Hook up with a third person who can host!!!
Go camping, go work out at the gym and hit the sauna, head for the beach, send the wives on a girls night out and crank up the porn.
I'm full of ideas. Now if I could just get them going...
Let's say you are two married prospective j/o buddies who want to get together. Naturally, the respective domiciles are out of the question. Where could you go for a nice afternoon of man-fun other than a motel?