Ok, first let me say that though I am not very old, the majority of my relationships have been long term, and committed. I was married for two years, part of that time being a stay at home wife (requested by the ex) and have never EVER encountered anything like this. Secondly, I know that masturbation is normal, for both sexes and healthy. I would never be pissed at someone who did it, and never really cared much to even know when it was going on... I guess you can say that so long as I am sexually fulfilled than I don't really see the problem. Ok now that that's out of the way, here's my issue. After my divorce, approx. 6 months after I started dating this guy, and we were together for two years. About a month or so in to the relationship I started getting sexually frustrated because though I stayed at his house pretty much every night, we weren't I having sex. I'd probably say once a week, if that. So one day, since he works considerably early I snuck in to the bathroom to "surprise" him with whatever he wanted. I pull back the shower curtain to find him wailing away at himself. Scared him shitless. If I had been sexually fulfilled, I know I wouldn't have gave a shit. I actually find the entire idea of masturbation intriguing, and have actually encouraged it in the past with exes. But for this instance I was completely devastated. I couldn't understand how he could prefer his hand, instantly feeling like I just was not good enough in bed, or that something was wrong with me. Upon asking him about it, he said that he has been jacking off in the shower since he was old enough to sustain an erection, so it's habit. Fair enough.... But why would he prefer it over a real pussy? I'm not a sexual prude... But couldn't understand, because I had tried that morning to be intimate, tried the night before, and always the same answer---- too tired, or not "in the mood". I even went so far as to saying, at least be sexually open with me, tell me to help you. I give great head, or use my body as your cum canvas. I opened all kind of possibilities for him.... Didn't work- Over the remaining 1.5 years I caught him jacking off more and more, sometimes three times a day... Yet we were only sexually intimate once a week. At one point he admitted that in some ways he didn't find me sexually attractive, too much on the heavier side for him... Not a good kisser.... Etc. Eventually, I left him. I just couldn't do his bullshit anymore, it wasn't just the masturbation issue, but other things, as he had become financially dependent on me... Fast forward 6 months... I start being happy instead of so miserable and down on myself. I am healthy, camping, hiking... Going to the gym. Regaining confidence, and steadily holding down a couple fb's... Just kind of dating, but not anything serious.. Serial jack-off king calls.. Current girlfriend left him... He's crushed. So we talk. And I missed him... Long story short we have been trying again for about three months. Sexually it's not as bad as before. I am more satisfied, even though our schedules conflict. At the beginning of last week, we discuss master ation because I had been doing it when I don't get to see him for a couple days, at least we arent both awake at the same time.. And I tell him I don't care what he does to/with himself under two conditions, one: I'm getting fucked, and two: I'm not home. Please consider since I work 9am to 5pm with an hour commute both ways and he works 6pm to 5am with an hour commute, that I barely am ever home while he is. So this is ample opportunity to "take out" his sexual whatevers. So, I'm making him lunchto take to workday night since I had the day off... And he's in the shower getting ready for work. I work him up early to "play" but he didn't "feel" like it. He gets out of the shower and he's fully erect. I offer again to help, orally, anally, however I can help. He declines. Kind of bummed I go back downstairs and pack his lunch, evenhough he has an hour before he has to even leave the house.... I walk back upstairs to get to spend a little time with him and he effin jacking off. Fml. I have never ever in all the history of any off my relationships had anyone who has physically disgusted me more. I lost my damn dinner, and was so pissed that I nearly wanted to claw his face off. Today, I'm packing my shit for good. He is so not worth all the bullshit. Mostly me venting, but I have to know... Are there really a substantial amount of guys who prefer jacking off to their partners? Is it more common than I really want to believe?