it's funny/weird, but still sorta a relationship issue...

[dolfette]

http://img.chan4chan.com/img/2009-12-29/24329.gif

could you have a relationship with someone with a freakishly weird fetish? i mean... seeing that would turn me off a person for good.

i've like it when guys tell me their darkest fantasies. some guys have confessed to liking the idea of women with animals which, if i'm totally honest, killed quite a lot of my desire for the man.

i guess the most common is wanting to share their girl with another guy. i'm not sure what the draw is, because a lot of people are shite at putting their lusts into words, but for me it just seems a bit demeaning. like... you see me as a collection of holes and you want to play fill-'er-up with a buddy??? but i get that they don't see it this way and i've heard it so often i don't think anything of it these days.

it's always a risk when you share a fetish. and not just because someone might turn it into a gif!

no direct question here. just talk around it, people.

 

[Thirdlegproduction]

When I saw the title, I thought to myself yeah why not I don't have to be a part of it but when I read the examples you made I changed my mind.

No, some fetishes just aren't cool.

 

[Endued]

I'm largely happy with mainstream stuff. I can't really think of anything that might come under the 'freakishly weird' category that wouldn't make me get the fuck out of there.

 

[D_Judith K Rantz]

I like to think I'm pretty open when it comes to many fetishes/fantasies but if it deals with anything like that gif or children, then that's an immediate dealbreaker. Some fantasies and fetishes are just not okay.

 

[Unnamed]

Rape, children, kids, masochism and my asshole are where i draw the line

 

[monel]

If a stuffed raccoon has a fetish for ugly fat guys, who am I to judge?

 

[dolfette]

If a stuffed raccoon has a fetish for ugly fat guys, who am I to judge?

not cool.

 

[SR_Dee_Zasther]

I think it's case by case. Everyone has different lines, and because of that I think it tends to be a very touchy issue. I've had partners in the past that were pretty open and kinky themselves, and so it was easy to be open with them; but others, it's definitely been a topic that was mostly off the table or took a lot of time and was talked about gradually. I think it gets down too how accepting the person is in general of the idea that everyone has rough edges and an inherent weirdness, despite appearances. Some people are too judgmental or just haven't lived enough to realize that; I was with one young woman who freaked out that I looked at porn online and would still masturbate occasionally while we were together, which seemed totally normal to me but was a big deal to her. I've been at the other end of it too, like having someone who liked to call me "daddy" while we were having sex; doesn't seem like much, but that was still something that nagged at me a bit. That said, it wasn't a dealbreaker because that wasn't one of my lines, and hey I like to look at some crazy anime porn sometimes so who am I to judge. But bottom line, it's a risk, and there's no easy answer or litmus test. The girl who was upset about my masturbating was also really into BDSM, so you never know. Another girl who was totally sheltered and who I literally had to explain what an orgasm and what masturbation was eventually was super into recording ourselves having sex and then watching it later while I fucked her, and she was an over-achieving asian science nerd in student government. So yeah, people are weird and confusing.

 

[D_Bubba_Butter]

If a stuffed raccoon has a fetish for ugly fat guys, who am I to judge?

Oh, come on, Dolfette! It was quite funny... 'Plump, aesthetically less pleasing guys' wouldn't have had the same ring to it.

Yes, some fetishes are a step too far. The gif is a good example & has left me feeling uneasy, almost violated. The pinnacle of creepiness is the way he caresses & kisses it. The poor creature clearly feels nothing for him.

 

[dolfette]

Oh, come on, Dolfette! It was quite funny... 'Plump, aesthetically less pleasing guys' wouldn't have had the same ring to it.

no, it is not funny! who are you to decide what is beautiful?
it's childish and shallow and pathetic.
it's picking on the kid with acne in the playgrouind.

posts like that make you guys uglier than any face or weight ever could.

people choose their actions but they can't help their face.

 

[D_Bubba_Butter]

no, it is not funny! who are you to decide what is beautiful?
it's childish and shallow and pathetic.
it's picking on the kid with acne in the playgrouind.

posts like that make you guys uglier than any face or weight ever could.

Sorry... I don't want to argue.

Monel needed 2 adjectives, the second with two syllables, to make the metre of the sentence work. If the guy had been obviously hairy, that would have worked just as well & would have avoided your assumption about the significance of the comment by reducing it to two perfectly legitimate, non-subjective observations.

Apart from that, as the old adage says... beauty is in the eye of the beholder, is it not?

 

[dolfette]

picking on looks is no different, in my eyes, to picking on race. he can no more help having his face than a black guy can help having dark skin.

and to the people here who struggle with their weight? who may suffer depression and self loathing because of the way society judges them on it?

if you think that's cool for the sake of keeping the sentence pretty then i pity you.

the guy has a weird fetish. he put it online for the world to see. i think there's enough to boggle the mind there without starting with the body nazi jibes.

 

[monel]

picking on looks is no different, in my eyes, to picking on race. he can no more help having his face than a black guy can help having dark skin.

and to the people here who struggle with their weight? who may suffer depression and self loathing because of the way society judges them on it?

I apologize. My comment was only intended to be humorous and not to insult anyone. It was not my intention to be malicious.

Further, to the extent that it did, I regret any derailment of your thread that my comment may have caused.

Zyz, thank you for you supportive comments.

 

[dolfette]

thanks. i appreciate that x

 

[sickboy88]

Picking on looks is different than picking on race. You can't control the colour of your skin, but you can control eating Mcdonalds 3 times a week

 

[dolfette]

and you can just go straight to ignore.

 

[_Riker_]

It would really depend on the fetish, if I were a woman and I knew a guy I was dating was more attracted to an animal than myself I would feel a bit...put off lol.

As long as a girl I date doesn't have any dangerous fetishes I don't think I would care, I'm very accepting of most people.

 

[Eco]

-nevermind...a little too OT.

 

[seekingpeace]

As long as there's consent (meaning adult, informed, capable of making reasoned judgments, etc) and no permanent harm involved then I wouldn't want to insult anyone by judging.

 

[IntoxicatingToxin]

I have turned down guys for dates and casual sex because they have odd sexual fetishes. Some of them have said that it isn't a big deal and they don't need to indulge, they'd just be happy with me etcetera, but I know that isn't necessarily true. If it's a true fetish, you aren't going to have a healthy happy sexual relationship without it. I can't say that I could -never- have a relationship with a guy who had a freaky fetish but I can say that it's not very likely to happen at all.