Is This The Gay Incel Section?

[vitodenico]

Hi fellow incels

 

[Acrab69]

No, it isn't.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

I’m now picturing what a gay incel would rant about.

No, asexuals and demisexuals are not involuntarily celibate.

 

[Acrab69]

I think the word incel may be considered acephobic:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Discrimination_against_asexual_people

It presupposes someone is asexual due to a mental disorder, a physical disability, lack of possible mates, misanthropy, misogyny, perversion or religious duty:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Incel

Asexuality is not about libido or sexual desire. That's hyposexuality:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hypoactive_sexual_desire_disorder

Asexuality is not about sexual behaviour. By chance, I'm also celibate by will, but some people are not:

http://medium.com/the-word-artist/asexuality-is-not-celibacy-a310c8d07e9b

Asexuality is about sexual attraction. It's not a choice or a circumstance, but a sexual orientation:

http://edition.cnn.com/2019/10/20/us/asexuality-explainer-trnd

 

[Scarletbegonia]

@Acrab69

Since asexuality is not celibacy in the chosen sense, I don’t se it connected to us at all.

involuntary celibates who use their frustration to hate are just damaged people.

 

[Acrab69]

I agree. Unfortunately, it's a common mistake, especially when someone is asexual AND celibate.

 

[Guy-jin]

People do use “incel” to insult asexual people, and I’m pretty sure that’s exactly what the OP was trying to do but sadly for him, I had sex two days ago and it was very much voluntary.

In all seriousness though, I’ve heard it used against us almost uniformly from other members of the LGBTQ+ community who do not like our inclusion. Thankfully most people do not seem to feel that way.

 

[palakaorion]

People do use “incel” to insult asexual people, and I’m pretty sure that’s exactly what the OP was trying to do but sadly for him, I had sex two days ago and it was very much voluntary.

In all seriousness though, I’ve heard it used against us almost uniformly from other members of the LGBTQ+ community who do not like our inclusion. Thankfully most people do not seem to feel that way.

Seems like we'd be in the + somewhere...

 

[Guy-jin]

Seems like we'd be in the + somewhere...

Yes, it is often extended to LGBTQIA+ where the A is for asexual/aromantic!

 

[Scarletbegonia]

Yes, it is often extended to LGBTQIA+ where the A is for asexual/aromantic!

Crashes into Guy-jin with a Calvin and Hobbes tiger hug.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

I saw an Ace pride flag today, in a house, and brought it to my partner’s attention. I, a Demi, spoke of how cool it was to see, what it covered, where I fit in.
And I added this: who knew being selective and needing connection was on a spectrum. (I did define full asexuality)
His response?
Is there a skank pride flag?
Now that would be fun.

 

[nhguy78]

I saw an Ace pride flag today, in a house, and brought it to my partner’s attention. I, a Demi, spoke of how cool it was to see, what it covered, where I fit in.
And I added this: who knew being selective and needing connection was on a spectrum. (I did define full asexuality)
His response?
Is there a skank pride flag?
Now that would be fun.

What is skank? It sounds like dirtysexual. Not that allosexual is dirty but that skank is beyond allo.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

What is skank? It sounds like dirtysexual. Not that allosexual is dirty but that skank is beyond allo.

I had to clarify with my dude.
A skank is usually a woman who just sleeps around indiscriminately. He mentioned those who boink for drugs, too. So I’m not all that clear. Lol

 

[Stratavos]

What is skank? It sounds like dirtysexual. Not that allosexual is dirty but that skank is beyond allo.

It's a variation on the word "slut"

 

[Stratavos]

I’m now picturing what a gay incel would rant about.

No, asexuals and demisexuals are not involuntarily celibate.

A gay incel's ranting depends on the situation. Most of the time they want to be in a safer place where they can be themselves, and have chances at steady partners who don't want them to hide who they are.

 

[Northernlad98]

I saw an Ace pride flag today, in a house, and brought it to my partner’s attention. I, a Demi, spoke of how cool it was to see, what it covered, where I fit in.
And I added this: who knew being selective and needing connection was on a spectrum. (I did define full asexuality)
His response?
Is there a skank pride flag?
Now that would be fun.

That's awesome haha! My dad after doing a ton of reading up and asking questions got me a demi flag pin and I love it. Can't believe how many of my LGBT friends don't know what it it heh.