come true, it can completely change things in a way you didn't think it could/would.
As a guy that also falls into the "not enough sex" camp, I definitely take the aforementioned warnings to heart in mitigating complaint..but that doesnt resolve the issue at hand...so what then is the solution for either party, male or female within this situation? The vibe I seem to get here is very gendered, implying women can (and should)demand more from their partners or just get more, where men simply need to be thankful for what they presumably get or be labeled ungrateful or having unrealistic expectations.
 
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Once my emotions unleash my libido, aside from chafing and time needed for real life, it’s rare that I think we have too much sex.
@merc41, my partner (this is a new guy, starting about a month ago) is turning 66. He’s high libido. Values sex, prefers it with emotion. FWB didn’t work for him very well, he has said. But also says, “well, I’m a guy, so I said yes, of course.” We alternate wearing the other out.
Eventually, I get to a place where sexyfuntimes are akin to hunger. I have meals (no snacks) in a window of time. You wait for the good stuff, and it’s worth it.
 

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I have to say, when I see men talking about how they can't find a woman with a similar libido I can't help but think: do you *really* want that? Or would her needs eventually make you feel inadequate when *you* are the one who can't keep up with *her*?

Yeah. I've been that woman. The only reason I've ever not wanted to fuck my guy is because I was physically ill. I don't have to be in the mood to get in the mood, and he turns *me* down more often the I do him. My ex, he found himself very insecure when he realized I was always able to continue fucking and getting off on it. He would have to wait for his balls to calm down, catch a second wind. I don't. I can just keep cumming, without taking breaks between orgasms. We fought several times over the duration of our relationship over the fact that I couldn't be "fucked to sleep" the way he mistakenly thought it worked with all women. I made him feel like he wasn't enough, because I was the one who needed to be kept up with.

I still haven't found a man willing to let me fuck him in the ass, so the whole "men are more open to kinks" is inaccurate in my experience.

Be careful what you wish for. Sometimes when they come true, it can completely change things in a way you didn't think it could/would.
Good for you Tight and Juciey. You are a true unicorn. I am open minded when it comes to sex and pleasure so it is frustrating when one partner is not nearly adventurous.
 

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Once my emotions unleash my libido, aside from chafing and time needed for real life, it’s rare that I think we have too much sex.
@merc41, my partner (this is a new guy, starting about a month ago) is turning 66. He’s high libido. Values sex, prefers it with emotion. FWB didn’t work for him very well, he has said. But also says, “well, I’m a guy, so I said yes, of course.” We alternate wearing the other out.
Eventually, I get to a place where sexyfuntimes are akin to hunger. I have meals (no snacks) in a window of time. You wait for the good stuff, and it’s worth it.
Well said and congradulations to you and your partner.
 

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As a guy that also falls into the "not enough sex" camp, I definitely take the aforementioned warnings to heart in mitigating complaint..but that doesnt resolve the issue at hand...so what then is the solution for either party, male or female within this situation? The vibe I seem to get here is very gendered, implying women can (and should)demand more from their partners or just get more, where men simply need to be thankful for what they presumably get or be labeled ungrateful or having unrealistic expectations.
Sorta kinda. I wasn't saying there were not women with high libidos just rare. I would like to try just once with a willing adventurous partner to see how far we could go on pleasuring ourselves.
 

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Thank you ladies for your responses. I appreciate and respect your comments. I do find that as women age their needs and wants sexually become more up front. Maybe because young men are alittle flakey concerned only about them selves. Personally I've always been concerned about my partners needs,wants and pleasure. Women seem to hold back which I think is more societal. I would consider myself lucky to know any of you. The abliity just to have an open and honest conversation about wants and needs is great.
 

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Thank you ladies for your responses. I appreciate and respect your comments. I do find that as women age their needs and wants sexually become more up front. Maybe because young men are alittle flakey concerned only about them selves. Personally I've always been concerned about my partners needs,wants and pleasure. Women seem to hold back which I think is more societal. I would consider myself lucky to know any of you. The abliity just to have an open and honest conversation about wants and needs is great.
Oh, it’s not just young men.
One reason I left the guitarist was his selfish views around sex. And his incredibly insulting comments one afternoon. Straw, camel, back.
 

