It’s Annoying That Black Men Are Only Considered Tops

[Anton565]

but I’ve always found the most productive way to break stereotypes in society is not by ignoring or dismissing narrow minded views,

Agreed. If you engage, you're feeding it no matter what you say. I've found an eye roll, a giggle, or a comment like "that's just a porn trope, honey." (with the wording and facial expression adjusted to the situation) to be more effective. But you really can't do more than that.

Just move on to someone else.

 

[Andleba]

I’ve experienced this many times too. Face to face I’ve had guys tell me “that’s a shame” or “such a waste” when I’ve expressed that I’m a bottom or verse but want to bottom. I’ve can’t say it bothers me so much as we all have our thing that we’re looking for whatever the reason or biases behind it. I’ve had hundreds of white men who have topped me along with black, Far East/South Asian and Hispanic men so I get my fair share of what I’m looking for. Men of colour can’t say they don’t have their own preconceived ideas of different races that buy into the porn stereotypes, we see a skinny white twink and we assume “bottom” when in fact they may well be a top with a massive dick.
It is what it is, move on to the next.

 

[mikemax]

I’ve experienced this many times too. Face to face I’ve had guys tell me “that’s a shame” or “such a waste” when I’ve expressed that I’m a bottom or verse but want to bottom. I’ve can’t say it bothers me so much as we all have our thing that we’re looking for whatever the reason or biases behind it. I’ve had hundreds of white men who have topped me along with black, Far East/South Asian and Hispanic men so I get my fair share of what I’m looking for. Men of colour can’t say they don’t have their own preconceived ideas of different races that buy into the porn stereotypes, we see a skinny white twink and we assume “bottom” when in fact they may well be a top with a massive dick.
It is what it is, move on to the next.

I understand what you mean. It is unfair.

 

[fireman1294]

I used to have a trans fwb, she was black and very much a bottom even though her cock was huge.

 

[mikemax]

That must have been an intense relationship. I had a fwb who was african american and a passable cd. Very passionate.

 

[fireman1294]

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That must have been an intense relationship. I had a fwb who was african american and a passable cd. Very passionate.

oh my god!!! Intense was not the word for it. She was passionate but also a very wild and wildly aggressive animal.

 

[mikemax]

That passion, that heat, is so mesmerizing. This was years ago and I think about her all the time.

 

[fireman1294]

Me too

 

[WillyLong]

It use to bother me, but now I've learned how to tell the difference between guys of all colors who approach me looking for friendship, and guys who approach me looking for lust.

Just try to remember that thanks to our prominent bulges, hung men of all colors will be treated like a fetish once word gets out we're packing serious heat in our pants.

 

[Lexlepara]

It use to bother me, but now I've learned how to tell the difference between guys of all colors who approach me looking for friendship, and guys who approach me looking for lust.

Just try to remember that thanks to our prominent bulges, hung men of all colors will be treated like a fetish once word gets out we're packing serious heat in our pants.

I gotta confess there’s hardly anything as hot as a black guy with a really huge fat dick embrace the lust in the moment he’s letting you feel the heat of that package... especially one with a compatible fetisj

 

[oralsupport]

As a black man, the only guys that want to top me on Grindr are other black men. 80% of my inbox is white men. 60% of those are 45+ and want to be dominated specifically.

The argument that bbc ghetto thug top porn sells because it’s popular supports the idea that we’re fetishized as hung aggressive tops. Nobody wants to see us as submissive bottoms because it contradicts their inner idea of what black people are. I’m not saying it’s racist. But it’s got a root in racism.

 

[Andleba]

As a black man, the only guys that want to top me on Grindr are other black men. 80% of my inbox is white men. 60% of those are 45+ and want to be dominated specifically.

The argument that bbc ghetto thug top porn sells because it’s popular supports the idea that we’re fetishized as hung aggressive tops. Nobody wants to see us as submissive bottoms because it contradicts their inner idea of what black people are. I’m not saying it’s racist. But it’s got a root in racism.

