Slamdunk_dude said:
Hey guys this may seem like a stupid question. I had sex with a new partner for the first time recently and it was also my first time having sex without using a condom. I get tested after every partner and she assured me that she does too (and I believe her) I guess that the whole "always wear a condom" thing has been so ingrained in me that I'm being paranoid. But if we are both clean then and she is on birth control then there shouldn't be a problem right?
Thanks,
Slamdunk_Dude
Ok my goal is not to scare you but just to put information out there that a lot of people are not completely 100% on
First, safe sex is not 100%. Condoms obviously reduce pregnancy and they are somewhere between 80-95% effective when used properly however most people dont use them properly or consitently which is why the range is pretty high.
The pill is usually a combination of estrogen and progesterone. These hormones are cleared in the liver. If she takes any medication (certain antibiotics) that increase the clearance of the drug it is not nearly as effective. The pill is about 98% effective
HIV takes about 3 weeks for antibodies to be able to be detected by ELISA and Western Blot.....however, can take up to 6 months or longer for the antibodies to appear. If you are trully concerned after roughly 3 weeks you can ask the doctor to run PCR for the viral DNA but its very expensive and they'll prob tell you to wait for ELISA unless it was seriously high risk. I cant remember the exact percentage but a significant number of people who are HIV infected do not know.
Syphilis, Herpes, and Chancroid will be symptomatic in males. Syphilis causes a painless ulcer and Herpes and chancroid are painful
HPV, Gonorrhea and Chlamydia can be asymptomatic in males but a male is able to pass it to a female and HPV has been linked to cervical cancer, gonorrhea and chlamydia to pelvic inflammatory disease which can cause infertility. Gonorhhea and chlamydia can also cause epididymitis and discharge. Gonorrhea is also able to cause a form of septic arthritis
So more than likely youre freaking out. HIV exposure can also take several exposures but it also can happen after just 1 exposure. Males are not infected as easily as females in heterosexual sex bc there is less mucosa exposed. Dude, if you're really freaking out, go get tested after 3 weeks and you can take a breather if all is well. At 3 months get tested again to be sure and if youre still freaking out get it again at 6 months.....be safe man