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I was reading other threads where some people implied or declared that it was shallow, ugly, and/or stupid to discriminate sexually against those with HIV+ status. A point that comes up a lot in these debates is that no one wants to feel like a leper, or treated like the unclean. Another point that comes up is comparisons to other diseases, like cancers and diabetes, or birth defects like cerebral palsy. Another point that gets mentioned is comparisons to other diseases like gonorrhea, chlamydia and syphilis.
What do you think? Is it a bad thing to be sexually (but not socially, economically, etc.) discriminating against those whose HIV status is pos? Do you agree no one should be allowed to feel ostracized? Is there something that can be done about that if you feel sero-sorting is okay, but allowing people to feel marginalized is not? Is it fair to compare HIV to non-communicable diseases/conditions? Communicable ones?
Frankly, I wouldn't knowingly have sexual contact of any kind, with or without prophylactic barriers in place, with someone I knew for sure was HIV+. I think it is fine to discriminate in this way; my status is negative, and I take different layers of precautions to keep it so. As a sexually active woman, I am not guaranteed to never catch any STDs, but so far, my questions, documentation requirements, and use of condoms with new and/or non-exclusive partners has kept me safe.
I wouldn't want to make anyone feel like a pariah. There are lots of groups of people I don't fuck. If you don't think Napolean Dynamite is funny, I'm not fucking you. End of story. Everyone faces rejection. Gay dudes I meet won't fuck me, no matter how hot I think they are. Should I feel badly about that too? I don't know how to keep other people from feeling things. I'm as respectful and empathetic in any rejections as possible, and the rest is up to the other person. Fact: No one can make anyone else feel anything. Ultimately, we each control ourselves, and therefore must be responsible for our own feelings. One cannot ever please all the people all the time, but wouldn't it be nice if one could?
I think comparing HIV to non-communicable diseases is hilarious, and to other contagious illnesses is appropriate.
I'd especially love to hear from those who disagree.
What do you think? Is it a bad thing to be sexually (but not socially, economically, etc.) discriminating against those whose HIV status is pos? Do you agree no one should be allowed to feel ostracized? Is there something that can be done about that if you feel sero-sorting is okay, but allowing people to feel marginalized is not? Is it fair to compare HIV to non-communicable diseases/conditions? Communicable ones?
Frankly, I wouldn't knowingly have sexual contact of any kind, with or without prophylactic barriers in place, with someone I knew for sure was HIV+. I think it is fine to discriminate in this way; my status is negative, and I take different layers of precautions to keep it so. As a sexually active woman, I am not guaranteed to never catch any STDs, but so far, my questions, documentation requirements, and use of condoms with new and/or non-exclusive partners has kept me safe.
I wouldn't want to make anyone feel like a pariah. There are lots of groups of people I don't fuck. If you don't think Napolean Dynamite is funny, I'm not fucking you. End of story. Everyone faces rejection. Gay dudes I meet won't fuck me, no matter how hot I think they are. Should I feel badly about that too? I don't know how to keep other people from feeling things. I'm as respectful and empathetic in any rejections as possible, and the rest is up to the other person. Fact: No one can make anyone else feel anything. Ultimately, we each control ourselves, and therefore must be responsible for our own feelings. One cannot ever please all the people all the time, but wouldn't it be nice if one could?
I think comparing HIV to non-communicable diseases is hilarious, and to other contagious illnesses is appropriate.
I'd especially love to hear from those who disagree.