It's not all about penis size, guys.

Discussion in 'Sex With a Large Penis' started by Eisenhower, Dec 24, 2009.

  1. Eisenhower

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    Every girl I've ever been with told me I was the largest she'd been with, and of course, I always loved that (who wouldn't?). And at the age of 38, I guess I've been lucky because I've never had my heart broken. Until now.

    This year, a younger girl I'd been seeing for about a year and a half broke up with me. She was freshly divorced, two kids, and frankly, she's got some emotional/mental issues that she needs to deal with. Like a big, dumb, moron, I fell for this little 27 year old hottie and loved her kids like they were my own. Since we broke up in April, she's basically fed me bread crumbs, not ruling out getting back together, but not ruling it in either. Finally, a couple weeks ago, I found out she was with a new guy and was lying to me about it. I put her out of my life at that point, but the pain is excruciating, to say the least. Not to mention all three of us work at the same company, so I can't even totally get her out of my mind at work (luckily we seldon cross paths).

    One thing about it, the sex was unbelievable. Girls her age apparently grew up on porn (unlike girls when I was in school), and she was the most sexual girl I've ever been with. Not only that, but she was the first girl I've been with capable of repeated multiple orgasms just from penetration - she could have 20-25 orgasms in one session. We attributed it to my size and the curvature I have which hit her G-Spot just right, because she said she'd never been able to do that before me. I don't need to tell you how awesome that made me feel! I'd rather give a girl an orgasm than orgasm myself, so sexually, we were both in heaven. It was the other pressures of our relationship that killed us.

    Now, I'm left crushed, wondering if she'll have sex like that again, but more importantly, if I'll ever have sex like that again. Every night I listen to "Love Line" and hear how MOST women can't orgasm from penetration alone, and I realize I'm likely to never have a sexual relationship like that again. (Of course, the nasty side of me thinks that statistically, she's not likely to be with a guy my size again either).

    I don't know ... I'm just venting. Sadly, I know our relationship was based primarily on sex, and that's no foundation for a lasting relationship, but it's still left me crushed and in despair.

    Thanks for listening.

    Eisenhower
     
  2. The_Slippery_Pie

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    I don't mean to sound cliche, but only time will heal your hurt. Best of luck to you.
     
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    Your heading is about relationships not being about penis size, or even fantastic sex, although mediocre sex may spell the destruction of any relationship. I also can relate to your comment about size and the female capacity to orgasm, although as you found out orgasm isn't everything.

    I have made it to 51 without ever having had my heart broken, so I cannot fully relate to your pain. But I do know that there are women out there who combine emotional and sexual attraction, because that's who I married. When you find that special woman, your soulmate on all levels, remember that she too will be experiencing special sex with you, and that will be a great way to keep your future special relationship fresh and alive. At least, that's my experience.
     
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    Like Slippie said... Annnnd you can always start bangin new females. You wont ever know if you will find a sexual partner as she until you start encountering new sexual partners. So get out there and do whatever it takes to find one. Bang away my friend.
     
  5. Eisenhower

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    Thanks, guys. I'm afraid right now I just don't have the desire to be with anyone else, physically or emotionally. Hopefully, with time, that will change.

    Eisenhower
     
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    Eisenhower, I feel your pain on so many levels. I have just gone through a very similar relationship ending situation and the pain is sometimes unbearable. I hope that you start to put this behind you and move on with your life. Right now it may seem like that will never happen but Slippery Pie is right, tiime will heal all wounds. Good luck my friend.
     
  7. Eisenhower

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    Thanks, Salt. I'm hoping to get a new job somewhere and move - I really think I need to get out of this situation/area to be able to totally get this behind me. I'm not from here, have never liked it here, and always wanted to move (that was one of the problems between me and the ex, she never wants to leave.) Working in the same place will keep it on my radar forever - at least that's the way it seems now. Every day I pull into the parking lot I'm trying to avoid running into her ... everytime I go down to the caffateria, etc. It's a terrible way to live and I need to get out.

