There is a dilemma I am currently experiencing. My girlfriend wants to move in with me this year. I want to transfer to Journalism this year. However, my transfer isn't guaranteed since I don't have enough 'points' to get on the course (am 20 short, which isnt much but it also doesnt meet the requirement). Also I need to give a reference on the transfer form, from one of my tutors. None of them will give me a 'good' reference because I missed a lot of class. The course I am/was on wasn't one I wanted. I would have preferred an English course, like the one I'm trying to get onto now. The only reason I picked business was because my ex wanted me to come to uni just to be closer to her. Since I didn't have enough points to do journalism, I picked a course that it was guaranteed I would get onto. As immature and stupid as it was, the main reason was to be able to see my ex...the actual impact and consequence of uni never really hit me. So now I am at uni, I would like to get onto a journalism course. I phoned up my old college about doing a resit of an exam to get enough points. They haven't got back to me but I'll phone them tomorrow. I emailed someone (sort of a counsellor type thing) at uni and asked her if it would be better to explain to a tutor then get their reference or what other options were available to me. I emailed her two nights ago and she hasn't replied either. Just no my girlfriend 'anonymously' posted a thread about me on another forum. The situation, "business course...he's 20...wanting to transfer to journalism" gave away that it was her. For some reason I really don't like that. I don't like to tell people my problems, or for people to think that I have any problems at all in fact. Although I know I have quite a few severe 'problems'. I'm thinking now that I'm 20, should have my life on some kind of track and not stuck at the side of the road. I think that having some time to myself, sans girlfriend, to find myself and decide what I want and to find the motivation or energy to do it would be good. But my girlfriend would be gutted, and we wouldn't be living together this year. So if I did transfer in September I'd have nowhere to live...One major problem is I always fail to apply or to notice a sense of importance or urgency to anything. I think maybe because my mother told me my father was dead and it turned out he isn't. That was quite an important thing (at least to me) so I think maybe after that I saw a lot of things as being unimportant...but I'm not a psychologist. Help me please? Some advice or something?