OK, first off, I love sex. I absolutely love to make love. There, I said it. So, it's very difficult for me to understand why some women do not. I have very close friends who say they play like they're sleeping when their husband comes to bed. Or they make up a headache, just anything to keep from doing it more than once every two months. That I cannot understand. When I tell them that I enjoy it, they look at me like I'm an alien, or they say "Oh, you're still newlyweds." We've been married 10 years. My daughter, an only child, was 11 when we married. She's out of the nest so we have the house to ourselves. And we make good use of it. Yes, not as often as either of us would like, but when we do it's crazy stuff. I feel like a teenager again, and he certainly acts like one.
OK, he's very good and does things that I've never done before. He tells me the same thing. Sometimes he comes up with stuff that makes me wonder what he reads! LOL! Or does!!!
But I think a lot of it is more than just physical like a lot of people have said. I love him very much, and I seriously could not think of doing this with anyone else. My only gripe, and it's really the only gripe I have is that he's gone a lot. I mean a lot lately! No, I'm not worried about him dipping on the side, I just want him home in my bed.
We're not sex maniacs, and we don't do it so often that we both hurt, although we have at times. But we both enjoy sex and just being with each other. Sometimes it's not even sex. Just being close to one another and sharing little words, ideas, dreams. Just being intimate.
Give her some "her" time. Pay attention to her needs, not just yours. Don't be selfish. Don't buy "stuff." Give her the stuff that counts - attention, assistance, appreciation. Make her feel beautiful. When I come in from working in the yard dripping with sweat and dirt in my hair, garden gloves wet and muddy and he tells me I look beautiful I believe him. One, because he's crazy, but two, I don't know how he sees things, but I think he's telling the truth.
I know I'm rambling now, but it's up to you to make it work. Don't let it die like that. It's not what she wants. Same when she says she doesn't want anything for her birthday, or when we say if you love me you'd know what I want. We're not really that much of a puzzle. A little effort would go a long way.
