Issue With Ejaculating Too Quickly

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About a week ago I made a "friend" with benefits, so I literally just go over to her place, hang out for a bit, do my thing, hang out for a bit after that and then just leave. Anyway, the issue that I have is that I ejaculate very quickly to the point where I feel like I have no control. The first time it took me a few minutes to get fully hard, which I feel was just a bit of anxiety due to her being a new person, but I ejaculate within about a minute or two. Last night I went over again and got hard pretty quickly but ejaculated within 20 seconds of her wrapping her mouth around my cock. She pulled my foreskin back and worked my head, which I think is extremely sensitive due to being uncircumcised.

The last person I was with, which was a while ago, I was having the exact opposite issue, which was not being able to ejaculate at all. I would get instantly erect with her but then not be able to finish.

I'm not really all that worried about it but it's something that I want to improve upon if at all possible.
 

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Try to teach her to suck you with your foreskin forward... at least part of the time. I've always thought that oral should simulate vaginal intercourse... so your 'skin moving back and forth will let you last longer than foreskin "permanently" retracted.
 

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You'll always last longer the second time around. The next time you get together, after you get off, wait a bit and try again. Kind of like washing your hair, wash, rinse and repeat.
 
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Have you tried beating off before you go over to her place to fuck?

When I go over it's kind of spur of the moment, so no. I already jerk off a lot to begin with so unless I did it just before going over there it wouldn't make much of a difference, and if I did do that before hand I'd probably not be as up to it.
 
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For me this depends on who I’m with. Knew a girl once who was very average looking, but she could make me cum my pants within 5-10 seconds just by hugging me. No bullshit, I had to take pills to stop me from blowing early loads fucking her.

Been with other girls like strippers and hookers and I could not cum until after a one hour marathon fuck. And I had to cum myself.

It’s all about chemistry for me.

The other thing is how long a load you’re carrying. When’s the last time you’ve cum?

Tonight I’m challenging myself to not cum a two week load too early visiting a sexy hooker I’ve fucked once before. There’s a lot of chemistry between us so I hope I can last at least half an hour.
 

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The OP said he is not really worried about it, but I can’t help but wonder why not. It sure isn’t going to change until he does care. FWB means benefits for both parties. When I was younger and into someone really bad, I remember making a rule for myself that I would not cum until my partner did. It requires concentration, control and some work, but I acquired a new skill. If I had a FWB who was coming in one minute or two, I would change that status to “friends only “.
 
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Cumming beforehand just never seemed to work for me. I've been using this for maybe a month now and it's worked wonders, plus i didn't have to awkwardly go in to see a doctor.

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20 seconds?.. How does she react after that?.. Your done and out the door, right?

The only thing you can do is break up your session often.. Rotate positions and such.. In other words, she can't suck you for 20 seconds, period.. She can do it for 10 and then you need to switch.. Go down on her, finger her, massage her ass, suck a tit but get her away from your shooting cock.. Then go into banging her but pull out when you get the urge to cum.. Doesn't matter if it's only 10 seconds in or even 5.. You do not want to cum!

You go back to what I mentioned above.. Women love it all.. They don't like guys who cum fast and leave.. Pull out, suck her clit for a bit, finger bang her good and just back and forth dipping your cock in and stopping before you cum.. Your cock might/should prolong your blast each time you prevent it from happening.. And don't tell her you need to stop or, "I'm about to cum already", you'll sound like a pussy..

You just pull out and tell her her beasts look so damn good and move into sucking them.. You then bang her from behind , stop and play/lick her ass and tell her she has a nice ass too.. Whatever will prolong your cumming..If you don't find her attractive and it's all,about getting off then just go back to not caring like you said.. Blast off and leave..
 
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Do you do it more than once? Most men last longer second and third time around. Keep the party going.
 

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20 seconds?.. How does she react after that?.. Your done and out the door, right?

