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Originally posted by Spank_The_Monkey+Nov 30 2004, 01:55 AM--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Spank_The_Monkey @ Nov 30 2004, 01:55 AM)</div><div class='quotemain'><!--QuoteBegin-GorgeousJane@Nov 21 2004, 11:24 PM
Personally, I think it should be discussed before a relationship moves onto a sexual level, because there'd be nothing worse for both sides to only find out that the woman isn't able to take his penis when the guy is erect and 'ready'.
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Brings back painful memories lol
I think it is an important issue but sometimes its kinda awkward bringing that kinda stuff up. I'm very well hung and so I'm well aware that I could hurt a girl, but I've only had one serious gf that i wanted to go further with and I kept it to myself cos I didn't know how to bring it up.
We were both virgins so we waited about 3 months before we decided we wanted our first time to be with each other, but when she did see the size of my penis she wouldn't take it in case it hurt or damaged her, which may well have been the case because I'm inexperienced yet pretty huge and she was a virgin, which is never a healthy combination lol
There have been girls since then who i've started to like but when i tell them my size and ask if its a problem the most common response is being called arrogant or big-headed, which is unfair because i've even explained the reason why I bring it up.
Anyway, I digress. I think that although it may be awkward, you should try and being up the subject as early as possible to avoid a repeat of my scenario. It may be embarassing but its a damn sight better than losing a girl who you've developed real feelings for
Oh and btw, whoever said that they didn't like being 7" cos its small, trust me it isn't. Most normal girls would love it, your cock is pretty big. Being huge, which I class as being 10" or over, isn't as nice as it sounds lol. Count yourself lucky
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Spank, you seem like a great, caring, patient guy and you need to appreciate all the good you have to offer.
You can deflower a woman, and you can prevent physical damage. The key is preparation. Not necessarily bringing up the topic out of the blue, but as you kiss, fondle, and make out with the girl your size will become clear at some point and that is when women give you what I call, "The Look". "The Look" is when she realizes that is not a Kielbasa in your pants, or a sock stuffed in your underwear or any of the other things that I'm sure guys on here have heard. This is the point at which you should bare yourself and start the discussion.
All the women that I have slept with have seen me naked and inspected the goods before agreeing to do the deed. Make them comfortable with your equipment, and make them comfortable with trusting you to stop if they get at all uncomfortable. Let them touch your penis and get comfortable with it in advance of any anticipated sex.
Take your time getting to know the person, then getting to know each others bodies. After all this is accomplished you can try to have sex if you like all that you've found.
Note I said "try" because you may not be successful on the first try, or the first try may be really uncomfortable for her, you, or both of you. According to a reliable source of mine, "If someone told you the first time with you wasn't at least uncomfortable if not painful, then she lied to you honey."
The girl who told me this was a great girl, and a really tight fit, but with patience, lubricant, understanding and more lubricant we were able to work her up to larger parts of my anatomy (e.g. one finger, two fingers) until we made things work. Truth is, with an average girl and an endowed guy the first time is more about learning than pleasure.
As an aside, the phrase "size queen" seems to be used as an insult. It shouldn't be, especially in these parts. There are some women that can handle endowed men, and we need to appreciate those women instead of insulting them. They accept us and our longcomings and they would just be another scared little girl if some hung guy hadn't taken the time to show them the ropes. Be that guy Spank.
