J/o addict or horny young male?

[Chuck64]

And I'm still not sure what I think about sex. You guys all seem to treat it like its something casual and common, but thats really not how I see it. I'd much rather have it be something meaningful.

A very wise man once said to me...

Anyone can be a whore. Really.

Words to live by. In today's culture, sex is pretty casual - meaningless and inpersonal, as weird as it sounds. At least most of the sluts still play safe. OK. I'll get off my soapbox.

My point is, just because everyone else is a whore doesn't mean you have to be.

Edit: OK... I just read the PM about your "sexual history." I think your biggest problem is a lack of friends. I know what you mean about the CS majors. I'm a CS major myself, and except for relatives (the joys of a small town), I don't have any friends from my classes.

Other than that, it sounds like you're looking for a meaningful LTR. I think that's a great goal. I suggest you try to avoid the club/bar scene. Do some volunteer work, join a gay organization on campus, try to branch out through your friends - meet some of their friends. Worst case scenario, you meet more people and you make some friends.

 

[LTAA]

It's the hormones man...

 

[Normal_Guy1]

at 20 and in college, there is nothing better to do than jerk and fuck...everyone just deals differently

 

[B_DWTS00]

20 yr old bi male here, and I jack off all the damn time. Alot of times I end up doing it when I should be getting work done. And its usually not just a quick wank either. We're talking a good long perusal of porn or something that can take anywhere from 1 to 3 hours. It's kind of frustrating sometimes. Like this morning when I woke up and wanted to jack off so bad. I didn't even have wood, I just wanted to jerk it. I haven't yet, but still, it's frustrating.

Sometimes I'm afraid I'm addicted to porn.

And, to top it all off, I have no idea what I think about sex. I've had my fair share of it, but looking back, its hard to say if it was the right thing to do or if I did it for the right reasons. It's all so damn confusing, and I kindof wish I could just take a step back and re-center myself, but I can't do that when I keep looking at porn. And it doesn't fuckin help that the gay world is so damn easy. I dunno. I can't tell if this is a rant or a plea for help.

Suggestions, comments, empathy, etc. are appreciated.

mmm you sound hypersexual like me, or is this just a phase?? if it is then theres another reason behind it.

Today I woke up and spent 6 hours jacking off 1st thing, no food, no nothing, 6 hours and 5-10 mins in between times, I came 9 times all with cum suprinsingly lol :biggrin1: .

Even though this might not be normal to most people I think it is, If it's not making you skip work or take care of important things, then its fine, free time is free time, do whatever you want with it.

 

[D_Martin van Burden]

Yeah, I agree how you're really going through a couple of issues at the same time. It's just convenient that being horny and jerking off a lot covers up an emotional need for you to get connected to some other people -- friends, lovers, or whatever. I think the biggest challenge is mustering up the courage to go into social settings alone, just to give yourself the opportunity to meet people on your own terms. Even better, look up your local media to find out different summertime events. Venture out to an art show or to a museum crawl or a hiking trip. You never know who you can find out there if you give yourself the chance to do it.

Besides, your dick's gonna be there the whole time. If it sucks, just go back to the dorm and beat off. You're entertained either way.

 

[D_Coyne Toss]

Your hormones are roaring mate, i know because it is the same for me.

I think this should not worry you until it does not interfere with your life. Maybe if masturbating prevents you from meeting people, getting out, working or studying you should consider asking for some help.

Otherwise go for it mate, we are young, and if you have to decide between masturbation at a porn and unprotected sex, chose the first.

 

[D_Sheffield Thongbynder]

I agree with DeeBlackthorne -- two separate issues you're dealing with. That you have a strong sex drive that leads to frequent masturbation is nothing to worry about (there are many of us at this site who share that). Staying home and watching porn instead of meeting people, on the other hand, is something you need to deal with. Atlanta has a large gay population. Ask around and see what there is for you. Probably not much happening at the Rambling Wreck, though.