Jealousy of bigger guys

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I tend to think of myself as better than this, but it turns out I'm not. Was in the shower yesterday and a guy walked up to a nearby shower head. I glanced briefly at his dick. He was a black guy -- and, as per the stereotype (which I know isn't always accurate), he had about six or eight inches just hanging there. He wasn't hard at all. Made me burn with jealousy. :mad:

THen I just saw this video, and again I burn with jealous: http://www.lpsg.com/Video-22127-young-strong-and-hung-webcam.html#watch LOL :biggrin1:

How do you get rid of this kind of thing? I suppose it's just a fact of life that we have to accept. Males are actually, probably, the main "size queens," no matter the orientation. It's just the way the male mind works. We equate penis size with masculinity, and therefore anyone with a bigger dick is more of a man; that's what we believe.

I don't know. Discuss. I guess. :rolleyes:
 
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Can't see the video :( Realllllyy wish I could. I love monster massive as big as you can get dicks. I wish I had one myself :( Planning to do exercises to make it that way ;] As big as i can.
 
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I hear ya. I'm jealous of absolutely everyone...and I wish I knew what to do about it! I'm in a long term, commited relationship with someone who loves me and who has never once complained about my size. I have a great job doing what I love, and while we don't make a ton of money, it's enough. My gf has got a dangerously curvey, "make-a-bishop-kick-out-a-stained-glass-window" kind of body that is the subject of every one of my sexual fantasies. I've got nothing to complain about. However, there is no doubt that I have been short-changed in the cock department...and I HATE IT!!!! I know it's irrational, but it makes me feel like less of a man, and it sucks because there is absolutely nothing I can do about it. Even if I jelqued every day and used traction devices,etc...the best I could hope for would be an inch or two, and for someone in my position that is just a drop in the bucket. Plus, my gf is not a very sexual person, but the few times I've used a dildo or an extension with her she has really reacted positively, even though she is always reluctant to try it.

So even though there are many more important things in life that I've been blessed with, I am very frequently distracted by my hatred of my own junk and jealousy of others.

So...if you're looking for a kindred spirit in the jealously department, you've got it! And if you want to feel better about yourself, just look at my pics.
 

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woah. just saw your pictures. are you about three inches erect or something? that's what it looks like in the pictures. i'm about twice your size then. I'm perfectly average, on the larger side of average actually. but still it would be great to be seven or even eight inches. i don't konw. this is a weird problem to have. maybe it's along the lines of the male version of female body issues like anorexia -- girls who always think they're fat. i don't know.
 

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actually, i think i may be the most pathetic -- because my penis isn't small per se. it's not an issue of it being micro-phallus or anything, like where it causes me problems. when I am fully hard i can even look impressive. one of the greatest compliments i ever got was when a black girl saw my erection just before she was about to suck it and she went "wow!" so, my problem isn't that it's small. it's on the bigger side of average. my problem is that i'm greedy. why should some guys have seven or eight or nine or more inches, when i'm stuck with six and a half? it's not fair. LOL
 

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I hear ya. I'm jealous of absolutely everyone...and I wish I knew what to do about it! I'm in a long term, commited relationship with someone who loves me and who has never once complained about my size. I have a great job doing what I love, and while we don't make a ton of money, it's enough. My gf has got a dangerously curvey, "make-a-bishop-kick-out-a-stained-glass-window" kind of body that is the subject of every one of my sexual fantasies. I've got nothing to complain about. However, there is no doubt that I have been short-changed in the cock department...and I HATE IT!!!! I know it's irrational, but it makes me feel like less of a man, and it sucks because there is absolutely nothing I can do about it. Even if I jelqued every day and used traction devices,etc...the best I could hope for would be an inch or two, and for someone in my position that is just a drop in the bucket. Plus, my gf is not a very sexual person, but the few times I've used a dildo or an extension with her she has really reacted positively, even though she is always reluctant to try it.