The only thing you can do is break up your session often.. Rotate positions and such.. In other words, she can't suck you for 20 seconds, period.. She can do it for 10 and then you need to switch.. Go down on her, finger her, massage her ass, suck a tit but get her away from your shooting cock.. Then go into banging her but pull out when you get the urge to cum.. Doesn't matter if it's only 10 seconds in or even 5.. You do not want to cum!

You go back to what I mentioned above.. Women love it all.. They don't like guys who cum fast and leave.. Pull out, suck her clit for a bit, finger bang her good and just back and forth dipping your cock in and stopping before you cum.. Your cock might/should prolong your blast each time you prevent it from happening.. And don't tell her you need to stop or, "I'm about to cum already", you'll sound like a pussy..

You just pull out and tell her her beasts look so damn good and move into sucking them.. You then bang her from behind , stop and play/lick her ass and tell her she has a nice ass too.. Whatever will prolong your cumming..If you don't find her attractive and it's all,about getting off then just go back to not caring like you said.. Blast off and leave..

Honestly, this is just a short term thing and not really something I'm looking to prolong, as I'm meeting other women that I actually see potential with. She texts me everyday asking for me to come over so she can give me a blowjob, most of the time I have other stuff going on that prevents me from going over there.

I think a lot of this is psychological, as I kind of just want to get in there, get it done and then leave. I've specifically told her that I'm not interested in anything more than just something casual and that I didn't want to lead her on. The long text messages I get indicate that she wants more than that, so I try to minimize the amount of time we spend together and now not going beyond her giving me bjs.
 
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Honestly, this is just a short term thing and not really something I'm looking to prolong, as I'm meeting other women that I actually see potential with. She texts me everyday asking for me to come over so she can give me a blowjob, most of the time I have other stuff going on that prevents me from going over there.

I think a lot of this is psychological, as I kind of just want to get in there, get it done and then leave. I've specifically told her that I'm not interested in anything more than just something casual and that I didn't want to lead her on. The long text messages I get indicate that she wants more than that, so I try to minimize the amount of time we spend together and now not going beyond her giving me bjs.
Sounds psychological. When I’m rushed or worried, the same thing happens to me sometimes.
 
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Honestly, this is just a short term thing and not really something I'm looking to prolong, as I'm meeting other women that I actually see potential with. She texts me everyday asking for me to come over so she can give me a blowjob, most of the time I have other stuff going on that prevents me from going over there.

I think a lot of this is psychological, as I kind of just want to get in there, get it done and then leave. I've specifically told her that I'm not interested in anything more than just something casual and that I didn't want to lead her on. The long text messages I get indicate that she wants more than that, so I try to minimize the amount of time we spend together and now not going beyond her giving me bjs.

It's likely all psychological. It doesn't sound like you're both communicating and on the same page. You also have extremely little actual experience. These factors all add up to what's going on now.
 

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20 seconds?.. How does she react after that?.. Your done and out the door, right?

The only thing you can do is break up your session often.. Rotate positions and such.. In other words, she can't suck you for 20 seconds, period.. She can do it for 10 and then you need to switch.. Go down on her, finger her, massage her ass, suck a tit but get her away from your shooting cock.. Then go into banging her but pull out when you get the urge to cum.. Doesn't matter if it's only 10 seconds in or even 5.. You do not want to cum!

You go back to what I mentioned above.. Women love it all.. They don't like guys who cum fast and leave.. Pull out, suck her clit for a bit, finger bang her good and just back and forth dipping your cock in and stopping before you cum.. Your cock might/should prolong your blast each time you prevent it from happening.. And don't tell her you need to stop or, "I'm about to cum already", you'll sound like a pussy..

You just pull out and tell her her beasts look so damn good and move into sucking them.. You then bang her from behind , stop and play/lick her ass and tell her she has a nice ass too.. Whatever will prolong your cumming..If you don't find her attractive and it's all,about getting off then just go back to not caring like you said.. Blast off and leave..



Excellent advice.