I've become selfish

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bakardi420 said:
To me, taking the condom off would have been a little easier than both of you getting your tongue pierced! lol But to each their own!

We both already had our tongue pierced lol.


As for how he feels about it. He says he doesn't care at all, and I know him well enough that I think it really doesn't bother him. I am sure it would bother him if he thought it was frustrating me. But anywho, I think me not having an orgasm would upset him much much more than him not having one, he seems to have fun giving me orgasms till im pretty much immobile. He gave me five the first time we had sex, needless to say, he gave me a good impression of why I should never consider breaking up with him lol. I still might end up ditching the condoms, I will have to talk it over with him, im not sure if he will be comfortable with it either.
 

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I don't come every time I have sex. I'd guess about every third or fourth time. I It's exhausting to work it up to an orgasm like that. After my GF comes, or if she has had enough, IO just roll over and we talk and play a little and I jack off in her mouth.

It's that easy.
 

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Ah sexual compatibility, my favorite topic!

Some guys really do take an extremely long time to cum. Two things I've noticed are guys who beat off HARD, and larger cut guys. With a little creativity, there's usually a way to work it out, but I think a guy like this knows he's unusual and is usually willing to accomodate by finishing himself, as long as you stay involved. You can rub his balls, talk to him, pose for him- whatever he likes.

The tongue rings sound cool though, good idea! Hope you're having fun, personally I LOVE guys that take forever. To each his own indeed.:biggrin1:
 

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madame_zora said:
Some guys really do take an extremely long time to cum. Two things I've noticed are guys who beat off HARD, and larger cut guys.
The tongue rings sound cool though, good idea! Hope you're having fun, personally I LOVE guys that take forever. To each his own indeed.:biggrin1:

You and me both, Zora. I suppose we're all built differently and some women get sore after awhile, but I love the guys that take forever too. It takes me awhile to feel much soreness but even with a little soreness it still feels too good. I mean you can't expect me to feel a great orgasm and not want another 12, can you :confused: . As for the issue, I suppose if some women have trouble having orgasms, why not some men? I don't really have any great advice on the topic but I'm sure there's a solution!
And Zora, I can understand why guys who beat off hard might have a hard time cumming, and I understand why cut guys would last longer, but why larger cut guys specifically? I ask because it fits remarkably with my experience. The guy with the most excellent stamina of any guy I've been with was in fact cut and a little less than 8 in. long - the biggest guy I've been with. He'd also trained himself to last longer (an endeavor I support :rolleyes: :tongue: ) to the point where he could thrust for anywhere from 45 mins. to sometimes literally over an hour before cumming or losing any hardness, or at least any that I could feel. He had apparently spent LOTS of time practicing edging but I'm curious why larger guys would last longer? Not that I'm complaining of course. Zora I'm sure you of all people can imagine what that sex was like :rolleyes: :biggrin1: .
 

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There comes a time in anything, that the honus of accountability and responsibility for one's own pleasure rests with that individual. Whether it was selfish or not is irrelevant. Sometimes that is just the way it is. Stop kicking yourself over something that is beyond your control.
 

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The nerves that trigger ejaculation for a man are in the glans,thats why you don't want to be cutting the foreskin off.Over time the exposed head goes numb,it happens at different rates for different men.Mine went totaly numb at 30 years old could not even get it up anymore.It is very much his problem to deal with I solved it by restoring the foreskin.It's not easy or quick but it worked for me.Talk with him tell him your concern's,whatever the problem is there's a way to fix it.
 

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MissEricaCourt said:
We both already had our tongue pierced lol.


As for how he feels about it. He says he doesn't care at all, and I know him well enough that I think it really doesn't bother him. I am sure it would bother him if he thought it was frustrating me. But anywho, I think me not having an orgasm would upset him much much more than him not having one, he seems to have fun giving me orgasms till im pretty much immobile. He gave me five the first time we had sex, needless to say, he gave me a good impression of why I should never consider breaking up with him lol. I still might end up ditching the condoms, I will have to talk it over with him, im not sure if he will be comfortable with it either.

oooo Are you talking about the Tongue Joy? :)
 

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well, a little "tease & denial" never hurt anyone. Plus, it might be fun for him to have to finish himself off. Maybe some tantric exercises? Seems there needs to be some orgasm control - in this case for the guy who takes too long.
 

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Well this is my opinion and my opinion alone. Everyone can disagree if they wish. Being a older male and having multiple sexual partners since the age of 11 I have found that sex can take as long as I wish. No not 3 or 4 hours but anywhere from 15 minutes of penetration to a couple of hours. Yes I can control how long I can last with the exception of the first sexual encounter or two with a new female. You should talk to him and tell him if he doesn't start working on taking a little less time then he will be finishing himself off all by himself. Tell him you are not trying to be hateful but you just get sore and it isn't enjoyable when that happens. We men tend to believe the longer the better and the longer it takes is better. Just a male ego thing. To be honest with you a 20 minute blow job is much more enjoyable than a 2 hour blow job. Sexual satisfaction should never be measured by length of time but only by the passion it produces.
 

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So is it that men with bigger dicks have a harder time coming, than men that are smaller? Sorry if this is a stupid question. But assuming the OP's b/f is about her age, i can't imagine why it would take so long.
 

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I also take forever to cum. However i think i've found pelvic floor exercising quite helpful. After a period of these came my first orgasm with a condom AND my first orgasm from a handjob which was my best ever, hands down.
 

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Delicately nibble his nipple. You could use a vibrator on his perineum and his balls while he's fucking you. Then when you feel like he is going to come you rub the tip of the vibrator against his anal sphincter.
 

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Well its not necessarily that I have become totally selfish, but I find myself leaving my bf without an orgasm alot of times lately. It's not at all that I don't make the effort it's just extremely hard to get him to orgasm and by the time he gets anywhere near it, he has pretty much worn me out. I'm debating about telling him we can stop using condoms, i know hes std free and im on birth control, its just that little extra protection that there is no chance im getting pregnant. Does anyone know of any thin condoms for bigger guys that will hold up well during sex? We have tried a few kinds but they have all broken and he ended up going back to Magnum xl's which he says fit him best. I think its really just a bad combination of my orgasms being so intense I just don't wanna move at all after them, and him taking a massive amount of stimulation. With oral sex on him, I pretty much am on the virge of lockjaw by the time i can get him off. :frown1: I've never had any issues pleasing the other guys i've been with, its just tough to keep up for very long with sex or oral sex because my orgasms are so intense with him, coupled with the fact that I am getting pretty sore pretty fast. Any constructive advice will be much appreciated.
You r a selfish cunt for not getting his big cock off!!1

This cocksuckere would take care of him first and than do myself
I am bi and love meat - u should learn your place - men always cum !!!!