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So here’s the story. I’m 51 now and I am also celibate. I have a pretty low sex drive and usually jerk off 1 every one to two weeks sometimes I might try for two times in a week. My problem is that while it feels okay it’s not as pleasurable as it used to be. Porn helps me stay horny and usually can’t stay erect without it, but it’s more of the sensation. Is there anything toys, techniques etc. that anyone would recommend?
 
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Use it or loose it the saying goes.
Any health issues?
am 62 and masturbate daily, even though I have an active sex life.
Just can’t be bothered to do it I guess. It kind of started when something happened with my sciatic nerve that made my balls swell for a couple weeks. Ever since then it’s not been right. I’ve seen a urologist and neurologist and nothing.
 
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Look into anal play (if you're amenable) - I think a butt plug might give your masturbation routine new life.
 

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Look into anal play (if you're amenable) - I think a butt plug might give your masturbation routine new life.
Tried but it doesn’t do anything. I used to be a bottom. Again after that sciatica nerve incident things in the region changed.
 

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How long has this been the case? It seems to be that we have a background level of horniness that just comes from having testosterone, then there are things that can increase our horniness, i.e. being exposed to someone we find attractive. In my case I am sure there is an effect of pheromones too: though some people say our noses are too poor for that to be the case I find I am hornier when my wife is in the most fertile part of her cycle and also if I have been out of the house and exposed to more other women (some of whom presumably must also be in that part of their cycle).

So is part of the issue that COVID-19 has made you a recluse so you have not been exposed to real, other people as much as in previous years? If it's been a problem for longer that that or does not seem to co-incide in any way with COVID-19 restrictions where you are then maybe you should get your testosterone level checked. If that was low it would account for the low sex drive.
 

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How long has this been the case? It seems to be that we have a background level of horniness that just comes from having testosterone, then there are things that can increase our horniness, i.e. being exposed to someone we find attractive. In my case I am sure there is an effect of pheromones too: though some people say our noses are too poor for that to be the case I find I am hornier when my wife is in the most fertile part of her cycle and also if I have been out of the house and exposed to more other women (some of whom presumably must also be in that part of their cycle).

So is part of the issue that COVID-19 has made you a recluse so you have not been exposed to real, other people as much as in previous years? If it's been a problem for longer that that or does not seem to co-incide in any way with COVID-19 restrictions where you are then maybe you should get your testosterone level checked. If that was low it would account for the low sex drive.
My testosterone is fine and I’m mostly a recluse anyway so Covid isn’t an issue.
 

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My testosterone is fine and I’m mostly a recluse anyway so Covid isn’t an issue.
Your not alone in the weekly jerk off cycle. I get horny when looking at porn but then it dissipates when I stop or get interrupted. When I was actively going to the gym I would jerk off more often as the opportunity presented itself. I rarely get erections and even with porn they are hard to maintain. Sometimes I find the cleanup isn’t worth it and just stop before I am done or get soft before I finish. we all age differently as my uro told me.
 
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You sir, are my HERO!!!!
I appreciate the comment.
I am in an enviroment where I live and work in very close proximity to my coworkers, and we are in general very close friends as well(Offshore oil and gas)
So it is an unique opportunity to compare lifestyle issues. allmost like an ongoing experiment if you will.
we respect each others privacy although we share a cabin, there is no jerk off parties etc. Of course men talk and joke though.... occasional semi serious /joking conversations re hardons cock size masturbation and frequency of sex.
generally I am the eldest by a long shot.
currently my coworkers are 35 and 41(I am 62).
so now to the point of this diatribe:
I can see what these guys eat.
can see the frequency(or lack of!!) any form of exersise. although our job is physically demanding frequently, predomantly we are working 12hr shifts day in day out in a darkened container filled with computer screens controlling remote machines.
in other words sitting on our arses.
it takes a LOT of self discipline to drag your arse to go exersise after a shift.
the choice of food is open, galley presents you with western, asian, salads, etc.
your choice.
I choose salads vegs minimise fried foods.
my friends...... prawns. fried goods. rice. coke(sodas)
then very little exersise.
and then those conversations referred to earlier makes sense.
They reveal they have low sexdrive they getting old and why us it that I am in shaoe and the cock is still going well?
And I say: we all eat together: what do I have and what do you have?
why is it I have no beerbelly and you guys have?
why us it my cock is demanding attention from me like a teenager and you guys have given up?
diet. exersise. of course genetics.
and yet.... denial.
 

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I appreciate the comment.
I am in an enviroment where I live and work in very close proximity to my coworkers, and we are in general very close friends as well(Offshore oil and gas)
So it is an unique opportunity to compare lifestyle issues. allmost like an ongoing experiment if you will.
we respect each others privacy although we share a cabin, there is no jerk off parties etc. Of course men talk and joke though.... occasional semi serious /joking conversations re hardons cock size masturbation and frequency of sex.
generally I am the eldest by a long shot.
currently my coworkers are 35 and 41(I am 62).
so now to the point of this diatribe:
I can see what these guys eat.
can see the frequency(or lack of!!) any form of exersise. although our job is physically demanding frequently, predomantly we are working 12hr shifts day in day out in a darkened container filled with computer screens controlling remote machines.
in other words sitting on our arses.
it takes a LOT of self discipline to drag your arse to go exersise after a shift.
the choice of food is open, galley presents you with western, asian, salads, etc.
your choice.
I choose salads vegs minimise fried foods.
my friends...... prawns. fried goods. rice. coke(sodas)
then very little exersise.
and then those conversations referred to earlier makes sense.
They reveal they have low sexdrive they getting old and why us it that I am in shaoe and the cock is still going well?
And I say: we all eat together: what do I have and what do you have?
why is it I have no beerbelly and you guys have?
why us it my cock is demanding attention from me like a teenager and you guys have given up?
diet. exersise. of course genetics.
and yet.... denial.


You are so right!!! which is why now, I have begun making better food choices, and exercising more. Because those things really do play a key role in men's health as we get more mature in years
 
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