Jealous of Bigger Friends

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    jjdov26: hi everyone.

    This topic might be a little different. I am an average guy -- 5.5 long, 5 around when hard, but find that when I find out that a friend of mine is bigger than I am, I often fantasize about him fucking my girlfriend or ex-girlfriends. I'm a striaght guy and am not particularly worried about my orientation. But I thought I would throw this comment out there for any of you big guys to respond to.

    Have any of you striaght guys had a smaller dicked friend that had similar feelings?

    anyone can reply, but am more interested in comments from other straight guys.
     
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    TooDamnBig: [quote author=jjdov26 link=board=relationships;num=1034129362;start=0#0 date=10/08/02 at 19:09:22]
    hi everyone.

    I am an average guy -- 5.5 long, 5 around when hard, but find that when I find out that a friend of mine is bigger than I am, I often fantasize about him fucking my girlfriend or ex-girlfriends.  [/quote]

    What is the nature of the fantasy? Are you watching him fuck her? From a distance? Close up? What are you looking at?
     
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    jjdov26: most of the time I'm not in the fantasy at all. Meaning I have no point of view. I simply imaging these friends pumping her. i imagine what sounds she makes, imagine her comments to them about their size. that kind of stuff. think about how much deeper they can go. wondering what it is like.
     
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    TooDamnBig: [quote author=jjdov26 link=board=relationships;num=1034129362;start=0#2 date=10/08/02 at 19:28:12]most of the time I'm not in the fantasy at all.  Meaning I have no point of view.  I simply imaging these friends pumping her.  i imagine what sounds she makes, imagine her comments to them about their size.  that kind of stuff.  think about how much deeper they can go.  wondering what it is like.  [/quote]

    You have this same fantasy about other women with big-dicked guys, or just about your g/f's?

    You think your g/f's are not quite sexually satisfied with your cock?
     
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    jjdov26: other women too, but mostly girlfriends.

    Sometimes fantasize about me fucking their girlfriends and how different that would be from what they were used to.

    No girlfriend of mine has ever complained
     
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    TooDamnBig: [quote author=jjdov26 link=board=relationships;num=1034129362;start=0#4 date=10/08/02 at 20:56:11]

    No girlfriend of mine has ever complained[/quote]

    But how do you fantasize about your g/f's acting differently with bigger cocks pumpin 'em? you imagine them moaning more or lounder? cumming faster or more often?
     
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    jjdov26: god yes
     
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    TooDamnBig: [quote author=jjdov26 link=board=relationships;num=1034129362;start=0#6 date=10/08/02 at 21:24:01]
    god yes[/quote]

    I think that's every guy's fantasy. :)
     
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    Donk: I have never had a friend confess to me that he had similar feelings/fantasies, but my guess is that several of them have. Most of my male friends who have learned about my size have expressed some level of fascination with it.

    The closest anyone has come to actually confessing thoughts similar to yours is one friend who told me that his girlfriend, who had heard about my size (obviously from him) wanted to have a threesome. He presented this to me as the gf's idea (which, knowing her, it probably was), but it seemed to excite him too. For the record I did NOT do it and would not do it, so don't bother asking.

    (I should clarify that this "threesome" would not involve any physical contact between me and my friend. He made clear that it would only involve m/f physical contact. He said she wanted to have sex with me, but he had to at least be present. Regardless, I do not do this kind of stuff.)
     
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    bradleeM: Oh Donk, come on, live a little, experience a new thrill, give a new thrill, you might enjoy it more than you know! ;D

    Seriously, I have been in two situations like that! Both guys were smaller and could not believe that I could get my fat one in a woman!!! I was surprised because I always felt that there are very few vaginas that cannot handle a cock of any size if prepared properly. Anyway they both commented on watching me have intercourse while they were doing the same ( one was two couples in twin beds side by side; the other was me and buddy with one woman, one that we picked up together). They both said it was thrilling to watch my johnson go to town and making the women squeal!! Of course that fueled my ego for a bit and it was fun! But when I saw their erections I could understand why they felt the way they did. They were both str8 and I am bi. But one had a pencil penis and the other was just 5 inches by 4, not that thick.
     
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    Icarus213: It's almost the same thing with porn- watching a guy with a big tool have sex with a woman. Except in a threesome you are actually there with them. I can understand why even straight guys would get off seeing a hung guy do it with them watching.
     