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Sorta kinda. I wasn't saying there were not women with high libidos just rare. I would like to try just once with a willing adventurous partner to see how far we could go on pleasuring ourselves.
I'm a fair bit younger so maybe I've experienced a different perspective, but I don't think high libido women are as rare as they're made out to be, It just seems they're not as willing or able to monogamous as a result.
And that's not even getting into how libidos often shift once commitment is secured.
 
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When your yearning for sex leads to harmful and risky behaviors, then it is too much. I can attest to that. Hypersexuality is no joke.
 
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I'm a fair bit younger so maybe I've experienced a different perspective, but I don't think high libido women are as rare as they're made out to be, It just seems they're not as willing or able to monogamous as a result.
And that's not even getting into how libidos often shift once commitment is secured.
Could be Hmmm
 

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Too much of anything is not good, including sex and when you feel it is never enough is when it crosses the line into addiction and it becomes less about the act itself and more of just wanting to keep trying to top that high.

Besides as some have already already mentioned any woman with an extreme libido will always win out over any guy with a similar condition and you may quickly find you've bitten off more than you can chew LOL.


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Besides as some have already already mentioned any woman with an extreme libido will always win out over any guy with a similar condition and you may quickly find you've bitten off more than you can chew LOL.
I get this point but really wish it weren't so prevalent as a rebuttal to this ubiquitous issue. Women complain all the time about their male SOs not being ambitious enough, we don't warn them about overly ambitious men in an effort to make them just be thankful.
I think the vast majority of men whom have gotten to this point would at least appreciate and attempt to rise to challenge of a woman with a higher libido at least initially, or at the very least be much more proactive in finding auxiliary means to get the job done as opposed to retreating within oneself.
 
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I get this point but really wish it weren't so prevalent as a rebuttal to this ubiquitous issue. Women complain all the time about their male SOs not being ambitious enough, we don't warn them about overly ambitious men in an effort to make them just be thankful.
I think the vast majority of men whom have gotten to this point would at least appreciate and attempt to rise to challenge of a woman with a higher libido at least initially, or at the very least be much more proactive in finding auxiliary means to get the job done as opposed to retreating within oneself.

Really? I don't think that's very accurate. I was told my whole life by so many men that basically all of them will absolutely want more sex and more "varieties" as well.

To make them just be thankful? I just... What??
 

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Really? I don't think that's very accurate. I was told my whole life by so many men that basically all of them will absolutely want more sex and more "varieties" as well.

To make them just be thankful? I just... What??
I don't know that all men want more sex or varietys. Sometimes I think that I think I'm the odd ball. I don't know to many guys with a sex drive or wants like mine. Of course I think sex is a private personal matter and don't discuss it with anyone but my partner in depth. And actually I haven't gotten too detailed with her for fear of scareing her or thinking I'm.some sort of deviant. This I know from previous talks with her and the reaction or feed back I've gotten. And I'm not talking anything real kinky or off beat. Like I said I'm a good husband, lover, father and provider who puts family first. She has inadvertently shamed me for even thinking or enjoying something's. Don't get me wrong though I view myself as perfectly normal. Just open minded and willing to push the envelope if its pleasurable, fun and safe. I guess overall what ever happens between two consenting adults is their business and no one else's.
 

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To make them just be thankful? I just... What??
The consistent question or consistent gripe is..."why can't her sex drive with me be higher" the only recurring answer seems to be, " count your blessings, she could want more than you could handle."
Really? I don't think that's very accurate. I was told my whole life by so many men that basically all of them will absolutely want more sex and more "varieties" as well
People posture..specifically gender wise men tend to inflate their libidinous intent, women tend to downplay theirs. As such I put more faith in what people do vs what people say. I think the idea of men always wanting more sex and varieties comes more from the desperation of being wanting, than the reality of simply not appreciating the excess of sex already available.
 
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