    I learned some valuable lessons: freshly divorced women will tear your heart out; don't base a relationship on sexual compatability; if you think being with someone is a bad idea because of their past, you're probably right; if you have to work at making conversation with someone, you have no business being in a relationship with them; and (when possible), don't date at work. Maybe the biggest lesson I need to learn: Don't be seduced by a physically perfect but emotionally crippled person.

    Now, if I can just conquer the depression and anxiety this has created for me, I'll get back to living my life. Thanks for your support.

    Eisenhower
     
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    Almost same story here. My heart was once broken by a girl that was very sexually attractive to me and vice versa. But, yes, orgasm alone is not enough to keep relationship. (Well, I got her to only 10 orgasms in one session. She might have got more than this ha ha ha).

    Things come and go mate. Move on! and you will...I believe.
     
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    Not wanting to jump back in the game might be a good thing. The best thing I ever did after a couple of heartbreaking relationships was to not date for a while.
    Also getting a new job where you don't have to worry about running into said ex. Out of sight, our of mind babe.

    Oh and getting a hobby if you don't already have one is a great way to get your mind on something else, instead of moping.
     
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    I hear you on the hobbies - my problem is, when I'm depressed, I don't even enjoy the things I normally enjoy. Like woodworking - I can't get into it. Playing guitar - can't get into it. It's just gotta run its course, I guess. One of the reasons I think she was able to get over me so fast was she's got two little children who constantly keep her on the go and in a state of constant motion. If I had those kinds of distractions, I'm sure it'd be easier to get over her too. Unfortunately, it's just me and the four walls.

    Eisenhower
     
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    Sorry to say, been thru the same type of heartbreak... it is just the bumps in the road of life.. tis true the old saying.. "time heals all wounds".. you'll soon feel better / horny and ready to go plowing again... just takes time...

    best wishes...
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    No, you'll never love or have sex like that again.

    But, you WILL love again and have great sex again!

    Life is filled beyond our wildest imaginations with heart-breaking and breadth-taking possibilities...and the two must go hand-in-hand to gauge each the other.

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    I'm not a guy, but I can relate. I've had my heart broken and it is a horrible feeling, completely destructive. I think of this guy still and I am so glad I live no where near him (I have no idea how you work with her-- that is terrible for you) because, sadly enough I would have done anything (within reason) he wanted....well, let me re-phrase that. I would have believed his lies. I actually did! Twice, then found out he had a SHOE box full of women's pics! LMAO, what a silly, stupid fool, huh? Sigh....You just want to believe people...it's that simple I think.

    It's almost like we are mirrors, you and I. I have a child, this man wormed his way in (yes, I know that sounds bad...but) and I fell for it hook, line and sinker. The sex was incredible...he was small though, but he could always bring me to orgasm (oral) and I felt like I had finally, finally met 'the one.'

    Oh, man was a I wrong. It hurt, it hurt so bad and worse he sorta pointed to my son as the reason. That angered me, but still, I was foolish to think he might change his mind.

    All I can say is it did fade, but sadly I am a bit jaded. And very, very protective of my son.

    And, lol, I watch porn, and I'm not 27! lol

    I hope you are doing better soon. Holidays are sucky sometimes, and make all those painful things, that much more painful. Take care and remember, it really, really does fade.

    hugs, billi jean
     
  14. Eisenhower

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    Billi Jean, you are so right to protect your son. Sadly, her children (a boy 4 and girl 5) and I bonded immediately and were inseperable. They used to call me on the phone and would always beg to come over to my place (their Mom would never let me come to their home because she thought it was innapropriate to have a new man in their home until she could move to a new place. That was another point of stress). Anyway, I loved those kids with all my heart and they loved me back. And I know they needed me because their Dad is a piece of shit thug who has never paid them any attention. They soaked my love up like a sponge.

    I'm highly suspicious of this new guy she's with as he has a rep as a player and running with fast (easy) girls. I'm sure he's playing the "I love kids" bullshit right now because he's thrilled to be nailing a hottie, but I question whether it will ever last. When I saw a picture of all of them at Thanksgiving on her sister's blog, I almost threw up (or cried, or something). It's literally like I've just been replaced. And to think she was lying to me saying "I'm not with anyone, I'm not ready to be in a relationship" just makes me ill. I would have trusted her with my life at one point.

