I've been sober for two months

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  1. THEDUDEofDestiny

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    for a variety of reasons it became apparent that i needed to quit boozing. how do i meet ladies now?
     
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    COFFEESHOPS! Go between 5-8 PM. It increases the likelihood that the women are single and that they have jobs. :smile:
     
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    Congrats on setting goals and meeting them. There are no ladies in your (presumably) AAA program? Why not do a google search for sober singles in your area or what not?
     
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    Pfft...sobriety is for quitters. I'm disappointed in you, Duder.
     
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    there are women in my aa program but i dont want to date sober girls, or rather they would not want to date me. ideally i'd like a girl who drinks enough to fuck me, but not enough that i am tempted
     
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    Listen to Petite. And quit beating yourself up too. It gives you psychic B.O... seriously, if you have cleaned up inside and out, you have things to like about yourself.

    I learned to enjoy drinking exactly one beer daily, and half the time it's NA beer, just to keep company with the men in my life, because I lost my ability to drink without killer hangovers. But my coffee tolerance remains quite high. I doubt that this is an unusual pattern, and coffee shops, especially where you can get an endless cup of the blend of the day, are the place to be.
     
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    Wear a shirt without vomit stains and sober women might find you attractive.
     
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    I limited myself to ONE glass of wine with dinner last night. Usually that turns into 3 or 4 :frown1:
     
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    That's the ticket. Swirl it around and really taste it. Those sulfites will murder your head otherwise.
     
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    congrats on keeping your sobriety!
     
  11. THEDUDEofDestiny

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    you mean now i have to do laundry too?
     
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    if i drank a drink a day i'd go mad. to me that is the worst feeling. i love hangovers, they focus the mind
     
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    To organize your life for optimum hangovers, what would you have to do? Or is there something you love more, Dude?
     
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    i am a writer by trade and what i used to do was get blind drunk after work everyday and the next morning go in to work and be really focused because usually my mind is awash in pop culture trivia and half remembered tunes. however, legal issues dictated that perhaps the days of living like a 22 year old are in the past
     
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    My little sister took up running a few miles every morning...:33:
     
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    Yes.

    Not good DUDE.
    This stuff can catch up with you real fast.
    My cousins husband had a serious drinking problem.
    Before he was 30 he didn't have a liver.
    Too young to die...
     
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    Sincere congratulations.

    If you continue on your current path, I imagine you will not have a problem finding desirable ladies with whom to socialize.
     
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    Congratulations on your sobriety!

    I've missed seeing you around.
     
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    Just curious...but do women instigate convos with men in coffeeshops?

    Also wouldn't it look a bit sad; a man on his own in a coffee shop*? Also from what I've seen of my local coffeeshop its full of students or emo kids.

    *My friends are not coffeeshop types...whatever a coffeeshop type is.

    I might quit drinking too. Not that I drink often, once a week at the most, might cut down to once every other week.

    I'd be more fun if I was drunk though...
     
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    Well, you can always go with a friend, of course, just like at a bar. You don't look sad if you're reading a book, typing on a computer, reading the paper, etc. You can also go to play chess or scrabble, if they play those things there, or bring a board, and that starts conversations and build friendships. I was a big fan of coffeeshop scrabble because there were always people I didn't know who would happily be the fourth player if you invited them, and by the time the game was over, you had a new friend. People brought other board games, too, but I had a travel scrabble set, so that was my thing. :smile:

    I honestly don't remember how many people I've struck up conversations with, but I was a regular at 4 coffeeshops and an irregular visitor at 3 others, and I've gotta tell you that I've literally met hundreds of people that way, so I had to have started at least a few of those conversations, statistically speaking, right?

    The coffeeshops I visited, and eventually moved nearby, they had lots of opportunities for people to get to know each other. There was a writing group that met there, a poetry group, several of them had an open mic night, there were slam poetry groups, and an AA group that met at one of my favorite ones before and after their meeting. It was inevitable for those groups to overlap, which was interesting, like when a lot of the members of the AA group began writing poetry and reading at open mic night.
     
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