I agree with a lot of what you wrote. I’ve found it particularly true when I’ve visited the USA where labels are everything. It’s true of the UK and the rest of Europe too, but in my experience, to a much lesser degree where race is still a thing but people are a lot more open to experiencing mixing on sexual level, for example all of my ex boyfriends have been similarly aged white vers/tops. The vast majority of my sexual partners have been white vers/tops. When visiting the USA I have been flat out rejected more times than I can count, it’s been a sobering experience but I’d be a hypocrite if I tried to fight people’s sexual preferences or racial preconceptions as I too have my own.

 

[Toocool99]

I gotta confess there’s hardly anything as hot as a black guy with a really huge fat dick embrace the lust in the moment he’s letting you feel the heat of that package... especially one with a compatible fetisj

This is disgusting. So off topic you could’ve kept this to yourself.

 

[shinok]

It is just a wrong perception. I'll blame it to porn industries. They try to portray it that way in most porn categories, don't know why. Obviously that can't be the reality.

 

[chrisrobin]

I’ve noticed that race plays a part in what sexual position you’re forced to be in. Asians are always bottoms, blacks always tops, whites get to choose what they want to be.

I’ve noticed this in porn too. You will never see an Asian man top a black man. But you’ll find tons of videos of black men topping Asians. Races are always categorized into stereotypes.

I know for a fact that so many black men are racially sexualized to having a “bbc” “dominant alpha male” “thugs”. And when you’re messaged on many of these apps by other non black people they will assume you’re these things in the bedroom. But if you’re none of that, and you’re a bottom they become enraged or disappointed they are not getting their “jungle fantasy”.

Like how many of those bottom white men message you expecting you to be some bbc top

If you go out with a guy and base sexual positions of colour you are deluded.
I enjoy the bedtime fun with a bbc but never presume he's going to top men. Yes I enjoiy being shafted by a bbc but I also enjoy shafting them and experience has shown that its six of one and half a dozen of the other when it comes to top and bottoms.
#As I recall the first black guy I picked up gave marvelous head, great kisser and very willingly gave me his asshole. In fact after that encounter I began to think they all liked to take it til I did in fact get topped by a stud who went all night till I thought my hole would never close up again. I have been topped willingly by Asians as white guys and never once did it occur to me that there was a supposed sexual position based on colour/shade etc.

 

[Toocool99]

If you go out with a guy and base sexual positions of colour you are deluded.
I enjoy the bedtime fun with a bbc but never presume he's going to top men. Yes I enjoiy being shafted by a bbc but I also enjoy shafting them and experience has shown that its six of one and half a dozen of the other when it comes to top and bottoms.
#As I recall the first black guy I picked up gave marvelous head, great kisser and very willingly gave me his asshole. In fact after that encounter I began to think they all liked to take it til I did in fact get topped by a stud who went all night till I thought my hole would never close up again. I have been topped willingly by Asians as white guys and never once did it occur to me that there was a supposed sexual position based on colour/shade etc.

could you not call it bbc. I seriously hate that term, because it’s often used by people to deduce black men to their penis. You may not have meant it that way, but the term is annoying. There’s a history of black men being treated as nothing but hyper sexualized objects.

 

[chrisrobin]

could you not call it bbc. I seriously hate that term, because it’s often used by people to deduce black men to their penis. You may not have meant it that way, but the term is annoying. There’s a history of black men being treated as nothing but hyper sexualized objects.

I don't think there's anything wrong with a beautiful black cock!

 

[Infernal]

It is just a wrong perception. I'll blame it to porn industries. They try to portray it that way in most porn categories, don't know why. Obviously that can't be the reality.

Porn always leads towards what sells at any given moment. If it’s popular even for a short period of time then studios produce that kind of content And flood the market with it. It all comes and goes. As for my own experience I’ve met men on all sides.

 

[emmyfan]

I don't think there's anything wrong with a beautiful black cock!

The issue is that you referred to white guys and Asian guys and then you refer to black guys as bbc. It makes black men just seem like an object.

 

[Toocool99]

Stuff like this is so irritating. You can see it in this thread. Black guys reduced to their penis.