J/o addict or horny young male?

[inofthearts]

20 yr old bi male here, and I jack off all the damn time. Alot of times I end up doing it when I should be getting work done. And its usually not just a quick wank either. We're talking a good long perusal of porn or something that can take anywhere from 1 to 3 hours. It's kind of frustrating sometimes. Like this morning when I woke up and wanted to jack off so bad. I didn't even have wood, I just wanted to jerk it. I haven't yet, but still, it's frustrating.

Sometimes I'm afraid I'm addicted to porn.

And, to top it all off, I have no idea what I think about sex. I've had my fair share of it, but looking back, its hard to say if it was the right thing to do or if I did it for the right reasons. It's all so damn confusing, and I kindof wish I could just take a step back and re-center myself, but I can't do that when I keep looking at porn. And it doesn't fuckin help that the gay world is so damn easy. I dunno. I can't tell if this is a rant or a plea for help.

Suggestions, comments, empathy, etc. are appreciated.

 

[hotnmpls2000@yahoo.com]

I don't know if this is helpful or not, but come on over

 

[freshone]

Hey there. Hard to say if you actually have a problem, but...in my completely inexpert opinion, if you feel like you're looking at too much porn, then try to lay off it for a while. Or limit yourself. Say, like, okay...today I'm not going to look at any porn, but tomorrow I'm allowed to. And then see how that feels. If you feel like it's a problem, you can try to wean yourself a bit. It just takes a little bit of will power on your part.

As to whether you jerk off too much? Who can say? You're 20. And it sounds like you're getting laid, as well as jerking off, so it's not like you're just sitting at home pulling your pud all day and not meeting anyone, right? So if it feels like you do it too much for yourself, then cut down. But I wouldn't start thinking there's anything wrong with you.

Not sure that was helpful...but I hope it is, even if just a little bit.

 

[Chuck64]

Based on what you posted here...

I don't think you're addicted to porn and I don't think the long 1 to 3 hour jerk by itself is anything to be concerned about. I do the same thing when I have time. Just don't let it get in the way of things you should be doing instead. That doesn't mean stop - just make it a quick session.

 

[ChuckRich]

I'm the EXACT same way. Always looking at porn and jerking off when I'm supposed to be doing something important. And just like you I was worried I was addicted to porn. But I figured out I'm just addicted to procrastinating. It wasn't that I needed to watch porn I just didn't feel like doing the stuff I was supposed to do. If I didn't watch porn I'd play video games or mess around on the computer or something. Porn was just my favorite of many time wasters. Sounds like you like me just have a work ethic problem not a sexual one.

 

[RideRocket]

I think it's completely normal for you to jerk off so much. You're still young and have the hormones raging away. If you get to the point where you would rather masturbate than have sex with a real person, then I think you are getting in too some gray areas that need re-looking.

As far as being addicted to porn, I don't think you are. It's normal to look at porn while masturbating - whether it's a 30 second rub or a 3 hour rub. You enjoy the feeling and want it to last because it's much more intense after 3 hours of stimulating yourself.

 

[Bryan_Lyte2]

...And, to top it all off, I have no idea what I think about sex. I've had my fair share of it, but looking back, its hard to say if it was the right thing to do or if I did it for the right reasons.... And it doesn't fuckin help that the gay world is so damn easy...

Three hours? Just kidding. I know exactly where you are coming from, but before I can just give out advice, somethings in your post confuse me. "You've had sex but didn't know if it was the right thing to do?" That alone is an attention getter. "It doesn't help that the gay world is so easy?" What kind of...Anyway there are underlying factors at work here besides the jerking alone. You need to first deal with these issues before you start to blame the jerking or the porn. This is rare but Private message me with the ENTIRE story and I'll see how to put the pieces to gether, because right now It seems like you are leaving some things out.

 

[eyemready]

Dude, you're not just wasting your own time. I've jerked off 3 times to your pic already.

 

[B_horribleperson]

you are a very sick person and need help badly

 

[Matthew]

Dude, you're not just wasting your own time. I've jerked off 3 times to your pic already.

LOL! Clearly it's contagious.

I vote "horny young man" only. Make a deal with yourself that you're only going to watch porn 2 nights a week. The other nights, go out and cruise Midtown for hot guys. There's lots of them out there. And, of course you can go out looking for hot women 30% of the time too. :wink:

 

[Tempest]

You're just horny. Nothing wrong with masturbation. I'd spend more time meeting people than looking at porn, however.

-T-

 

[John Wood13uk]

Yea you could be talking about me and I,m in 50s. I think its what keeps me young. Its when you haven't got the urge you need to worry.

In the summer I'm on the beach and others do it for me.

It does waste a lot of your time though I know what you mean I could be a millioniare if it wasn't for the wanking and buying the odd woman,(well how else do I get to have a ninteen year old at my age ?)

