... Then I look back at my environment where people are contempt being a teenage parent and just like following nature's script or something, get your own place, get a kid and work till you die ...
I left the family's nest at age 16, got my own place, got a wife and kid in my 20s and worked at a highly challenging, rewarding and fun professional career into my 50s. Then I retired and I haven't looked back since. You don't have to follow anyone's "norm", just do your own thing and make the most of it.
There is also a girl chasing me who by all means has all the basic requirements but she is happy sitting at home watching movies and doing average things with average people.
When I look around me that's all what people are doing, and I'm thinking maybe I should settle for that too as it seems to be the norm ...
It is human nature to be inclined to take the path of least resistance and, for most people, that means leading the kind of mundane life you describe above. And for some folks that can represent happiness. But it sounds as though you have more drive, ambition and imagination than that so don't settle for the mundane. Stick your neck out, take some risk, learn from your mistakes and never stop reaching for that brass ring.
... I just miss people being spontaneous and adventurous striving for excellence, getting the most out of life.And as I get older the more "boring" people get, and in my view this shouldnt be happening untill your late 30's or 40's.
We're young this is the time to be living your dreams or at least try to.
Trust me on this one: A person shouldn't lose their spontaneity, quest for excellence or desire to get the most out of their life in their late 30s or 40s or for that matter in their 50s, 60s, 70s or 80s. You're only as old as you make yourself to be. Sure, you slow down as you age and there's always the threat of senility eventually setting in or, worse yet, full blown Alzheimer's. But staying young at heart and striving for the best you possibly can throughout your entire life is one of the best tonics for avoiding the debilities of advanced age.
You mention the difficulty of obtaining a US Green Card, well don't let that keep you from trying. And for God's sake don't marry a US citizen solely for the purpose of gaining entrance to the country. What I am saying is don't let life's stumbling blocks and barriers stand in your way. Work at them, tear them down, find a path to your goal. And never listen to anyone who says it can't be done, it can
always be done. During my working career I served a stint in line management. To achieve the goal that had been set before me my section needed a substantial upgrade to our facility's infrastructure. I was told by all levels of our organization's management that it simply couldn't be done. So, with approval from the highest level of management in my chain of command, I went beyond that level. I made my case, sold the justification and in short order had the upgrade. In other words, I
got done what "couldn't be done." Yet all around me I constantly saw other managers simply succumbing to the common wisdom that certain things just couldn't be done.
In short, never give in, never give up, never quit.