So even though there are many more important things in life that I've been blessed with, I am very frequently distracted by my hatred of my own junk and jealousy of others.

So...if you're looking for a kindred spirit in the jealously department, you've got it! And if you want to feel better about yourself, just look at my pics.
Wow, those gold bra pics are just wow.
Without slip it would be the best I ever saw...
And don't be jealous, I'm jealous that I can't feel such melons...
 

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Close, about 3.5" actually. If I dropped about 50 pounds I'd probably gain another inch. My girth is just under 5" around. :frown1:

woah. just saw your pictures. are you about three inches erect or something? that's what it looks like in the pictures. i'm about twice your size then. I'm perfectly average, on the larger side of average actually. but still it would be great to be seven or even eight inches. i don't konw. this is a weird problem to have. maybe it's along the lines of the male version of female body issues like anorexia -- girls who always think they're fat. i don't know.
 

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Glad you like the pics...I love to share the wealth! I'm amazed by her body every day and am so thankful I get to be with her. Also glad she's not a size queen, otherwise she'd be gone in a heartbeat!:frown1:

Wow, those gold bra pics are just wow.
Without slip it would be the best I ever saw...
And don't be jealous, I'm jealous that I can't feel such melons...
 

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I'm from the other side of the fence - while I won't be so stupid as to say I don't wish I had what I had, I can't imagine having a dick that size.

I've had my share of women that have found it too big or had to get used to it, but I think if I were any bigger it would just be too much.

Just to say the envy can be nice, but even at my size it can be a pain in the ass, can't imagine what they go through. Bragging rights are nice, but if it's too big and you can't use it like you should, it's just a waste.
 

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just clicked to see yours. can't see it becuase i'm not a friend. suffice it to say i don't have a problem getting fully hard. lol
 

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... It's just the way the male mind works. We equate penis size with masculinity, and therefore anyone with a bigger dick is more of a man; that's what we believe ...

While I think that a big dick can certainly serve as a symbol of masculinity I'd have to disagree with the notion of equating penis size with masculinity. There are so many characteristics that define masculinity and femininity that, for me at least, penis size doesn't even enter the equation.

But I definitely relate to the male penis-envy factor when encountering a truly hung guy. I really believe the reaction is more fundamental than feeling that you're less of a man. To me it's more along the lines of the grass being greener on the other side of the fence, coveting something that you can't have or daydreaming of a different life than the one you're living. That's just human nature. But true happiness can best be found in wanting and loving what you already have.
 
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While I think that a big dick can certainly serve as a symbol of masculinity I'd have to disagree with the notion of equating penis size with masculinity. There are so many characteristics that define masculinity and femininity that, for me at least, penis size doesn't even enter the equation.

But I definitely relate to the male penis-envy factor when encountering a truly hung guy. I really believe the reaction is more fundamental than feeling that you're less of a man. To me it's more along the lines of the grass being greener on the other side of the fence, coveting something that you can't have or daydreaming of a different life than the one you're living. That's just human nature. But true happiness can best be found in wanting and loving what you already have.
I like what you say, Silvertip.
 

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I'm similar. My penis envy started in junior high when, to compound things, I was a slow maturer and I'm a grower - when I'm cold or nervous - it can be tiny...major shrinkage. But normal flaccid now is about 3 inches and fully erect bone pressed is 5.5 - gotten to almost 6 on a very good day. I'd be thrilled with 6.5...not sure why an inch seems to be that big of a deal to me. Don't fully understand it. And my bf likes my dick and wouldn't want it any bigger when we flip. My head is slightly bigger than his but he has a really nice 7 incher.
 

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While I think that a big dick can certainly serve as a symbol of masculinity I'd have to disagree with the notion of equating penis size with masculinity. There are so many characteristics that define masculinity and femininity that, for me at least, penis size doesn't even enter the equation.

