It hurts my wife

[scoobydoohoo]

When I got married I was a virgin *GASP* I know it doesn't happen very often, but I was. (so was my wife) Needless to say our honeymoon sucked because my dick was too big for her...

About 3-4 months into the marriage it finally got better where we could actually have sex without her hurting her very much.

3 years later and it still hurts her. It always has to be slow and methodical (which is nice sometimes) but every once in a while I would like just bang the fuck out of her. She always tells me after how much hurt or didn't hurt. For awhile there, I couldn't cum when having sex because I felt bad about hurting her.

It sucks.

Obviously some of you have run into this problem? Are there ways to help it not hurt her so much? or am I doomed?

 

[tball2222]

Scoo- time does heal all wounds. Wait til she has her 1st baby. That'll open her up pretty good. Good luck.

 

[fowfer]

Yes, I have lived with the same conditions for 43 plus years virgin and all It was bad enough when I was 7" x 5.5" then like a fool I increased my size to 8.75" x 6.25". Needless to say, vaginal sex is almost nil. Lucky we can still do oral. The decreased vaginal sex just makes it worst when you do try.

Good Luck

 

[fowfer]

Babies didn't help with mine. She had C-secs with both.

 

[joejack]

The famous Dr. Kinsey and wife decided shortly after they were married to have a doctor surgically open up the entrance to her vagina so she could accomodate his extremely large erection. The operation was a "huge" success.

 

[scoobydoohoo]

I don't think she will go for an operation and we don't plan on having kids for a couple of years....

Hmm....

 

[joejack]

It is done under local aenesthesia as outpatient. It isn't that big of a deal. Maybe you and she could rent the movie "Kinsey" and watch it together. Watch how she reacts. Liam Niesen and Laura Linney. One hot couple.

 

[decoyB]

The famous Dr. Kinsey and wife decided shortly after they were married to have a doctor surgically open up the entrance to her vagina so she could accomodate his extremely large erection. The operation was a "huge" success.

I believe his wife's issue was actually an unusually thick hymen, despite what the movie may have depicted.

 

[jayagoose]

Yeah, I had a similar problem with my first GF. I'm not enormously hung, she was just reeeeeallllly tight. The first few times it was difficult if not impossible. It sucked because it was a real turnoff knowing I was hurting her, it felt like I was raping her or something. Using lots of lube helped a lot and I gradually loosened her up

 

[joejack]

I believe his wife's issue was actually an unusually thick hymen, despite what the movie may have depicted.

Hymen, schmeymen, Doc Kinsey was definitely hung!:wink:

 

[RandyL]

Get her a dildo to use. She can work on stretching it out some at a speed that won't hurt her.

 

[Love-it]

I feel for both of you. Increasing diameters of dildos is all I can offer for advice. I will be following this post to see if therer are any new idas.

 

[duke67]

I found using extra lube helps alot.

 

[arliss]

When I got married I was a virgin *GASP* I know it doesn't happen very often, but I was. (so was my wife) Needless to say our honeymoon sucked because my dick was too big for her...

About 3-4 months into the marriage it finally got better where we could actually have sex without her hurting her very much.

3 years later and it still hurts her. It always has to be slow and methodical (which is nice sometimes) but every once in a while I would like just bang the fuck out of her. She always tells me after how much hurt or didn't hurt. For awhile there, I couldn't cum when having sex because I felt bad about hurting her.

It sucks.

Obviously some of you have run into this problem? Are there ways to help it not hurt her so much? or am I doomed?

try anal

 

[dolfette]

lube, lube, more lube.

have her see her doc too.

 

[dolfette]

and.
if she's expecting pain then she might be tensing up.
have her squeeze & release you while you're in there, so she can tell when she's relaxing the muscles.

 

[dolfette]

I don't think she will go for an operation and we don't plan on having kids for a couple of years....

Hmm....

i don't think she needs one.
i think the guy knows shite about having a vagina :wink:

 

[arliss]

lube, lube, more lube.

have her see her doc too.

suggesting a threesome are you?

 

[D_Danny_Doubledong]

Yes, I have lived with the same conditions for 43 plus years virgin and all It was bad enough when I was 7" x 5.5" then like a fool I increased my size to 8.75" x 6.25". Needless to say, vaginal sex is almost nil. Lucky we can still do oral. The decreased vaginal sex just makes it worst when you do try.

Good Luck

how did you increase your size can you share.

 

[scoobydoohoo]

i don't think she needs one.
i think the guy knows shite about having a vagina :wink:

definitely true! i don't have one.

it's getting better....