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    meathose10: I'm guessing this "using" a bud's bigger cock thing is pretty common .(good point about the porn , btw ) I recently got friendly with a new neighbor. He seemed kind of uptight and conservative. Pleated slacks , a tie , precise haircut - I'm more old jeans and Tshirts with a hand through the hair for grooming. Surprisingly we had a lot of interests in common. A few weeks ago we played raquetball together and he saw me nude for the first time. Right away he looked at my cock , whistled and said " I'd like to see my wife tackle that." Obviously , he's small. It's especially thin. I was floored my his blunt remark. (I'd known him 2 weeks!) And titillated - his wife's a looker. I laughed kind of uncomfortably and let the topic drop , but I was more aware than usual of what's slung between my legs as we showered. I watched him stare at it. Soaped it up half-hard...
    About a week after that we hit the courts again. This time when we changed he said: "You could hurt someone with that thing," and sort of winked. Then in the car on the way back he said: "I'm serious. I want to watch you open Sarah up." I think I grinned and shrugged when I dropped him off. Now me and a small guy with one chick isn't foreign to me. And I've enjoyed fucking for an envious observer more than once. It's just that I'm taken by surprise here , and he's practically next door. I keep fantasizing about it. (involving his voyeurism more than her body , to tell the truth ) So far Ihaven't made a move or even a decision. I'm not sure what's holding me back. Anybody had a similiar situation ?
     
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    Icarus213: I am glad I brought up the porn topic, then, because it sounds a bit like the same situation, meat. If someone said, "Hey, I would love to have you star in a film I am making and see you in action..." you might have the same reaction. Yeah, a cool thought, but would I REALLY consider it? Most guys here most likely wouldn't, but who doesn't get turned on thinking of themselves as a porn star?

    Of course it goes without saying that you shouldn't feel pressured to do it even if it turns you on- do what you feel comfortable with. But that exhibitionist streak (I think you mentioned in other posts that you like awed reactions) is probably fueling your fascination with it. Just make the choice with the right head, as always. ;D
     
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    Alligator_Jack: oh yeah, i had sex with a girl like that once, she said it was called being a cuck hold, me being the larger cock, her husband was real shrimpy, like the size of my index finger, and i did it a few times, i felt really guilty tho, like i was ruining their marraige
     
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    jakeson12000: jjdov26,
    I know exactly what you mean... I have the exact same fantasies. I'm totally straight too as I love my girlfriend and all the other tight bodies, huge racks and small little asses out there... theres nothing better... so buddy I wouldn't be worried about which team I was playing on either. I have a decently sized 7.25" hard dick but its super small flacid, ranging from about 2.5-4". I also have really small, tight balls... no hanging going on here. I totally get turned on by thinking of my girlfriend with guys with bigger balls or dicks. I think about whether she would react differently to them, if she would like it more... etc. I also don't feel that I cum that much, so I get really turned on by thinking about her being with someone who could cum more than me. I thought I was totally fucked in the head for thinking this stuff... its like a wierd inferiority complex that turns me on and so nice to hear someone else has it too. I have even tried to get her to say stuff to me while we're doing whatever... and it so turns me on. But she doesn't do it condescendingly enough, I want her to be like "... I wish your balls were bigger, there so frickin' small"... you know? Something like that.
    I used to play hockey and couldn't believe the size of some of the guys I saw. I never had a complaint from any girlfriends, but all I ever thought about was if they only knew about the huge guys out there. There was some guys that were easily longer than me when they were soft then when I was hard. Especially one guy, huge, long, thick dick with big hanging balls. I remember one time in the shower it was another guy and I and this huge guy. He was totally trying to show it off to us and he was even talking about how big it was. I think that may have been the first time I realized how I liked that inferiority/domination thing. The worst (or best) part of this experience was just how much bigger he was than my friend and I. I don't know if my dick is wierd... but it totally shrinks after being in a jock for a game. It was super small (smaller than my usual flacid state) maybe 2" (balls even more embarrasingly tight and small than normal... like you could hold them in two fingers). My friend wasn't doing any better. Maybe 1.5" long, bigger balls though, but still super tight. The guy we were showering with was easily 8" completely soft... I'll never forget it. It was totally crazy. His balls hung down probably about 6" or so, and they were absolutely huge. Not even the hanging got to me as much as the shear size of his nuts. I just remember thinking how many times bigger, considering the width and length of his cock and also the size of his balls, this guy was than my friend and I put together. It was seriously embarassing. I often imagine bringing in my current girlfriend into that situation and having her walk in on the three of us. I even think about her start to laugh at how small I am compared to this guy. Then basically I think about how much more she would want to handle this huge guy than my little dick that she can fit easily into the palm of her small hand or into her little mouth.
    I also get so turned on by how much more other guys can fill out there underwear than me. I think about girls that may right want me until they see me stading next to some huge guy, both of us in our underwear. Him stretching his out to its max, me not even pressing against the material. I remember (back in the dressing room) guys totally packing there briefs or boxers full, to the point where it was like, okay buddy time for bigger pair, those are going to burst. And then there was my little soft cock and small tight little balls barely showing any indication of them even being present in whatever underwear I had on.
    This happened in jocks too. I couldn't even come close to filling my kids sized jock when I was soft, and then my parents went out (during the puberty years, as any good parents would) and got me a medium sized adult cup. Well, that was a mistake. I don't think I ever felt the edges of that thing... it just kind of sat there on me. Then I remember the guys complaining about how tight their medium jocks were on them. One guy started telling me, being dead serious, how he couldn't take it because his jock only covered part of his dick and one nut. This guy was also huge. Whatever underwear he had on, you could bet that his soft dick would be pushing out the bottom and that his heavy balls would be stretching out the material. I often wondered if these big guys really got a kick out of all the small guys admiring their hugeness. It was totally open in our dressing room, I guess when you shower with someone 5 nights a week you get pretty comfortable. There was also a guy who everyone knew was insanely thick and hung who just got a new jock, extra large of course, and he was complaining about how it still wasn't big enough. Then there was me swimming with room in my medium. Embarrasing, yes. Playing hockey for so many years I've got so many memories of things like this. Sorry this post is so frickin' long... I guess I had a lot to say.
     
