Is your own dick your visual standard of size?

Discussion in 'Sex With a Large Penis' started by Calboner, Sep 14, 2007.

  1. Calboner

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    I am curious about how men who are hung perceive the size of other men's penises. My question is: Are your impressions of the size of other men's penises determined by an implicit comparison with your own? In other words, do other guys look "big," "small," or "medium" in size to you according to whether their dicks are bigger than, smaller than, or comparable in size to your own?

    Two points of clarification: (1) My question concerns your impression of the size of other men's penises, not any attempt that you may make to judge size objectively, relative to a known or conjectured statistical average. (2) I am asking as much about your impression of dicks in pictures (as in pornography) as of dicks in real life.

    I pose the question because I know -- though it took me years to figure it out -- that my own impressions are biased: to me, any dick much smaller than my own looks "small," though I now know that, as a matter of statistics, the dick in question could be of medium or even larger-than-average size. When I began viewing hardcore pornography (not nearly as easily available when I was a young man as it is now), I was perplexed that many of the male models or actors looked to me rather poorly endowed. It took years for me to figure out that my impressions of what was "big" or "small" were completely at odds with statistical realities. This is probably true of many men today, but in my case it was not because I had seen a lot of porn (I hadn't, and besides that, as I said, not many of the dicks in porn looked big to me), but just because I was implicitly estimating the size of others by comparison with my own. I wonder if this happens with other guys.

    Finally, I have a question for those who are really big, if any of them happen to read this post -- and by "really big," I mean, say, at least as big as Nacho Vidal or Rocco Siffredi; or, if a measurement is required, let's say over 8" in length and 6" in girth (and I mean real inches, measured without cheating, not internet inches). I wonder whether, to you, almost all the men in porn look small or medium-sized, and what effect, if any, this has on your enjoyment of porn. For my part, no matter how hot the chick is (I am thinking, of course, of "straight" porn), if the guy's dick looks "small" to me, which means smaller than what I've got, the video or pictures will most likely have no appeal for me.
     
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    Yes, I compare cocks to my own when considering size. Especially in the glans and testicle areas. And yes, I consider cocks slight bigger than mine as big. Anything 2 inches bigger than mine, in length, is huge. Anything .75" above my girth is huge, to me. Anything (sorry guys) 2 inches less than my length is small. Anything .5" in girth less than mine is skinny (again, sorry... but hey).

    I like the way my cock feels in my hand but I'm always wanting more. Seeing ones that are bigger, imagining holding them... yea. :x

    I'm a little under the "really big" requirement, though. D=
     
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    I'm a decent size........not HUUUUUUUUUGE but yes I do tend to judge a guy by my size.

    Funny enough, like you, if im watching a porn and they guy isnt as big as me it's not as thrilling because you think, hey it's a porn star they should be at least my size or bigger......
     
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    my dick used to be my standard of size, that' why i though i had an average dick, because it was the only one i saw other than porn.
     
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    Yah, I remember, one time watching porn with some friends, I scoffed about how small this guy was, and my friend chastised me - rightly so, I didn't think about the fact that the guy could very well have been bigger than some of my friends in the room.

    Also, I'm totally not turned on by porn where the guy is smaller than me... men are fucking weird.
     
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    Yeah for the most part, the majority of the guys in porn are smaller than me. The stars (that I know of) that are my size or bigger, in both length and girth, I can count on one hand. And yes, if i see a girl getting nailed by a guy smaller than me, (depending on how hot she is), it isn't as appealing. IMO, porn is fantasy and part of the fantasy element (to me) is that I am the one fucking the hot girl. The hot girl, and fucking her with a big dick is the fantasy. It's never been a fantasy of mine (or for most guys) to have a smaller penis lol. Personally, I feel that the how hot the girl is, is what appeals to me most, so if it's a smaller guy than me fucking a girl that i really find sexy, than I could care less. But yes, it would be better if he was my size or bigger.

    Also, alot of the times it seems when these porn chicks get fucked with average-sized penises, they don't enjoy it as much, and the girl's satisfaction, arousal, and enjoyment is crucial to me. I think it is EXTRA HOT if they are genuinely enjoying it.
     
