Issue with a woman (enormous penis involved- not mine)

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CanadaDude30,
This situation would bother me too if I were in your shoes. It seems to me that she was less than honest with you to begin with. First she said that she could never have sex with him because it would hurt and then admitted later on that she DID do the nasty with him. She misled you.
I'd be thinking, well what does she really think about me? I think there is more going on here than just the sex between you two. Just my thoughts.:rolleyes:
 

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allmale said:
CanadaDude30,
This situation would bother me too if I were in your shoes. It seems to me that she was less than honest with you to begin with. First she said that she could never have sex with him because it would hurt and then admitted later on that she DID do the nasty with him. She misled you.
I'd be thinking, well what does she really think about me? I think there is more going on here than just the sex between you two. Just my thoughts.:rolleyes:


Amen. And a lot of great comments here on this thread...

Many women are simply full of shit, for the sole purpose of establishing some sort of control or power in the relationship that they percieve that they lack in the first place. In simple terms: head games.

Women know the the exact composition of the male ego, and that ego is almost entirely of the phallic. With that being said, the penis issue is the proverbial carrot daggling in front of the pack mule. She knows that you will ALWAYS chase the idea of bettering this mystery-man with the monster cock that may (but probably has not) has existed. And the more you chase that carrot...the more you try to do better and better...the more you will please her. Further, by taking you down a notch, she understands that this will weaken your ability to take pride in yourself and she can control your ego and emotions with a simple tug on those puppet strings. She both loves this, and she also hates this. Lastly...she is TESTING you my friend. Women DO NOT want a weak, insecure little nancy-boy that they can walk all over. They want you to be the alpha-male that goes above and beyond. Until you prove yourself the latter, she will try to see if she can break you. And if you break...your done. This is simply the 21st Century female engaging in natural selection.

Of course it is always possible that she has had bigger, but after 7 inches in length and above average girth the chances are getting rather slim to be honest. If your an honest 9 inches, than this "Robert" probably once ran in the Kentucky Derby and eats oats out of a muzzle:wink:

...OB
 

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Women are always going the roundabout way, when the straightforward way would do. Not that guys don't, but there's this filter over some women's brains that only lets part of reality through. She probably doesn't even know she's doing it. It's just her manner, although I agree people can be mindlessly manipulative. They don't even know the meaning of the word, but they get some rise out of it, so it is reinforcing.

Have her invite Robert over so you can get the real story.
 

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Europeans can be considerably more candid than North Americans.

You're having fantastic sex, you have a big cock. She may just think that having got to know you and to enjoy great sex with you, that you shouldn't have a problem that she once encountered a monster that was too big for her.

Why can't women be mesmerised by enormous cocks?
 

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Lordpendragon said:
Europeans can be considerably more candid than North Americans.

You're having fantastic sex, you have a big cock. She may just think that having got to know you and to enjoy great sex with you, that you shouldn't have a problem that she once encountered a monster that was too big for her.

Why can't women be mesmerised by enormous cocks?

I found that to be totally accurate - Europeans are far more candid and open about sex (and many other things). Hence the reason I date women from Europe. ;)

And you're right that we are having incredible sex, so I shouldn't be so concerned with her previous experiences. After all, she's not with Robert now, she's with me.

OmahaBeef, you're right as well: women DON'T want an insecure little nancy-boy, so I'm going to just continue to move forward and leave the past behind.

I do have a natural curiosity about other men's size (who doesn't?) but I don't consider myself inscure about my endowment. I'm no Rocco Stiffardi in the girth department or anything, but I think I'm doing pretty well for myself, and I've had no complaints.

And I HAVE had other girlfriends say "My ex was the same size" or marginally larger, etc. But as I said, this situation just threw me off.

Anyway, you guys have posted some excellent comments (for the most part) so thanks to those who have replied.
 

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Yep, glad OmahaBeef mentioned - this is the classic woman's mind game. Come up with a mystery man who is has a larger penis than you... who already has an extremely large penis.

