This topic has probably been discussed here already, but I recently experienced it and so it's very current to me right now. Why are some people so shallow as to chose their friends based mainly on physical appearances only? In other words, people tend to gravitate toward others initially because those "others" are pretty (for girls) or handsome (for guys). That is just SO not fair and not right! I suspect that many gay and bi-men are the most guilty of this. The main thing they look for is physical--an attractive face, a good physique, and a big basket. What about the poor guy whose nose might be a little big? Or whose ears stick out? That guy might be intelligent, kind, articulate, have a great sense of humor, and possess many other fine inner virtues, but for many people, those things don't count. In a gay bar or at a gay party, if the guy doesn't look like David Boreanz or some other sexy, handsome movie star, then he's rejected instantly. I've even heard guys say rude things like, "Go play on the highway!" Many times I've seen a man sitting alone at the end of a bar, accompanied only by his drink. He may not be ugly--just not super good- looking or not have the best body or not be a 20's-something. Yet no one talks to him. He is isolated--off by himself just to sit and nurse his empty glass while everyone else around him is connecting, dancing, and having fun together. Yes, I know what you're probably thinking: "Man, this guy must be a troll himself!" Well, I'll be the first to admit that I'm not the best looking guy in the world. But I do know that I have value and merit as a human being. I cannot change my facial appearance or my age, but I would make a wonderful friend for anyone who appreciates niceness and pleasantness in a person. So I would hope that people of all sexual orientations would try to look beyond the physical attributes of a person and connect to the inner being, which is where the REAL person can be found.