Ok well, i have been sorta stewing over this for a while now, so i thought id just ask u guys what u thought. Ok well i have been questioning my sexuality for a long time now. I had been sexually attracted to men, but never emotionally attracted, i had never even thought of being with a man. Anyway i met this guy on the net, which i know sounds dodgy, but he was cool. We had been talking for a good 3 or 4 months online and on the phone, at least every day. He new from the very beginning that i was questioning myself, he was helping me through alot of things, and what was scaring me was that i was feeling something for him, like no other guy. He made it no secret from the beginning that he liked me alot, and that he thought about me lots. and to some extent i was the same. So yeah this went on for a while and i was liking him more, he genuinly seemed to like me alot, and was talking about meeting me face to face. Some boring bits in the story now so i wont bore u. He would tell me how much he loved me even thought we had never met and how much he thought about me. And a few weeks ago we were talking and i finally got up the guts to tell him that i liked him, the first guy i had ever sed it too. And he basically went quiet. and sed "ah, um thnaks, but i have a bf now" and i felt so stupid, he sed it was a recent thing, but i was shocked and upset that i felt so stupid. My Question is, after talking to a guy from here, he sed that all gay relationships are like this its either serve or be served were his words, and i dont want to believe this. So is his annalysis of gay relationships or the gay circuit true, is it impossible to be happy, or if i join the gay scene, will it be heartache after heartace for me?? Id like to know what u guys think.