Is what my friend doing wrong?

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  1. dek158

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    I was casually talking with my friend (we talk about everything) the other day, and he just jokingly mention that he gave his "talk" to his son about sex who is like 12 (pretty late I think in this day and age). He gave his son a list of harmless sites that teach about masturbation, which I respect, and think a parent should consider letting their kids know about. However, he also mentioned to him jelqing and gave a site for it. I think it's sort of weird to try to give size advice a kid. I know that all of this together is none of my business, but is it appropriate to give your kid advice about jelqing especially since there is risk of injury? Should I do talk to him about reconsidering his choice or is that their business altogether? I don't want to have to have a conversation in a year with him dealing to his son having nerve damage (or whatever damage you can get from jelqing) and him having to go to a doctor.
     
  2. IntoxicatingToxin

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    Well, not only is it dangerous, but it's basically telling his 12 year old son that his cock probably isn't big enough. Talk about emotional scarring.
     
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    You know, my problem really isn't the fact that he is talking to his son about size stuff. My problem lies in the fact that he is telling his kid about jelquing when
    1) it can hurt the penis
    2) it isn't even 100% for sure,
    3) is gonna make the kid self concious.

    Your friend sounds like an idiot. Why would anyone advice jelquing before some growing has occured?
     
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    Bingo!!
     
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    Yeah, I'm going to talk to him. It seems much worse now that I take into account self consciousness. I guess it would be the equivalency of a parent telling her daughter that she should throw up, maybe not. I'll tell him. It's sort one of these things where you really look at someone's judgement and it's really just a shock. Thanks for the help. Hopefully his kid hasn't gone online yet.
     
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    The father seems to be insecure about his own penis size or he wouldn't be worried about how his son is gonna turn out size wise. Now he has done what many fathers do. He has passed down the idea of being insecure about penis size even though he will probably turn out to be at least avg size and or bigger.
     
  7. JMeister

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    Where do you folks get off telling others how to raise their kids?

    I am sure we can all find things 'wrong' with the way in which others raise their kids.

    I thinks sports ARE dangerous. If you let your kid play a contact sport I am going to call the DSS!

    What's wrong with teaching your kids about sexuality instead of sticking your head up your ass and letting him/her find out about from other kids that know little?
     
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    I have to say that I disagree with you completely. Firstly there is a big difference between a child playing sports and to not only give your child advice on how to jelq, but to give him a site and "leave him to his own devices". When children participate in sports, they play in teams with and are coached with approaches adequate for that specific age group. What this father did, was to basically tell his son that it's fine to play rugby with the National rugby squad.

    There are also the medical issues involved and the types of damage that comes with it. Would you teach your son about HIV/Aids and then give him a syringe filled with HIV infected blood and tell him to run along and play? Same principle...and in all honesty, if you don't find something wrong with this scenario, then I humbly urge you to have a vasectomy.

    On the topic of emotional scarring. I was circumcised at a young age, my Mom was a single mother and detected that I was aware of what had been done to me. She tried to make light of it by referring to my penis as her "little button". It made me deeply self conscious and insecure about my penis. I not only felt inadequate (from a size issue) but I was even more aware about the fact that I was circumcised. To this day you will not find me willing to expose my genitals in front of people...that unwillingness almost led to my not getting married.

    I assert the possibility that the only person suffering from tunnel vision (when it comes to this conversation), is the person pointing fingers at everybody else.
     
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    The title of the thread is a request for advice.
     
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    May I ask you where the father is teaching the child about sexuality? He is teaching his child how to jelq his penis without having a clue about the size of the child's penis. Heck, is it even safe to do those excersizes on a penis that has barely started to grow?
     
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    Normally jelquing is something one might recommend to an individual who may be having size issues that may interfere with their sex lives, or to a full grown adult who feels the need to 'pack a little extra' between the legs. Someone feel free to explain to me how this could be beneficial in any way to a 12 year old. I find it to be an unfortunate intrusion on a childs natural development.
     
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    I think you are right Josiah852. The OP's friend may have meant well; but he has probably done more harm than good. There is no reason to tell a 12 year old how to do penis enlargement exercises.
     
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    I agree with you...
     
  14. JMeister

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    biguy2738 - you are correct. Sports are supervised right down to some parents encouraging their kids to act in a manner that is both illegal to the sport and causes significant injury to other children.



    I have a difficult time believing that the friend told his son here's a bunch of web sites, have fun, but don't ever come talk to me about this.

    None of us have the sufficient details of the situation yet we all feel that we know enough to pass judgement on the situation.

    If you think Jelquing is fine but 12 is the wrong age what is the right age and why?

    If you feel jelquing is dangerous if done wrong perhaps the discussion with the friend should be more along the lines of "Did you know if your son doesn't Jelq properly you could ruin your erections for life? Do you think your son will do enough research on the web to do it properly..."

    That's my advice. Ask your friend a bunch of questions about it in a non threatening way to see how likely the child is to hurt himself and if you don't like the answers encourage your friend in a directoin you are more comfortable with liking in some way having the father supervise the activity.

    Perhaps the father has a small penis, is subconscious about it and wants to do everything that he knows how to do to prevent his some from the same fate.
     
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    JMeister, though I don't expect my opinion to be of any consequence to you at all - we don't know each other and haven't had any contact with each other up till now. For the record, I would like to say that I prefer this post more than your first one...and I have gained a lot of respect for you because of it. You have proven that at times it is beneficial to BOTH parties to disagree on a topic. Thank you for coming back and clarifying what your position is and why.
     
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