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    You pose some fascinating questions and make some interesting observations, as is expected of you Calboner!
    First let me say that I too use my own cock as my metric and have always felt that most porn stars were smaller and thinner than I...with several exceptions.
    I invariably find the porn cock to be too slender to please my expectations and I almost always find it to look shorter than my expectations.
    It is difficult to use myself as a standard, because my proportions in no way represent anything which can remotely be described as normal. The head of my erect cock is hugely oversized, measuring about 28% of the total length of my cock and the girth of my cock is so enormous at the base that I have never seen another which equals it.
    So Calboner, my 9 inch cock with 8 inch base girth and 2.5 inch long head
    does cause me to get the impression that many porn cocks are just too small and consequently, only the extremely large ones turn me on! One guy who could consistently impress me was John Holmes. ....we were very similar in girth, but his cock was close to 10 inches in length!
     
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    it definitely is... which is why i still get the notion in my head that im not very large.
     
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    well yeah, i use my own as comparasion, but in the same light a big cock is a big cock am i right?
     
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    In answer to your first question, yes.

    In respect to your last point it does minimize the stuff I find "noteworthy". For example, can't tell how many posts I clicked on here where someone wrote "wow look at this" only to be (too often) somewhat disappointed. This is not only because of a comparison to my own size but a comparison to what (over the years) I've already seen (in porn and online). I think for all of us it becomes increasingly difficult to be "impressed".
     
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    I think it's tough for most guys to not do that. The only true barometer we have is our own penises. I'll admit that it's tougher for me to be impressed by dicks shorter than mine or especially ones with lesser girth. Hardness plays a serious role too in whether I'm really impressed or not. Never really thought about it before, but I now know it's there. I figure most guys in porn have more then my length and a girth equal to me or more, so I don't have much problems with porn.
     
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    Yes.

    EVERYONE IS HUNG LIKE A HORSE!
     
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    I most certainly find that if watching porn and the guy is smaller than me, it genreally does not appeal to me. I do tend to judge others by my own cock, versus that of the standard measurements.
     
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    I often use my own dick as a measuring stick...however, I also have to keep in mind what the societal norm is and refer to that.

    Superslam...I am not sure what you are looking at, but based on those pics, I'm not sure what dicks you are looking at that gives you the notion that you are not very large...looks large to me!!!
     
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    Yeah, I tend to judge against my own, both in length/girth and in overall looks. Cocks that are uncut or generally have different ratios/proportions, I'm not too likely to like or want.
     
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    Yep and here is the thing...it is amazing how many ''9, 10 and 11'' penises look smaller than my 8'' penis...I am sure many others have noticed the slight, or large exaggerations....
     
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    EXACTLY! I think that one advantage (however trivial) of having a big dick is that it makes it easy to call "Fake" on all the guys showing dicks no larger than one's own and claiming measurements significantly larger.
     
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    If it's bad porn, it's easy to dismiss it solely because of the size of the guy's dick. If it's good porn, I could care less how big he is.

    Since the majority of porn out there is mediocre.....


    Seriously though, nothing gets me hotter than watching a little guy do a bunny rabbit imitation. The little guys do work harder and sometimes that's pretty hot to watch. Some of the big guys are only too aware of the status their dick size bestows on them and their porn can be painfully boring.

    I would never dismiss it based on the size of the guy's dick.
     
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    I've never compared anyone else to me, because I've always considered myself out of proportion. My own father told me so when I was much younger.

    So I can appreciate a smaller penis if it's proportionate to a guy's frame.

    I cannot help those who tried to compare themselves to me, however. My older cousin wanted to kick my ass the day his brother told him that I was bigger than him.

    It was never a contest for me, so I tried to avoid comparisons at all costs.

    I did have a good friend a few years back who caught me coming out of the shower in the gym. He laughed and said "please don't tell Tami (his wife) about how big you are, because when I say I'm going to get a little bit I mean I'm going to give her a little bit." And he dropped his towel, and I was surprised to see how small his penis was. But I would never presume superiority over anyone just because I have a larger organ, nor would I capitalize on a situation with it.
     
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