I've Been Putting This Off...Forever

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  1. nudeyorker

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    It's been pointed out to me in the last year or two, that I'm not getting any younger and should get my affairs in order....So I just completed my will, and paid for my funeral arrangements and made the provisions for the last party I'm throwing.
    I'm in perfect health so hopefully all of this will take place in the far distant future! I have donated my skin and any vital organs to science and will have a Toro Nagashi service in Hawaii.
    This is something that I have refused to address for years and now that it's done... I am relieved and I can forget about it!

    en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tōrō_nagashi
    Has anyone else gotten their affairs in order or have you put it off like I did?
     

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    I've got copies of my will and my health care proxy at home and on file with my attorney. I did it about 10 years ao.
     
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    I'm still putting it off for a while. Hoping for a long life. I do have a will but no arrangements have been made. I have made my wishes known for the end but nothing written down yet.
     
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    Wow. That'll be a beautiful send off. :smile:



     
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    Flameboy gave me instructions that if he died, he was to be placed on a funeral pyre next to the Ganges, and all the people from chat would have to place flowers and stuff on top of it and sing songs of woe. :redface:

    PS: On a more serious note, sounds like a sensible idea Nudey! (I'd prefer to go to Hawaii while I'm still alive though).
     
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    I'm one step ahead, I bought a house last winter, and moving over full time next year!
     
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    How can you pay for your funeral? Won't costs go up over time?
     
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    It's something that has been done for some time, if you pay in advance, you pay the price you pay, they have your money to gain interest on and when your time comes you don't have to burden friends or family.
     
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    AlohaNudey !!!
     
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    Thanks Drifter, you may well have helped me choose my new screen name when I move, I was considering OahuMahu but I like AlohaNudey better!:cool:
     
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    I have to do it. I never changed anything after my partner died 9 yrs ago. I think its time to get my affairs in order since ya never know. I have been putting it off because I didnt want to burden anyone with closing my home and disposing of my stuff. I do have my burial plot, and head/footstone ready to go, but have not revised my healthcare proxy, or noted any beneficiaries. I talk about doing it all alot though..
     
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    Since I'm way too young to be thinking about that: No.

    But I probably will plan it myself and all when I get older.
     
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    Boy do I hear that.

    I put everything in order just shy of two years ago. It's not an easy thing to do. Thinking about it is one thing... the actual doing quite another.
     
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    I'm trying to do it but it's not working out so hot. Any time I raise the subject with any family other than my sister, it gets shot down. I have a list of things to give people and that's about it. I don't have money to pay for a funeral so it's not like I have many options.

    I do not want a service at the family church. It's a Calvinist place, part of the Dutch Reformed church. They have Tiffany stained glass windows and a great organ, but they consider being gay to be sinful. I have no contact with the church beyond that's where many of my family members are married and buried.

    I'd really like an outdoor service down near my mom's house and then have my ashes buried in the swamp behind the house. It's a lovely and peaceful spot. I might like part of me to go to the cemetery if they'll let me in the family plot. Some company now and then might be nice.
     
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    Better to pay for a funeral now if you can. It will only be more expensive at the eventuality. Sad but true.
     
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    You need a trusted executor who can ensure that all of this is done for you. If you can't get a family member to do it, then use a lawyer. Maybe your sister?


    But you promised it to me. :mad:
     
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    ewww I just had a flash back to *Silence of the Lambs**shudders* but if you need skin or eyes, or any working vital organ after I'm gone let someone know that you were first in line!:wink:
     
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    It puts the lotion on it's skin or else it gets the hose again.
     
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    Don't forget to walk Precious the poodle.
     
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