Don't worry too much just get more effective porn for a faster result, and I do work a lot faster after I have cum and thats out of the way for a few hours.

 

[B_duracock9x6]

I Dont Understand His Problem I Am 37 Yrs Old An I Jerk Off 4 Times A Day 7 Days Aweek

 

[ledroit]

20 yr old bi male here, and I jack off all the damn time. Alot of times I end up doing it when I should be getting work done. And its usually not just a quick wank either. We're talking a good long perusal of porn or something that can take anywhere from 1 to 3 hours. It's kind of frustrating sometimes. Like this morning when I woke up and wanted to jack off so bad. I didn't even have wood, I just wanted to jerk it. I haven't yet, but still, it's frustrating.

Sometimes I'm afraid I'm addicted to porn.

And, to top it all off, I have no idea what I think about sex. I've had my fair share of it, but looking back, its hard to say if it was the right thing to do or if I did it for the right reasons. It's all so damn confusing, and I kindof wish I could just take a step back and re-center myself, but I can't do that when I keep looking at porn. And it doesn't fuckin help that the gay world is so damn easy. I dunno. I can't tell if this is a rant or a plea for help.

Suggestions, comments, empathy, etc. are appreciated.

buddy, I would try having sex with people from time to time too. See what kind of effect that has on you. I jerk off more when I get agitated in addition to getting excited--maybe you're also working out some of the bi- stuff. Sex is both self-expression and a kind of communication.

 

[chefman]

I Dont Understand His Problem I Am 37 Yrs Old An I Jerk Off 4 Times A Day 7 Days Aweek

I am 40 and down to two times a day--No problem here!

 

[DanTheMan]

It's like any "addiction." As long as it doesn't upset your personal or professional relationships or health who cares. I find I need to 2 times a day to stay sane. Morning and after work...sometimes to help fall asleep.

 

[Hung Low in Thiva]

I suggest salt peter. That will do the trick

 

[inofthearts]

I love you guys. Thanks so much. This all really has helped.

I still have some questions though, like, how the hell do you go out and meet people? Keep in mind that my fake isn't very good. Just go sit in Caribou Coffee by myself? eh...
And I'm still not sure what I think about sex. You guys all seem to treat it like its something casual and common, but thats really not how I see it. I'd much rather have it be something meaningful.

 

[inofthearts]

I'm the EXACT same way. Always looking at porn and jerking off when I'm supposed to be doing something important. And just like you I was worried I was addicted to porn. But I figured out I'm just addicted to procrastinating. It wasn't that I needed to watch porn I just didn't feel like doing the stuff I was supposed to do. If I didn't watch porn I'd play video games or mess around on the computer or something. Porn was just my favorite of many time wasters. Sounds like you like me just have a work ethic problem not a sexual one.

That's a really good point. I will do just about anything to put off my work...
Still, it was getting out of hand there for a while. I think I've pretty much got a handle on it now. Thanks.

 

[inofthearts]

Three hours? Just kidding. I know exactly where you are coming from, but before I can just give out advice, somethings in your post confuse me. "You've had sex but didn't know if it was the right thing to do?" That alone is an attention getter. "It doesn't help that the gay world is so easy?" What kind of...Anyway there are underlying factors at work here besides the jerking alone. You need to first deal with these issues before you start to blame the jerking or the porn. This is rare but Private message me with the ENTIRE story and I'll see how to put the pieces to gether, because right now It seems like you are leaving some things out.

So I figure if I'm baring my soul, I might as well let everyone comment on it. Here's the PM I sent. Love to hear your comments.

Yeah, there is no whole story. Unless you're talking about my entire life for the last 6 years. I think you're right though, that I need to deal with all the other issues before these sex-related ones will allow themselves to work out.

Here's the nutshell version:

Mother's an alcoholic who's been in and out of rehab since I was 16. Look up the word "codependent".
First guy I dated pressured me into fucking him on the second date.
First two relationships after that were appropriate, but after bottoming for the second guy (after we had been dating for a good 2 months or so), I went a little sex-crazy I guess.
Quickly bounced to my next boy, had a couple 3-somes with him. Each successive relationship after that was of lower and lower quality.
Most recent relationship was 8 months long and was completely meaningless after the first month. Cheated twice. And I think cheaters are the lowest life-form on earth.
And the guys around here are really sex oriented. Maybe moreso with me? I rarely feel like a guy is talking to me for any other reason than that I'm hot. It's a real turn-off.
And to top it all off, I haven't really made many friends in college cause I'm a fucking Computer Science major at Georgia Tech and most of these nerds are just lame most of the time. I've finally got a bit of a base of gay friends that I hang with on the weekends, but I'm still lonely alot of the week.

Ugh.

Yeah, so I don't want this to be a pity party, but I'd love to hear what you guys think.