Is this gross?

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  1. Maggie320

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    This'll be a long story.

    Around the first of the year I visited my sister in Connecticut. While I was up there I met her very attractive neighbor. This guy is 44 years old(43 at the time) with three kids, 25 year old daughter, 23 year old(my age) son and 12 year old daughter. He also has a 3 month old granddaughter.

    On New Years Eve he had a party to which my sister, niece, and I were invited. Well, my sister and niece left and I stayed and partied a little more. When it was getting close to midnight everybody at the party wound up going to another house to watch fireworks. Turns out we showed up a little bit later than everyone else because we had a little quickie.

    After leaving his friend's house the two of us went back to his place and finished what we had started and I wound up spending the night with him.

    My main problem is the whole age difference and the idea of his being a grandfather. He's not married, never been married in fact. The age difference doesn't bother him one bit.
     
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    Did u enjoy it?
     
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    not gross at all.....i am 39 and think you should continue to pursue older men:) A guy can dream!
     
  4. Maggie320

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    It was great, almost euphoric.
     
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    Then don't worry, if you loved it.. it must be right.:biggrin1:
     
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    Hello, Maggie320:

    It has been more than 6 months since New Years Eve. This guy must have really put it to you for you to still be thinking about him 6 months later.

    Unless this is an ongoing relationship, I would just see it for what it was--a good time had by you and he.

    Good luck,

    Karmen
     
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    This is not a long story, you forgot the details.
     
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    You didn't say if he was married or in a relationship at the time. If he was are you going to be understanding if your husband/significant other cheats on you?

    If he wasn't, party on!
     
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    Nothing gross at all in that!
    The only thing that matters is that both of you enjoyed it!
     
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    Well here's my take...

    While it might be fun in the here and now, are you looking for something long term? If it ends up working out, how will you feel in twenty years when he's officially a senior citizen, and you're in your prime? I'm not saying that there's anything wrong with it at all; just something to consider. Though I couldn't speak for them, I can only imagine that his daughters who are your age or older than you might just end up REALLY being bothered by your age and label you the classic gold digger... Could you handle that?
     
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    I do not see anything gross in there.
    What rings a bell of alarm in me, is the way you posted your question, that is to say, the tittle.


    "Is This Gross?"


    That is telling me a lot about your biases and perhaps indoctrination.

    Do you feel it is gross??? or are you saying so because someone told you it is gross?
    It is up to you, and nobody else.
     
  12. OmahaBeef

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    I dont think it's gross to have sex with him....but I do think that trying to form a relationship with him would be an error.

    OmahaBeef
     
  13. Maggie320

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    That's the problem looking at the possible long-run. Right now, he's got the energy of a man my age and doesn't have a grey hair on his head. He says age doesn't matter to him one bit, but the idea that he's old enough to be my father is strange.
     
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    I thought that maybe that could be an issue. Not to be negative, but another thing to consider is what his motivation might be in being with so young a girl - are you a trophy?

    If you're just having fun - I see no problem with it. But if you're considering the potential for something long-term, be sure to think it through. Good luck to you.
     
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    i see nothing gross with it

    if your happy then thats all that matters
     
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    I think this should be my new quote - "Older men are hot".... nuf said! :tongue: :tongue:
     
  17. dongalong

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    That guy sounds like the male equivalent of a MILF - a DILF! Or should that be GDILF I forgot about the grand daughter.
    It is normal for young people to fantasize about older more experienced people like that! I enjoyed a MILF for a while when I was 26 (she was 43!)
     
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    I'd have to say that I prefer FILF to DILF, dongalong . . .
     
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    Just enjoy yourself, forget about those things like, "what about in 20 years" comments, at this point, go outwith him, fuck him, kiss him, have a good time, like BF's & GF's do.

    By being BF and GF you are not going to marry nobody.
    Let your hearth and your mind take you on that fun trip. What comes later, you will deal with later.
    Relax, enjoy, and, do not run away from a potentially very good experience.
    My best wishes, and, go for it.:smile:
     
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    I'm going to go against the grain here and say yes. Yes it is. You should stop it immediately.
     
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