jealous of roommate. He gets laid every night and me not so much

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:mad::mad:Back story. In December my roommate and I moved into this killer loft right in the middle of downtown. I felt like I was finally getting my after college life started. We both have decent paying jobs, reliable cars, and did I mention killer bachelor pad. We both met girls from various dating websites and actually went on dates around the same time. Here is where the jealous feeling role in. My roommate has by now met 8 women and usually by date 2 has fucked all of them. I have met 5 and have fucked none. Really??? What the hell. How is it, he gets this luck and I have none. And it's not like these women he brings back to our place stupid, sluttish, or anything like that. I guess he must have really good game. I ask him to share his wisdom and knowledge and what he tells me he does is the same things I have done on my dates with no luck:confused: someone please help me. I need to get laid asap. I should also mention I am looking more for a fuck buddy then a girlfriend........HELP:eek:

The truth is all men are not created equal.
We're simply not the same.

He can't advise you because he's not in your skin.
He may be doing EXACTLY the same things you're doing but it works for him based on the nature of his genetic attributes. The way he looks, the way he acts, the way he smells, the way he moves.
These attributes were favored earlier in his life & he had practice cultivating his expression & essence. Every positive experience gives him more chances in the future to have MORE positive experiences. He's simply reaping the harvest of seeds planted long before.

What works for him may not work for you because you are of a different essence & have different expressions. You don't know how to make that essence & those expressions work for you yet.
And here's the worst part.
The scientists simply don't know that much about sex & attraction.
They don't. And that's why we're all lost.
For God's sake they're still debating on the existence & location of the G-spot!

If you could accurately identify your type of essence, intuitively know your expressions & also understand which people those essences & expressions are compatible with, you could target any compatible woman, woo her, date her, & make love to her.

Your roomate doesn't really KNOW exactly how it works either. He lucked into it & is just riding the train. He's just doing what worked before & it keeps working so he keeps doing the same things. Before his first positive interaction, he was just as lost as you.

All the advice you got on here...chuck it out the window.
Nobody really knows too much about sex & attraction & how to guarantee successful interactions. YES they can be guaranteed contrary to popular opinion.
Until the scientists get a clue on how this machine really operates, you're stuck with Trial & Error.

You're just going to have to try a variety of different strategies to up your success rate. Once you stumble upon one that works, try to repeat those behaviors & see if it gets you better results. Mix & match successful strategies to come up with a better overall strategy.
This combination strategy may not be foolproof but your failure rate will be less & you won't feel as jealous of your roommate.

We're similar but we're all different. That's the maddening part. It sounds good to say to someone 'if it worked for me it will work for you'. But that's just not true.
All human beings are thrust upon this Earth without instruction manuals & we gotta try to discover these lost pages all through our lives never fully understanding how we operate.

You can't follow him & what he's doing. You must go inside & discover not only how YOU operate but how you & your operation can cooperate with others. This takes a lifetime & even then you only have a sliver of useful information.
John Lucas
 
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