Issue with a woman (enormous penis involved- not mine)

[CanadaDude30]

This is something that's driving me crazy, and I don't even know why...maybe you guys (or girls) could give me some insight? Please help!!

I'll try to keep this short...

I'm a 30-year-old Canadian guy (hence the nicname) and I met this 32-year old European girl at work a couple months ago. We started having coffee, lunches, etc. And it wasn't long before we started taking about relationships and sex. Things were going well...

So one day she brought up (I don't remember how) that several years ago, she saw her friend Robert's penis while drinking at a party - and it was 'enormous'. She said it was so unbelievably thick and long that there was no way she could ever have sex with him, so she declined his invitation.

A couple weeks later, we start having sex. it's fantastic, and she says that I'm 'very big' and give her incredible orgasms. Which of course makes me feel great, because hey, I'm a guy and it's all about the ego-stroke for us.

Over the following 8 weeks or so we continue to have great conversations - and sex - and every time the issue of size comes up (whether it's as a joke, while we're watching porn, etc.) she would joke that Robert's was SO massive, and bigger than any porn star she'd ever seen. This didn't bother me, and for whatever reason we would both laugh about it.

So anyway, last week we're lying in bed after a great session, and we start to casually talk about our past lovers. Size comes up, and I ask who was the 'biggest' she'd ever had, and she said "OK, fine - I never told you this before, but I slept with Robert a couple years ago". She said that she didn't want to intimidate me, so she lied before. And then proceeded to explain that it was not enjoyable, but very painful with Robert - and that she was crying because it hurt so badly.

NOW, for whatever reason, I can't stop thinking about this guy with the ENORMOUS cock that she had sex with. Even though mine is pretty large (almost 9"), I still have this feeling that she'll always be thinking about this gargantuan dick that nearly tore her in half.

Why even bring this up at all if it wasn't enjoyable for her? She obviously thinks about it all the time since it was 5 years ago?! And why the lies? We weren't even having sex at the time when she first brought it up, so what was all the secrecy about?

I don't know...for the first time in my life I'm starting to feel inadequate with a woman. I can handle the fact that maybe an ex had 1" or even 2" on me - but I'm freaked out by the fact that this guy who is hung like an elephant banged my girlfriend, and literally half a decade later she's still talking about it like it was the defining moment of her life (yet denying she enjoyed it).

GOOD LORD...please someone help. Anyone.

Please.

Thank you in advance.

 

[Wonderboy]

I don't know if she THINKS about it all the time or if you seem to having a lot of sexy convos and end up TALKING about size, which obviously gets to Robert since he stands out.

As for some feeling of inadequacy that you may have - she isn't with Robert. Sex was PAINFUL and made her CRY. That is not a good experience. Although I have never made a girl cry, and am likely nowhere near as large as 'Rob the Knob' hehe, I've been refused sex a few times because of the stretching that happens, which is painful.

Anyway, you have a BIG cock that she enjoys, any bigger and YOU would be the one hurting her, making her cry after sex. Then she might leave you like she left Rob.

Just be happy with having sex with a (hot?) European girl. I bet you're the second biggest she's seen. Which isn't bad. Considering a penis is something you're born with and really should have no impact on your life or happiness since life and happiness are both what you make them to be. Not what you were given at birth.

It would be pointless to worry about this Rob person, also remember girls are bad at judging size. It may not actually be all that big. He may also have been a shower.

But that doesn't matter. Just stop thinking about it and enjoy the present moment.

Yet more to add:

About talking about it...I talk a lot to people I just met about this scar on my throat, my being premature and having died four times. Not because its always on my mind, in fact it never is. It's just interesting and extraordinary. If you talk about past partners and sex a lot don't be surprised that Robert keeps coming up.

Change the subject! Talk about something else, don't watch so much porn (if you watch it together that is)

 

[stud_hunter]

Forget about it. The other guy's cock size doesn't matter. It's amazing how many guys worry and fret about their woman having had some bigger guy. Who cares? Worrying about that shows a lot of insecurity, and it's silly. Not to mention unattractive.
I generally prefer large ones but probably the best sex I've ever had was with a guy who is about average. He actually made me cum so mercilessly that on a couple of occasions I cried from it. So my point is sure, being on the large size can be an advantage but being insecure about your cock size is a turn-off and pointless, and I know among the women I'm not alone in this.

 

[Stretch]

Sorry but I sense a not very sincere story here...believe it if u want to

 

[stud_hunter]

Sorry but I sense a not very sincere story here...believe it if u want to

Yup it does sound like some guy's fantasy, doesn't it.

 

[yhtang]

Yours may not be the biggest she had seen, but she enjoyed it.

Do you plan to tell her about the tightest vagina you have ever penetrated or the biggest tits you have ever sucked? No? Then skip being bothered by each other's past experiences; enjoy the present relationship.

And I wish you the best.

 

[GoneA]

I say worry more about yourself and less about things that aren't yourself.

