Is this normal?

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  1. _longjohnd_

    _longjohnd_ New Member

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    Im only attracted to the same sex out of admiration. Im just realizing after actually messing with them I dont really like men. If I had the body or what ever else i admire, I believe I wouldnt care. Sex no matter male or female is pleasureable but afterwards I dont want to do it again with a male. I believe sex can bring a pon feelings and thats when it can become confusing.

    So my question is; Do you think some males mess with dudes because they admire what they have?
     
  2. D_Geffarde Phartsmeller

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    Yessir. There's a psychological term but it escapes me right now. Regardless, such feelings are not abnormal or even uncommon.
     
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    Are you sure it is a psychological term? Same sex desire (GLBTQ) is 1. No longer listed as a psychological condition. and 2. Just isn't.

    And yeah, that seems like a totally valid practice!
     
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    You just want him to be 100% gay so you have a chance :wink:
     
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    I figured it out, it might be somewhat similar to the theory of "exotic becomes erotic".
     
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    Following the Fruedian theory, you're simply doing what all women who have sex with men do. It allows you to, for a short time, claim that what they have is yours.

    Ofcourse, that's only following Fruedian theory. Personally, I have no issues with it, and think that to each his own.
     
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    Bottom line: people are complicated animals! Impossible to say, definitively, you have such feelings because of __________. There are many conceivable reasons. Regardless, you're not alone.

    As hintetsomaru suggests, to each there own. Society wants us to adopt a label for ease of generalization and categorization. Gay, straight, bi, or some other percentage. But ignore it! Just do your thing.
     
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    You can't group T and Q in the "Same sex desire" category.

    There's plenty of Trans people who see themselves as straight.
     
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    Well in your case it sounds like you feel submissive/inferior to other men. And you show your submission by having sex with them...maybe by "orally copulating" them or by "bottoming" for them, I would guess.

    But if it really is "admiration" then obviously there is at least one guy who has sex with men out of "admiration".

    Hint...'s theory is a bit better though.
     
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    You got me there.
     
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    No as far as sex I dont do anal pleasures. I prefer to either top or have my dick sucked.... I have done oral before but didnt enjoy it
     
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    I do agree with the whole do what you like to do thing but what im saying is i dont think im attracted to actual men but more of the pleasure i experienced... I also think there is a thin line between admiring and attracted to
     
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    How many times have you "done it" and then "don't want to do it again"?
     
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    Just about everytime I feel some type of regret...
     
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    If it has been multiple times, then you really do like it, you just don't want to like it. Guilt feelings for some reason?

    This is not meant as any type of disrespect. I've been there done that and used to have the same feelings.

    Believe me, if you had the body, or whatever else you admire about them, you would still have the interest. The regret will end when the acceptance of yourself happens.
     
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    I understand why you said that but i tryed accepting it and just letting it be but it doesnt sit right with me. The reason I have done it multiple times because when im horny i just want to ejaculate. Another reason is because I havent had sex with a female in awhile because of what i was going through with my last girlfriend. I truely tryed to accept that lifestyle but it still wasnt what i wanted or made me happy.
     
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