I don't believe guys with bigger dicks actually are "more manly" than me. But I think that deep down inside that's how I "feel," or something. If the dick is a symbol of masculinity -- then wouldn't it be great to have a "big" symbol?
 

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I hear you, OP. I get the same feeling, and I have an above average hang soft and a very nice hard size. If I'm honest, I also get a bit jealous of the guy who has a bigger house than I do, the one with more money in the bank, the one with a sexier wife, more successful children, faster car, better abs, bigger biceps, etc. In fact, if I start down the comparison road, I can quickly become a malcontent, despite the fact that I have more of just about everything in the world than the majority of people on the planet. But that perspective doesn't seem to help my irrational jealousy of the guy with the big cock.

I remember a friend of mine from work with whom I used to work out at the company gym. When we first started going there he was pretty discreet about showing his package so I assumed he was embarrassed because he wasn't very big. He was a fairly small built guy, not particularly muscular or anything, and, frankly, I knew I was smarter than he was (another area of comparison) by numerous talks we'd had. I was more educated, too. He had a hot wife, but mine is no slouch, so....you get the drift. So I was feeling pretty good that I was winning in our imaginary contest of whose dick was bigger (because really that's what the other comparisons are about I've come to think) until he got comfortable enough to drop trou in front of me. OMG he was hung like a horse. Of course I don't know if he was any bigger than I am hard, but soft he was damn impressive. Suddenly his slight build was an advantage because it made it cock look even bigger. Now I getting all self-conscious about my size, kicking myself for feeling confident, and feeling, suddenly, less smart and not so successful.

I think it's about dominance (the alpha male is the one with the biggest dick, right?), envy, jealousy, and a whole lot of other base instincts that I'd just as soon put behind me.

But I'd really like to have a big ol' 8" softie to swing in the showers at the Y every morning, too. ;-)
 

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I am currently fighting penis envy within my own relationship. I am at least superficially aware that while my own penis may not be huge, it's also nothing to scoff at (6in long, 5in around...slightly above several surveyed averages). In fact, I'm quite proud of my erect penis. It's rock solid, I tend to shoot a lot, and far, and (when I play my cards right) I last forever.

Then I met my boyfriend, who is bigger soft than I am hard, and I find myself feeling like I pale in comparison and wonder how he could possibly want or be attracted to me. I hang at a mere 3 inches when soft, whereas he flops around and hangs "lockerroom proud". He assures me that my cock is perfect, and is perfect for him (if it were much bigger, he says, he wouldn't enjoy playing with it because the extra work would take away the fun). Then I realised that it's not when hard that I envy him, but when he's soft...

If I'm going to be perfectly honest, the thing that bothers me the most is that he shows through his pants and I don't, and I worry about people judging me by comparison. I'm jealous that I don't turn heads. I'm not necessarily jealous that people have treated him as just a walking, talking enormous schlong, but I am definitely self-conscious that he shows and I don't. We've talked about it a little, and he reassures me that it's not all it's cracked up to be, and that he'd trade with me in a heartbeat (as long as he didn't have to bottom for me :p).

Though I still have years of self-deprication to work through, I am becoming more and more comfortable with the fact that I'm not hung like seabiscuit, and that's okay. The surprising thing about it is that it's my horse-hung boyfriend who is helping me through.

For me, penis envy is less about "masculinity" and more about pride. My cock is good, but it isn't exceptional. It's nothing out of the ordinary, nor something to brag about. It's a penis, and it does its job, and that's about it. I have so few things on my body that I am proud of- every bit of me is average. Average weight, very lean, tall (but not remarkably tall), sharp (but not classically masculine) facial features, average penis. Penis envy is a good outlet for all the things we see wrong with ourselves, and that is why I think it's so prevalent.

I motion that we form an Average Penis Support Group :p (okay, perhaps not, but it's time to recognise that average can be just as good, if not better.)

It's like I always say, "Some say average, I say user-friendly".