Jealous of best friend

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by CascadeMDG, Oct 3, 2009.

  1. CascadeMDG

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    So I know my best friend is hung. I've watched it in use and even played with it myself a couple times. He always has women throwing themselves at him and has had sex with more of them that I can count. This includes strangers he meets at clubs or coffee shops, his boss' wife, friends, threesomes, of all ages. Part of me thinks I should be disgusted by this, because he's cheated on girlfriends many times and everytime he tells me something I keep it just between us because he's my buddy.

    On the other hand, I think it's incredibly hot. It also doesn't help that I'm gay and keep picturing him in all these situations, which turns me on. Lately I can't tell if I'm developing sexual feelings for him, or if I'm just jealous of all the attention he gets. But every time we hang out, I can't help but think of that big dick between his legs. Any advice?
     
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    You're both. Also, you're not just jealous of all the attention he's getting. You're jealous of those other people that get his attention; you want his sexual attention too. My advice would be to stop being around this person so much. Find a guy that you can respect and that turns you on as much as your friend does.
     
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    Maybe you should just let it play out, but also be honest. If he has jerked off in front of you then I am sure he likes showing off his equipment. Why not just be happy with that? If you want more then ask. If he's a straight show-off then he'll probably say 'no', but if he's at all curious, then you'll get that cock that you've been admiring.

    If all else fails, a rufie and some black vodka will do the trick.
     
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    A bit of both like the above poster said. You seem to be sexually attracted to him and jealous of the attention that others are getting and you're not. If you're truly curious then see how far it could go, would he ever do anything with you? If not then I'm sure he'd make a great JO buddy for you. If your feelings start getting a little too intense then it might be time to step off a little bit, it can be very unhealthy and stressful to want something you know you can't have.
     
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    My best friend is really hung, and I get off on the jealousy I feel toward him. Try to enjoy it.
     
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    What do you mean you've plYed with it a couple of times? Have you jerked him off already? If so it would seem that he would be open to some attention from you.
     
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    The green-eyed monster of jelousy can be a hard one to tame. Most well hung men assume that other men are envious of them, to varying degrees, of course. Since he is a friend, you might try admitting your jelousy to him, in a playful, joking, non-threatening way. Odds are he will take it in good humor. You might actually enjoy the dialogue, and pehaps you would begin feeling better about the whole thing.
     
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    Thanks for the advice guys.
    Maybe to get some clarification out there, I've taken up invitations from him to watch him have sex with a few different women. On top of that when I say "played with it," that's a really diplomatic way of saying that he and I have done the dirty. But it really fucked with his head, and he didn't talk to me for two months afterwards.
    That was a few years ago. Since then we've been as close as always, but he's made it pretty clear that kinda stuff won't be happening again. I suppose I'm holding on to that memory too tightly hoping that he changes his mind, which as stated isn't exactly healthy. I'm grateful he's still my best friend, so I should find a way to get past it.
     
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    i feel for ya, jealousy is extremely hard to deal with sometimes. other times, you may deal perfectly fine. hell, i'm jealous of huge hung guys because of stories i've heard from close friends, things i see here and elsewhere on the net, porn, yada yada, and don't know anyone myself hung this way that i've actually had the chance to experience or play with. having HAD it i can imagine only makes the dark side of jealousy that much more painful, and having it still there, in your life, again, unrequited and continually unsatisfied.

    the crappy reality of it all is, you can't have him 100% to yourself obviously. you do get him some % of the time. so this, like everything else in life it seems, comes down to trying to find a way to really appreciate what you DO have in the moment you have it, dropping the dissatisfaction that comes with not having what you want when you want it. a path of zen...

    yeah, easy to diagnose, a bitch to live ;-p
     
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    There's some thing else that's there beyound the green eye monster of jealousy. When folks are acting like sluts they are looking to vaildated, yes he may have a big dick and yes folks may want it and he's doing it because it's feeding into his ego.

    Also he goes and tell you about it (and you play with his dick), I think he likes you but at the same time he wants to you know that he's great catch because other people want him too.

    You could be jealous not of the dick...maybe cause you like him too...

    There's this song that Anita Baker sings You belong to me:
    You don't have to prove to me
    You're beautiful to strangers
    I've got loving eyes of my own
    of my own

    You belong to me

    Why'd you tell me this?
    Were you looking for my reaction?
    what do you need to know?
    Don't you know I'll always be your girl?
    You do not have to prove to me
    You're beautiful to strangers
    I've got loving eyes of my own,
    Of my own, I can tell
    You belong to me
    tell her you were fooling
    You belong to me, baby
     
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    Truer words. But since you wrote the book, would you lend it to me?
     
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    Sounds crazy. Don't fall for a guy that you can't have.
     
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