It's not gay if you fuck him through a gloryhole, cause there's a chance you did a girl in the ass & not a guy
It's not gay if you suck the dick in the gloryhole cause it isn't sex with a man, just a dick
It's not gay if you're in a foreign country and nobody knows you
It's not gay on a Navy ship after the first week at sea
It's not gay if you pretend to be asleep even while saying harder, faster, etc.
It's not gay if he wears a wig & a bra and makes "girl sounds"
It's not gay if he doesn't deepthroat (an ex-Marine I used to fuck believed that)
It's not gay if he's really straight and just likes the "anal stimulation" (the ex-Marine again)