Question... Is it normal, ok to have a partner solo J/O when involved in a relationship? Im involved in a relationship , living with my partner and recently discovered he's been j/o solo . While I'm still at home I would be down doing laundry while he was supposed to be sleeping upstairs. I found him in the shower with a bottle of lube on the nightstand and a porn in the dvd player? We usually have a mutual jerk off session together or sex. Is this normal?