Its the eve of the day all single people hate.. esp me

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If you're feeling lonely or whatever, send some Valentines to your best friends (including guys). It gives you a sense of how many people you actually love and who love you. Those relationships mean a lot in themselves and don't have to romantic to be valuable.
 

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S V J thanks man, i just find it hard at times. I just wish i could find a girlfriend. i just want love

Hi dude..I'm dafeesh and don't give advice regularly because i don't feel qualified most of the time. I would just like to start off by saying that tomorrow shouldn't drag you down. For people who are really in love and treat their partners as they should be treated, everyday is Valentines Day. Its just another manifestation of consumerism in America(and the world).
Second..you need to love yourself first and foremost. If you don't love yourself and are desperate to jump in a relationship you're gonna get walked on a lot. I know you have self esteem issues and its hard to move on from that and maybe therapy is something you have to do but one of the things that will drive women is desperation and lack of respect for yourself. Eighteen is a very crazy time where you should be taking time to find out who you are and what you actually want from that special person. Remember that being in a relationship can be nice but it can also be very destructive and detrimental to your growth as a person.
And best believe that love will find you. Good things come to those who wait :)

ps... grow old with you - YouTube

Take Adam Sandler's character in this movie...he is desperate to find love and get married and gets his heart broken by that chick..He finds himself and what he wants and falls in love. I know its not the exact scenario but the first part applies. Keep strong dude, someone will be very lucky to have you.
 

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Valentine's Day is a pointless thing.

It would be a little like you hiring me to stand on top of a building as you walk to work, and shouting 'I DEMAND YOU BE IN LOVE, AND I DEMAND IT'S ROMANTIC TONIGHT'. But yet you being single.

I generally think it's foolish to demand people must be in love or must act in a romantic way.
 

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Have always, always celebrated Valentine's Day almost as a
high holy day to celebrate with my hearts desire. But it has been
now over 6-yrs without a love of my life and the 2nd year in a row
without someone to celebrate with except I share lots of good
conversations via phone, skype and emails with good friends and
family especially one special 4-yr old grandson.
 

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I have never had a Valentine's Day with anyone in my life - not once. Somehow I have survived. :smile:

You have so much time to find someone....so much life to live, loves to experience. If you need therapy - do it! It helps to work things out with someone, get your head on straight.

Personally, I enjoy Valentine's Day - cheap chocolate as soon as it's over!
 

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Valentines day was devised by marketing people to guilt you into buying shit your partner or loved ones don't really need or want.

It forces you to be nice or at least fake it even when you don't really feel it. Ain't capitalism great!

You should give tokens of love on your own terms and when it's appropriate in your fucking life, not for some MBA from Wharton who has bastardized this holiday to make fucking guilt money.

Yeah, fuck you assholes.
 

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I would rather wait until AFTER v-day to find a gf, no need to go and spend all the money on someone you just met lol. I don't think i'm missing much by being single on this pseudo holiday anyway.
 

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The worst holiday, ever.....if you really care about someone, why do you need a holiday to tell them? They should know it all year round. Crazy....
 

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Hey, Irish18.

Don't be despondent! You're still young & have plenty of time to find 'The One' for you. What you need to be doing at your age is getting out there, having fun with your mates, trying new things & having a laugh. Make yourself do things you wouldn't normally try, even things that would normally scare you. You'll get to meet lots of interesting new people & build self-confidence. You're not going to find love by fixating on it; in my experience, it happens when you're least expecting it & are really enjoying life. That's because having fun, feeling comfortable with yourself & having confidence are innately attractive qualities.

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QFT, and because the use of the term "de profundis" and references to Chaucer must be credited. Also, the point about the over-simplicity of the English word "love" is well-taken (and my French friends lament that "aimer" is even worse). In fact, the classical Greek poets weren't content with those four terms, and the language ended up with many more. As Zyz points out, there are many, many kinds of love. We really ought to celebrate them all.

That's fucking awesome. Brought a smile to my face, haha.

Glad I could be of service :)

I have never had a Valentine's Day with anyone in my life - not once. Somehow I have survived. :smile:

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Personally, I enjoy Valentine's Day - cheap chocolate as soon as it's over!

Making the best of it is a hallmark of strength of character, and one of the things that separates the happy from the gray, foot-dragging hordes.

And yes, if there's one thing that Valentine's Day is absolutely good for, it's for sales on chocolate!
 
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Valentines day is a total farce. There is nothing to be gained by it at all, it's a total commercial event.

I feel more sorry for those who have partners who insist on making a big deal out of it all by wasting money and trying to make the day "special". Kind of tells me that the relationship is a bad one if they need a day to tell them when to show their love for one another! I would hate to be with someone who made a big deal out of today, it would probably be a cause for me to end a relationship rather than keep it going! I would find it incredibly sad and irritating if my partner demanded a gift or a tacky valentines date. I wouldn't even buy a card or mark the day with anything special as it's not special at all. A birthday is a far more special day as it is a day all about that person, Valentines day is a tacky non-event which people seem to get wrapped up in.
 

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I, too, am not very fond of this holiday. I can see what all the big hoopla is about. But for those without anyone special on this day, how are we supposed to feel?

I know you should never allow something a trivial as a special holiday to brin you down...but some things you just can't help.
 

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Truthfully, I haven't had a relationship or a Valentine for years now. Does it bother me ever? Yes, to a degree. But Valentine's Day is basically just a made up holiday. I try to remember I have a family that loves me. I know I'll meet someone one day who will make all of the crap and waiting worth it.

Don't sweat it - it'll happen soon enough. Don't try to force it though. Just try to stay happy with what you have and let love find you. :hug:
 
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Valentines day was devised by marketing people to guilt you into buying shit your partner or loved ones don't really need or want.

It forces you to be nice or at least fake it even when you don't really feel it. Ain't capitalism great!

You should give tokens of love on your own terms and when it's appropriate in your fucking life, not for some MBA from Wharton who has bastardized this holiday to make fucking guilt money.

Yeah, fuck you assholes.

Yeah, fuck the assholes! Stupid holiday! :mad:

*hides card behind back and shoves chocolates under shirt...backs away slowly*
 

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Viper that is true i dont have to pay large sums on things(good thing to, no cash) lol but still be nice to have someone to love. As for tall im to young for professional help i think, yeah i do have some bad self esteem issues, lost all my confidence when i was bullied years ago, but no one wants to hear a sob story lol

I agree a psychyatrist might help you with the fact you were bullied. Just remember now that you're older the bully probably had some serious self esteem issues and that is why he did it. Also, I lost my virginity late (20 years old). It was significantly after all of my friends. It seems like you are set on finding a long term girlfriend. So maybe trying to find a girl just t sleep with is not up your alley. I will tell you losing your virginity later in life is not the end of the world. Also, I'm sure you will find someone. Just make sure you're looking.