I have several questions for the women here and guys too if they have any input in this issue. We will be married for 9 yrs soon. We have 3 children together. I would like to know how married couples keep the spark going in the bedroom? I have a very high sex drive and it seems like she could care less. She says she likes sex etc and is ok with it. But she doesn't want to do anything different in the bedroom. Seems like most of the time we masterbate each other until she is finally wet and then have boring sex. It takes her forever to get horny and I mostly have to use lube and a little vibe to get her going! We watch porn sometime and that helps, but just depends though because some porn she thinks is gross-discusting etc. I've tried to do some kinky things in the bedroom and she shy's away from it. Says it's too late or she's too tired. The times that I have really spent time caressing her body and playing with her, she loves. But she doesn't reciprocate. Seems like the only thing she wants to do is get her wet with lube, have sex, and go to bed. ASAP.... I'm bored with the same o stuff all the time. I'm seriously contemplating finding a piece of ass on the side for some fun. I'm 30 and can't enjoy life with a woman that's so dull in bed. I've talked with her about the issue and she thinks I'm addicted to sex and nothing will ever be good enough for me!