I have women try this on me more than once with people I know - all of which turned out to be drastically false. It's just a head game man, she's trying to get you to "really" want to please her.
 

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CanadaDude30 said:
So one day she brought up that several years ago, she saw her friend Robert's penis while drinking at a party - and it was 'enormous'. She said it was so unbelievably thick and long that she declined his invitation....she said "OK, fine - I never told you this before, but I slept with Robert a couple years ago". She said that she didn't want to intimidate me, so she lied before. And then proceeded to explain that it was not enjoyable, but very painful with Robert....Why even bring this up at all if it wasn't enjoyable for her? She obviously thinks about it all the time since it was 5 years ago?! And why the lies? We weren't even having sex at the time when she first brought it up, so what was all the secrecy about? ...this guy who is hung like an elephant banged my girlfriend, and literally half a decade later she's still talking about it like it was the defining moment of her life (yet denying she enjoyed it).

She lied before, she is lying again. Yes, she enjoyed it.
I went through a similar pattern with my wife years ago, not regarding size but regarding her having slept with another guy. First she said she didn't. Then she later admitted she did, but only once. Still later, she admitted it was a couple of times. Later still, it was an affair that went on for months. Then she later admitted she and he thought they were in love...
I can't understand this kind of thinking, that confessing your lies bit by bit is somehow better than just fessing up all at once. I found it awful! And it damaged my trust for her forever. It sounds to me you have a g/f with exactly the same sliding definition of "truth."
Trust your intuition: obviously you know that she is obsessed with the experience because she loved it. She's trying to stay with you, but after supressing her desire for Robert's schlong for so long, she has gone through all kinds of mental gymnastics and it's finally becoming too much for her to bear. The bit about it hurting so much it made her cry is really laying it on thick (she cried all right--"Oh Robert!" she cried). She'll either leave you a note someday that she's run off with him, or you two will have to bring all this out into the open and deal directly with it.
 

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OmahaBeef said:
Many women are simply full of shit, for the sole purpose of establishing some sort of control or power in the relationship that they percieve that they lack in the first place. In simple terms: head games.

...She knows that you will ALWAYS chase the idea of bettering this mystery-man with the monster cock that may (but probably has not) has existed. And the more you chase that carrot...the more you try to do better and better...the more you will please her. Further, by taking you down a notch, she understands that this will weaken your ability to take pride in yourself and she can control your ego and emotions with a simple tug on those puppet strings. ......OB

This may be a correct analysis, but it's also possible she just REALLY loves you, but also REALLY loves Robert's cock, and is so confused by the conflict that she can't resolve it and actually thinks that by lying she will spare your feelings. Only she also hates to think she is a liar so she's starting to break down, dribbling out one admission at a time, like I said in my previous post.

In fact, the cynical view given by OB perfectly describes the last serious gf I had before my wife, who delighted in smashing my ego by telling me about a huge dicked partner she had after she dumped me for someone bigger. (The huge dicked guy came after the one who was just somewhat bigger.) She travelled halfway across the country to lay it on me in person. A real cunt.

But the other view, which I've given you, describes my wife, who truly didn't want to hurt me or control me, but just had a fucked upbringing when it came to understanding the importance of being honest.

Different women have different mindsets, reasoning, etc.
 

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The story turned bogus when the 9" was mentioned. :) Isn't there a fantasy section around here ?
 

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Standard Deviant said:
This may be a correct analysis, but it's also possible she just REALLY loves you, but also REALLY loves Robert's cock, and is so confused by the conflict that she can't resolve it and actually thinks that by lying she will spare your feelings. Only she also hates to think she is a liar so she's starting to break down, dribbling out one admission at a time, like I said in my previous post.

In fact, the cynical view given by OB perfectly describes the last serious gf I had before my wife, who delighted in smashing my ego by telling me about a huge dicked partner she had after she dumped me for someone bigger. (The huge dicked guy came after the one who was just somewhat bigger.) She travelled halfway across the country to lay it on me in person. A real cunt.

But the other view, which I've given you, describes my wife, who truly didn't want to hurt me or control me, but just had a fucked upbringing when it came to understanding the importance of being honest.

