Its happening again.....:(

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  1. Rommette

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    Here we go again....my cyst is back. I'm refering to this one:
    http://www.lpsg.org/145950-my-vagina-hurts-im-convinced.html
    I've had it for the past four days now. my boyfriend has been hinting for sex and i've been avoiding him by telling him im tired or i'm writing papers. I dont want to have sex with him while its happening. Its been like this for four days now. It hurts like shit when I sit down which is necessary for going to class. Once again.....its insurance issues that are stopping me. My primary doctor is back at home and im three hours away. And I still go the my same pediatric doctor anyway! My insurance doesn't allow ER visits where I could see a specialist. I tried hot water...didnt work. I put some gloves on and tried to squeeze it and still nothing.

    I thought about taking the end of a safety pin and sticking it but then I thought about how much that would hurt. I can't keep prolonging sex wih my bf....im running out of lies here. Has anybody has this before?
     
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    Stop lying. Tell him the real reason and that he'll have to go without.

    Cripes.
     
  3. dolfette

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    what's the big deal here?

    tell him you have a sickly vag this week and pass him a tissue.

    if you can't tell him you have gyn reasons for not wanting sex then are you really ready to be shagging him at all?

    ffs, romm, why is everything such a drama?
     
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    I don't get it. Why not tell him the truth? It would put a lot less pressure on you (unless he's an insensitive SOB).
     
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    Two issues
    1.)Health
    2.) Boyfriend

    First tell boyfriend you have a medical problem and sorry

    Two - See a doctor and don't wait

    Insurance problems?
    A few options.

    1.) You are in college, correct?
    Do they have a student health clinic?
    What are the fees & will your insurance cover?
    Some schools have a student health fee you pay and the visits to the student health clinic are no charge

    2.) Is there a free health clinic for STD testing in your area?
    You might get to see a doctor or at least get checked for a few other possibilities.
    (Sorry but most of us here don't trust "Mr.NoRubber")

    3.) Call you insurance company to find out what they will cover and where.
    Many companies have R.N.s that handle such phone calls.
    You don't need a specialist or even an OB-GYN.
    Just get seen by a doctor to get the ball rolling.

    DO IT TODAY - BIG SNOW COMING
     
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    All that that Pitbull said....but deep down inside I want you to take a pin and pop it....but then it could get infected.....then you'll really be messed up.
     
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    Please do not take a safety pin to it. Please.

    My sister has some recurring issues with cysts like this, due in part to (IMHO) her extended stint on Depo. She never had cysts before she was on that shot. She is a cigarette smoker, though, and they say you shouldn't smoke on that stuff. She had clusters in 4 different areas, and she had to have all of hers excised by a doctor.
     
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    Rommette, please go to the doctor. That's your only one, darling. You need to take care of it.

    If your boyfriend won't understand then you need to talk. I bet he will be so concerned about your health that he'll take you to the doctor himself.
     
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    I guess I can just wait it out again. i can barely sit through my classes. Its either that or bad credit.
     
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    Hello, My girl gets cyst too and in the past we did it even she had it. A couple of times she told me that sex actually popped it open and she was fine. Except one time she had to go to hospital for treatment. she tells me everything and i educate myself about various women's issues. I advise, you should talk to him about it and i am sure he will be understanding to you.
     
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    2.) Is there a free health clinic for STD testing in your area? I dont have an std. I've been tested atleast like 8 times since they first occured as a teenager. nothing


    You might get to see a doctor

    You go there and act like you don't know what is wrong with you.
    If you can get a doctor there to examine you they might be able to give you something and it won't cost you anything

    You go there because
    1.) It is free
    2.) They have doctors
    3.) They take care of those body parts
    4.) They might be able to treat you at least partially
    5.) It is free it is free it is free
     
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    I've had these before too. Mine was smaller, more like a pea, but I have insurance so I went to see a Dr. He said Oh no problem, swabbed it with betadine, or something like that, took a scalpel and cut it open. No anesthesia. Squeezed it, showed me what it looked like, said it might be back, they usually did, and see ya later.

    I'm not all that great on self inflicted pain, but if the skin is thin, and you can actually see what you are doing, and have the guts to poke around, I'd say do it. You know the lecture, keep it clean, etc.
     
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    Just a question...have you actually been to the Er? You can't be denied seeing a doc unless they deem in non-emergent. If you explain the situation I'm positive they would see you if its affecting you healthwise...or at least give you some places to check with. I know these things b/c I work in one. They can say what they like but state insurance usually pays for anything the doc says they need to. Also, even if they don't you can just call them and have them change you PC doc so that you can see someone in the area instead of waiting to go home. Hope that helps.
     
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    i have a similar problem -- hidradenitis supurrativa (Hidradenitis suppurativa - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia) (a different condition all together, but with similar symptoms). Mostly, i get the cysts on my inner thighs and back (the condition affects certain types of sweat glands -- aporcine? - and is made worse being that i'm chubby and faily active), and its definitley had an effect on me in regards to my love life. for a long time, i didn't know it was a medical condition. i thought that it was just really bad acne (in awful places LOL) and was totally ashamed. now that i'm getting treatment (antibiotics/anti-inflammatories are the only treatment at the moment) i feel much more comfortable with myself (seeing improvement, also. yaay!) and of course have informed my current partner as to what the hell is going on with my skin LOL. he's been very understanding, even to the point where I got really upset one night about the way I look, and he told me to shut the hell up because "skin means nothing". he's the best :D but anyways, my point is that you shouldn't be afraid to be open with your partner and talk about things like that. no offense meant, but if he can't accept that you are human and have a skin condition, then maybe that's not a healthy relationship (i'm not judging, just being honest -- cause that's how i would feel!). try talking to him about it, and let him know that it's causing you discomfort. you shouldn't have to hide a medical problem, or lie to get out of sex.

    you should really see a doctor ASAP -- do NOT attempt to lance it yourself (i speak from past experience. ugh). I know in my state (NJ) you can be seen in the ER for any condition, regardless of insurance status (charity care exists for a reason!). if you go to the er and tell them you are having severe discomfort (this might be an ok time to lie, if you ask me, and make it sound more painful), they will most likley drain it on the spot to help you feel better right away. at the least, they will prescribe you antibiotics and painkillers untill you can see a specialist. does your insurance cover specialist visits in general (unrelated to ER)? try to get an appointment ASAP -- let them know you are suffering so you can get in faster! don't be afraid of seeing a doctor -- i let me condition go undiagnosed and untreated for many years because I was embarassed and felt like a freak. it was only after a night of drinking with my mom (yeah, we like to party LOL) that i told her about it and she forced me to see a doctor. trust me -- there are people with worse conditions out there, so don't think you're a freak or that anyone will judge you or make fun of you. it's beyond your control, just remember that.

    you can see a bit of my skin issues in my pic gallery -- im careful to avoid taking pics that really show the extent of it (people say it's not that bad, but i'd rather not show it at all) but at some point, you just have to get over it and live :) (and by you, i mean me!)
     
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