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    Steve26: Hi, Jakeson -- You're free to have whatever fantasies float your boat. BUT ... keep in mind that very few girls care how big a guy is when he's soft. I can't imagine any girl worth bothering with would make a big deal out of it.

    In fact, there are a lot of us here who would say you've got the best of both worlds -- a cock that's VERY respectable when hard but doesn't get in the way of your everyday life. Locker room showoffs aside, there are a lot of downsides to a cock that's huge when soft. Even the locker room thing is a mixed blessing: I personally wish I had a lot fewer freaks gawking at me when I hit the showers, and I'm "only" 5-6" soft.

    Another thing to keep in mind is that guys you see in the locker room who are 8" soft may not get any bigger when they're hard. (Look for posts here on "growers" and "showers.") So ... at the times when it really counts, you're essentially just as well-equipped as they are.

    Steve ;)
     
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    miket: Every guy compares and I totally understand where jakeson1200 is coming from though as Steve26 says you are bigger when hard than your small soft prick would imply. I always wonder if the girl would moan more and be much happier with my large hung friends. When a guy is hanging large it is somewhat intimidating and somewhat a turn on to think of how he could use that on my girl. When we guys are naked and letting ourselves just be men together whether a small dick is sticking straight out or a large thick one is hanging there is a sense of bonding (though there is a certain ranking amongst ourselves) but to imagine the women coming in and snickering at us smaller and average dudes and lusting for the big dudes adds a whole other dynamic that is a turn on.
     
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    One time my friend saw my penis and did not speak to me for weeks. I assume it was because of that, but I'm not sure.
     
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    If you desire to see a big dick guy working over your gf and her making sounds/expressions you've never seen, and it turns you on to hear about her former big guy(s) as you desire her to tell you in every detail what those big guys did to her and how she much she responded, then that falls under sph (there are some rare cases in which it isn't sph in that a guy doesn't have jealousy/ego about this and gets great pleasure out of seeing her pleased under any circumstance. Those guys tend to become swingers). If you don't desire to see it happen but are curious whether she would react more with a bigger dick plowing her out then that often falls under insecurity (or become concerned she has been nailed by a bigger one(s) in the past and that she may have reacted more). It is possible for one to wonder about it without being insecure, that is if one merely briefly ponders whether there is logic to bigger being better, and then moves on or decides bigger isn't better.
     
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