Different women have different mindsets, reasoning, etc.
I wouldn't belive her if she "elighted in smashing your ego".
 

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stud_hunter said:
Forget about it. The other guy's cock size doesn't matter. It's amazing how many guys worry and fret about their woman having had some bigger guy. Who cares? Worrying about that shows a lot of insecurity, and it's silly. Not to mention unattractive.
I generally prefer large ones but probably the best sex I've ever had was with a guy who is about average. He actually made me cum so mercilessly that on a couple of occasions I cried from it. So my point is sure, being on the large size can be an advantage but being insecure about your cock size is a turn-off and pointless, and I know among the women I'm not alone in this.
Well its ego I bet the "best sex" you had with the aveage guys was becasuse he belived he was the biggest,eh?
 

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CanadaDude30 said:
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I'm a 30-year-old Canadian guy (hence the nicname) and I met this 32-year old European girl at work a couple months ago. We started having coffee, lunches, etc. And it wasn't long before we started taking about relationships and sex. it's fantastic, and she says that I'm 'very big' and give her incredible orgasms. Which of course makes me feel great, because hey, I'm a guy and it's all about the ego-stroke for us.

Over the following 8 weeks or so we continue to have great conversations - and sex - and every time the issue of size comes up (whether it's as a joke, while we're watching porn, etc.) she would joke that Robert's was SO massive, and bigger than any porn star she'd ever seen. This didn't bother me, and for whatever reason we would both laugh about it.

So anyway, last week we're lying in bed after a great session, and we start to casually talk about our past lovers. Size comes up, and I ask who was the 'biggest' she'd ever had, and she said &quot;OK, fine - I never told you this before, but I slept with Robert a couple years ago&quot;. She said that she didn't want to intimidate me, so she lied before. And then proceeded to explain that it was not enjoyable, but very painful with Robert - and that she was crying because it hurt so badly.

NOW, for whatever reason, I can't stop thinking about this guy with the ENORMOUS cock that she had sex with. Even though mine is pretty large (almost 9&quot;), I still have this feeling that she'll always be thinking about this gargantuan dick that nearly tore her in half.
1) Don't worry about it. First you're Canadian (unless your from Quebec then your canadien) assumeing Robert is European you're got nothing to worry about. 2) Larger guys are rare, so if she's sleep with someone bigger, just figure she slept with too many people _ this may backfire I had girl friend who said big dicks where her thing she acutally ask me to show it to her bcause she belived that only very dark skinned people could "satisfy" her. So I got on to go home not willing to show (I'm a grower). But she called be back and we "did it", A litte later she called me (I was out of the country) to say she breaking up, she's meant a Marine an Black marines were great in bed. I since i was on travel she not just going to sit around. Later she told me he was very big and I said you should be happy and have a nice life. She said later told me he was small and fast and she had just said it all becasue she wanted me to be much more agressive.
Why even bring this up at all if it wasn't enjoyable for her? She obviously thinks about it all the time since it was 5 years ago?! And why the lies? We weren't even having sex at the time when she first brought it up, so what was all the secrecy about?

I don't know...for the first time in my life I'm starting to feel inadequate with a woman. I can handle the fact that maybe an ex had 1&quot; or even 2&quot; on me - but I'm freaked out by the fact that this guy who is hung like an elephant banged my girlfriend, and literally half a decade later she's still talking about it like it was the defining moment of her life (yet denying she enjoyed it).

GOOD LORD...please someone help. Anyone.

Please.

Thank you in advance.
Well she done the relationship a lot of harm, Ask her what does she plan to do, if you don't like the answer, slip out the back jack, make a new plan stan .....
 

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Desmond_decker said:
Well its ego I bet the "best sex" you had with the aveage guys was becasuse he belived he was the biggest,eh?

No, believe it or not, some men are not size-obsessed. The "best sex" I had with the "average guy" was because he knew how to use what he had. The issue of size never came up and I'm guessing he wasn't thinking about it either.