 

[B_Spladle]

YSSCKYwhitetext

 

[D_Elijah_MorganWood]

Chances are almost any guy does not have the biggest cock his partner has ever seen. I suspect you steered the conversation to size on more than one occasion. She didn't tell you because of the way most men react when women are honest about this question which is the way you reacted. This is where women are basically fucked. They have to coo ooh baby, you're the biggest and best I've ever had. If she's honest she has to be prepared to face the consequences at the hands of the male ego.

Bottom line is this: if you can't handle the answer, don't ask. Just be grateful she's fucking you.

 

[Stretch]

Are u people actually taking this serious or just looking for an oppurtunity to pontificate? Kudos for the support. That's why we're here, but it seems like to much effort to respond to this when there are a few real people here who actually do need support. I guess I'm also guilty of wasting too many brain cells here...so...

 

[Stretch]

oops...opportunity and too much effort. Sorry...It's 6 in the morning here. When I need to proofread it's time to go to bed...Goodnight

 

[D_Elijah_MorganWood]

Are u people actually taking this serious or just looking for an oppurtunity to pontificate? Kudos for the support. That's why we're here, but it seems like to much effort to respond to this when there are a few real people here who actually do need support. I guess I'm also guilty of wasting too many brain cells here...so...

1. Statements like ...or just looking for an opportunity to pontificate... will make you exactly 2 friends here.
2. Using chatspeak in an open forum is annonying.
3. Use the edit key and you can fix the typos I highlighted.

 

[CanadaDude30]

Wonderboy: yes, I think she is very hot. And the sex is mind-blowing. I will definitely try to continue enjoying the moment!

stud_hunter, yhtang, GoneA: thanks for the comments guys (and girl).

Sorcerer: you're right - I should be grateful. And I am.

Stretch: this is a true story (does it really sound made-up?) so, well...believe it or not I suppose. Your choice.


I guess what everyone is getting at is that I should just be happy about my current situation, and not let the past bother me. Which is great advice for any situation in life, I suppose.

Maybe it's just the way that the information presented itself that threw me off? I just didn't know why she felt the need to lie about it.

And I've never been insecure about my size before, but this scenario is just stuck in my head. And not that it matters so much to me (re: her previous lover), but I can't help but think she always has it in the back of her mind when she's with me now, and that maybe she didn't hate it as much as she wants me to believe.

Anyway, some pretty great advice - I'm going to follow it as much as I can, and keep thinking about the present, not the past.

Thank you very much for all your responses.

 

[transformer_99]

Maybe you got that story as an incentive to try harder to stay at your erect best for her throughout the sessions that you have with her ? I think they tell you that so you put in the extra effort. Just my opinion though. I know during halftime of a Monday Night Football game, I'll either start to lose interest and want to get back in time to watch the opening 2nd half kickoff. No tv in the bedroom for me, just a rule I have and now that football is on Monday, Thursday, Saturday's and Sunday's, there's only so much you can do during halftime. Besides, hockey's better for it, you get 20 minutes in between each of the three periods. So you can still put in a solid performance and still have time to get a sandwich and a drink.

 

[B_Spladle]

w/e, I still say YSSCKY.

 

[SurferGirlCA]

If this is a true story, it's bizarre for several reasons. First of all, why would she bring up her friend Robert's penis in a conversation with you? Even if you had started hanging out and talking about relationships, that seems like a totally random topic. Secondly, if you have a 9" penis, you really need to think about how silly it is for you to be concerned about your penis being inadequate, at least in terms of size. If she says the sex is great with you, why not just take her at her word? If she keeps bringing up Robert's penis, then call her on it.

I sometimes think men think a lot more about penis size than women do - and I love a big guy. :tongue:

 

[Stretch]

Hey Sorcerer...If you weren't so busy trying to judge you would have noticed I checked myself in the next post. Thank you for pointing out, however, and speaking for everyone else here, when you tell me that BIG words like pontificate will cause me to be ostricised. Excuse me...cause me to be unpopular. Thanks for the tips. Oh...and by the way...Using chatspeak in an open forum is annonying.??? Have fun

 

[averagepeck]

Tell her you'd rather not discuss past experiences,especially if she's gonna continue to bring up something that obviously affects you.At your size, the odds are slim that she'll have seen many larger than you. If you can accept that your dick is not the biggest in the world,and it isn't,then it shouldn't be too difficult to accept that a woman you're intimate with may have had a larger cock.If your dick isn't over 10 inches, there's a chance a woman,especially one who may have had several partners,will have come across one or two whoppers.Oh well,life goes on.

I don't have the biggest cock my GF has fucked,and she doesn't have the biggest tits,firmest ass,or tightest pussy I've had sex with.So what,we fuck each other's brains out like it's no tomorrow. Concentrate more on giving her orgasm after orgasm and less on something trivial and which you cannot control.

 

[Hung Low in Thiva]

She probably has been doing this other guy on the side and that is why she cant stop talking about it

 

[B_Spladle]

Hey Sorcerer...If you weren't so busy trying to judge you would have noticed I checked myself in the next post. Thank you for pointing out, however, and speaking for everyone else here, when you tell me that BIG words like pontificate will cause me to be ostricised. Excuse me...cause me to be unpopular. Thanks for the tips. Oh...and by the way...Using chatspeak in an open forum is annonying.??? Have fun

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