    Anyway, sorry to rant, but yes, protect your son above all else. That's all that really matters. Thanks for your kind words; I appreciate it.

    Eisenhower
     
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    Live and learn my friend. You're going through a lot of emotion right now and it's okay to feel what you're feeling but it's not the end of life as you know it.

    Take some time to sort out your feelings and what's best for you moving forward. It has to be about you first and foremost. There's so much fish in the sea. You will love and have that kind of sex again, for sure! It will take time cause you need to condition yourself back to how thing were but you will in time.

    Give yourself the love and respect, as well as the permission to move forward.
     
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    whatever your age, we go through life, and amazing things happen, we feel pain, and love comes around the corner.

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    You know this is just horrible -- she is all about how she loves her kids? Then replaces you? I find that disgusting. As if she is putting on a show? But for who? I mean, you were in the equation. You were part of 'them' and if she can so easily replace you -- well, all I can say is she had to have been lying to you for a while! I'm sorry, that sucks! It hurts and I can't imagine working with her every day!

    Geesh, sorry, but this kind of thing is awful.

    Those kids have got to be so confused. I can see why you were ill. Lying is such a terrible thing -- it's cowardly and it's hurtful. I'm sorry you had to see her on her blog -- it's the hardest thing to stay away. I remember keeping my IM open for this guy, just all the time, hoping he would IM me...for what? Did I really want a guy like that? Sadly at one point I did. It hurt so bad and the worse was I was in college, trying to get my degree, being a single parent and was so hurt with no one to talk to. It was pretty rough. I finally woke up one day and deleted every email from him, his email account, his IM and all of it. Just trashed it all, and decided to pull myself together. Although, honestly it was easier for me, then you (your four walls comment just hit me hard -- I can't imagine!) because I had this little person depending on me to be strong. So even though I wasn't, and still don't think I am very strong, I had to be for him.

    But you know, you have to be strong for you. So she's hot. So she's great -- unbelievable in bed, so she's what you wanted....she's not, not really. If you were to take another look, see her for what she really is, I bet you would see that you had some misgivings from early on.

    Anyway, I will get off my soap box!!! Sorry, geesh!

    billi jean
     
  18. Eisenhower

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    Billie Jean, you're so right - I did have misgivings from day one. The first time we had a heart to heart, she told me about some wild things she did in her past and I realized she was not the person I thought she was. It really tore me up, but I wanted to try to have a relationship anyway and believed her that she'd grown up and changed, and that appeared to be the case by the way everything she did centered around her kids. She had a really messed up childhood though, with worthless, trashy parents, and I think that shaped her to be emotionally messed up. Intellectually, we had nothing in common whatsoever, we just bonded on a physical level and because she was so needy and loving coming out of a marriage to an asshole. She immediately started the "I want to be with you forever; no one's ever treated me like you" stuff and I fell into it headfirst. So, I struggled with being her man even though we had little in common. I should have been stronger than to let my sexual desire and love for the kids keep me in a relationship I knew didn't have a strong foundation with a woman clearly on the rebound in a big way.

    So, I accept the blame for my share of it ... I guess I'm just crushed by being dumped by a girl who, by all accounts (and I don't mean this egotistically) could have changed her life for the better by being with me. The one line lesson here is I fell for a girl who was not right for me strictly because she was hot and she convinced me she needed me. Ultimately, I got burned for it. Hard lesson to learn, but that's life, I guess.

    Eisenhower
     
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    It certainly isn't about size! My ex of 24 yrs ran off with a smaller endowed guy that talked a "good game". Can't wait until she cheats on him too :). In the meantime my grown daughter has helped me deal with the tough time and even told me that there are "good women out there". I took a chance and actually found a woman that is better than the ex wife in every way...
     
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    I'm sorry for your loss, but relationships (especially romantic ones) are seldom based solely on sex. In my mind, a relationship is like a jigsaw. Different pieces have to fit to make the whole.

    A well-endowed guy who doesn't treat his wife/SO well is soon as well-endowed single or divorced guy.
     
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