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I've been dating this guy for several months, and things have been pretty bad for me. I ask this question to this community to see if anyone can give me some insight on this....
I would say I am a very kind and caring person. When I like someone I think I am especially kind with them
-Things that he seemingly loved about me at first now he seemingly hates and dislikes
-Some days he is extremely distant and some days he is seemingly "loving"
-Seems like he does "just enough" to keep me interested and still attached to him
-He puts me down. But not in obvious ways. His put downs are in forms that are indirect, which makes me think that it's a flaw with myself
-Every time we talk about things, he somehow manages to make everything about me, and what is wrong with me. What I have been doing wrong. It's never about him.
-Not everything he says are put downs, some seem to make me think that he cares
-I have anxiety attacks because of his behavior (put downs, being distant), really bad states of depression and sadness. Then, somehow he manages to make me believe that it's a flaw with myself
-Not all days are sad. Some days when he is "seemingly loving" I am totally ok, and this keeps me in a revolving cycle that stays with him
-The more he makes me feel like this the more I try and win his affection and his approval
Is this emotional abuse? Or just a very toxic relationship... (or both)
Thanks for any answers
I would say I am a very kind and caring person. When I like someone I think I am especially kind with them
-Things that he seemingly loved about me at first now he seemingly hates and dislikes
-Some days he is extremely distant and some days he is seemingly "loving"
-Seems like he does "just enough" to keep me interested and still attached to him
-He puts me down. But not in obvious ways. His put downs are in forms that are indirect, which makes me think that it's a flaw with myself
-Every time we talk about things, he somehow manages to make everything about me, and what is wrong with me. What I have been doing wrong. It's never about him.
-Not everything he says are put downs, some seem to make me think that he cares
-I have anxiety attacks because of his behavior (put downs, being distant), really bad states of depression and sadness. Then, somehow he manages to make me believe that it's a flaw with myself
-Not all days are sad. Some days when he is "seemingly loving" I am totally ok, and this keeps me in a revolving cycle that stays with him
-The more he makes me feel like this the more I try and win his affection and his approval
Is this emotional abuse? Or just a very toxic relationship... (or both)
Thanks for any answers