Issues with approaching young women

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I've been doing a lot of reflecting about this over the past few days and I've had a shit ton of opportunities that I missed out on because I couldn't think of anything to say. I am as an individual a very introverted/quiet person, its very rare for me to strike up a conversation with people unless I know them really well. It doesn't necessarily make me a loser but just means that my strengths lie elsewhere.

Everyone has missed a shit ton of opportunities.
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I, for one, go for shy men. I sensed my husband was shy upon meeting him and used my outgoing personality to reel him in and ask him out. Opposites attract. So when you say a woman would never approach you, don't bet the farm on it. Smile even if you can't say anything. My husband was smiling and having a good time when I first saw him. That smile is what drew me in. Had he looked bored in the corner I would have probably never said a word to him.

It's never happened in my life and I'm in my mid 20s so I think its safe to assume I'll never be approached by a woman. I have literally 0 dating experience so if the stars are finally kind to me this should be a very interesting experience.
 

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Uhm, yes. That's how men have been sparking up relationships for centuries. You have to show her you have an interest in some way. There is a 100% chance of it not working out when you don't ever speak to each other.
 
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I, for one, go for shy men. I sensed my husband was shy upon meeting him and used my outgoing personality to reel him in and ask him out. Opposites attract. So when you say a woman would never approach you, don't bet the farm on it. Smile even if you can't say anything. My husband was smiling and having a good time when I first saw him. That smile is what drew me in. Had he looked bored in the corner I would have probably never said a word to him.
Like i told sangheilli90 "smile" . Sometimes a smile says everything without having to say a word . Tatooed Goddess is spot on . At least take it from a woman. After all that's what you are looking for..
 

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Uhm, yes. That's how men have been sparking up relationships for centuries. You have to show her you have an interest in some way. There is a 100% chance of it not working out when you don't ever speak to each other.

I've always had this issue because when I see a woman I am interested in I could never think of what to say, making up random shit to talk about just never really appeared to be an option lol.
 

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Oh, and if you want to find a good woman, be a good man. Don't be an asshole.

Do not be too nice, you will end up in the friendzone, or you are going to be the guy who was rejected for a good for nothing, they realized and they will start to think "why i didn't get that nice guy?"
 

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Ever think you are being "friend zoned" because something about you is a turn off? Not a matter of being nice. Women look for chemistry first and foremost. If it's not there, it's not there. Instead you get blown off for being an asshole on top of all of that. You sound like a real winner.

It's like me giving women advice like "If you ever want to find a hard working man, you need to be a gold digger" "Hard working men don't like hard working women, they want a woman who can spend their money" or me telling women to be as batshit crazy as possible to lure men in. Does that make any sense or make the world a better place?

It's always the same kind of dudes who claim this assholery as success. I'd rather spend my time with a gentleman. Someone I could introduce to friends and family and not have him put everyone off by the way he acts. And if things work out with this guy, how is he going to be through out the relationship? What kind of father will he be? Is he a good employee or does he treat people like shit there too?

I also feel like dudes who act like assholes to get pussy are probably the types who would cheat. Like they don't have much respect for her right off the bat, why start treating her like a real human being?
 
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Ever think you are being "friend zoned" because something about you is a turn off? Not a matter of being nice. Women look for chemistry first and foremost. If it's not there, it's not there. Instead you get blown off for being an asshole on top of all of that. You sound like a real winner.

It's like me giving women advice like "If you ever want to find a hard working man, you need to be a gold digger" "Hard working men don't like hard working women, they want a woman who can spend their money" or me telling women to be as batshit crazy as possible to lure men in. Does that make any sense or make the world a better place?

It's always the same kind of dudes who claim this assholery as success. I'd rather spend my time with a gentleman. Someone I could introduce to friends and family and not have him put everyone off by the way he acts. And if things work out with this guy, how is he going to be through out the relationship? What kind of father will he be? Is he a good employee or does he treat people like shit there too?

I also feel like dudes who act like assholes to get pussy are probably the types who would cheat. Like they don't have much respect for her right off the bat, why start treating her like a real human being?

I know you are relatively new to this forum, but I think you should try to get in the habit of directly responding to the poster so that there may not be any confusion.
 

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I've been here since 07. Thanks for the advice though, I'm sure you've learned a lot since you registered almost 3 years ago. lol

Well, it says you joined in 2015.....like I said quoting the person you are speaking to just makes communication on online forums much easier.
 
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I know you are relatively new to this forum, but I think you should try to get in the habit of directly responding to the poster so that there may not be any confusion.
You are going to be insulted by the girls
 

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I have a signature that explains that I am not a new member. I'll give you time to read it.

That doesn't imply that you've been here for a while, let alone 2007. Not sure why you refuse to use the reply button like I have continually mentioned to you.
 

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ok, tried to help, got it.

Dude, repeating the stuff you were talking bout out on the other active thread you are involved with isn't really helping anyone. Just a little input into how this could come across to someone else posting something similar as I have done here.
 
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