i had never thought about this in a way that made it wrong until i read on here that a good portion of you think having sex with someone who is drunk is close to rape... (am i reading this right?)
among my friends i'm considered straight with history of, uh, trying new things? i don't know how my friends rationalize it honestly.
anyway, at a bar some a guy started making conversation with me, and after a little bit we were actually getting along. he was about twice my age. i had no idea he was gay up until he asked me if i was straight. i told him i was straight and we continued talking as before. we step outside to smoke a cig, and he offers me some bud. this is when someone he recognizes about the same age as him walks up to us. we meet, he seems interesting while we smoke, then we head back in. around this point i see them hit some coke. another beer or two (i have some tolerance) and the bar is about to close. the first guy invites me over to his place, the second guy tells me he's got a nice place. i dont care for these things too much generally speaking, but i was drunk (when im drink i don't discriminate between poisons), he's got bud and coke, and i guess i wouldn't mind checking the place out anyway (it was pretty amazing honestly, the walls were windows from the floor up- but not the point).
i get to the place, and we do a couple lines and the first guy starts asking me about my sexuality, whether i got a gf, if i'm actually totally straight. i may have started to feel uncomfortable, but the lines and beer erased all that. i was pretty honest with him about everything, and soon i tell him that i had fooled around with guys albiet minimally and nervously. the second guy was still there, but he played a secondary role in the conversation. they were respectful of my space, thank god, but during this question answer period, i noticed he got a pretty big hardon. over the course of the next 30 or 40 minutes, questions get even more personal and offers were made. but no sex of any kind was had and i ended up going home. i still see the guy around sometimes, but we don't actually talk. i've initiated some conversation with him since, but he is kinda dismissive- so i let it go for the most part.
i didn't think anything was particularly wrong about this, yet had i drank any more, i'm sure i would have ended up sleeping with at least one of them. and i read in another thread from a number of people here describing situations likes this as wrong.
i know i wouldn't do it to a girl, but i wouldn't do lots of things that others would.
does this happen frequently for you guys/girls? what to make of it other than the obvious?
among my friends i'm considered straight with history of, uh, trying new things? i don't know how my friends rationalize it honestly.
anyway, at a bar some a guy started making conversation with me, and after a little bit we were actually getting along. he was about twice my age. i had no idea he was gay up until he asked me if i was straight. i told him i was straight and we continued talking as before. we step outside to smoke a cig, and he offers me some bud. this is when someone he recognizes about the same age as him walks up to us. we meet, he seems interesting while we smoke, then we head back in. around this point i see them hit some coke. another beer or two (i have some tolerance) and the bar is about to close. the first guy invites me over to his place, the second guy tells me he's got a nice place. i dont care for these things too much generally speaking, but i was drunk (when im drink i don't discriminate between poisons), he's got bud and coke, and i guess i wouldn't mind checking the place out anyway (it was pretty amazing honestly, the walls were windows from the floor up- but not the point).
i get to the place, and we do a couple lines and the first guy starts asking me about my sexuality, whether i got a gf, if i'm actually totally straight. i may have started to feel uncomfortable, but the lines and beer erased all that. i was pretty honest with him about everything, and soon i tell him that i had fooled around with guys albiet minimally and nervously. the second guy was still there, but he played a secondary role in the conversation. they were respectful of my space, thank god, but during this question answer period, i noticed he got a pretty big hardon. over the course of the next 30 or 40 minutes, questions get even more personal and offers were made. but no sex of any kind was had and i ended up going home. i still see the guy around sometimes, but we don't actually talk. i've initiated some conversation with him since, but he is kinda dismissive- so i let it go for the most part.
i didn't think anything was particularly wrong about this, yet had i drank any more, i'm sure i would have ended up sleeping with at least one of them. and i read in another thread from a number of people here describing situations likes this as wrong.
i know i wouldn't do it to a girl, but i wouldn't do lots of things that others would.
does this happen frequently for you guys/girls? what to make of it other than the obvious?