Jerking off solo

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  1. PAHARDJOCK

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    Question... Is it normal, ok to have a partner solo J/O when involved in a relationship? Im involved in a relationship , living with my partner and recently discovered he's been j/o solo . While I'm still at home I would be down doing laundry while he was supposed to be sleeping upstairs. I found him in the shower with a bottle of lube on the nightstand and a porn in the dvd player?
    We usually have a mutual jerk off session together or sex. Is this normal?
     
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    I don't see anything abnormal about it...
     
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    but how about if it's done in place of having sex. He said he was too tired to fuck and then rolled over and went to sleep.
     
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    I've been living with my bf for nearly 7 years, and we sometimes j/o seperately, but never in place of sex. We don't talk about it, but I've noticed evidence of him doing it, and I still like to have a wank now and then just looking at porn, but our sex life has always been active together as well. If it bothers you and it's taking the place of sex, approach him about your feelings.
     
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    It is ok, as long as it doesn't affect the relation. I am married and enjoy going solo at times.
     
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    Really no need to worry! Sumtimes u just want to play with ur own cock and cum by urself thinking selfishly about urself. Theres sumtimes the obligation to always perform ur best with ur partner. With urself u can just cum and get it over with. Sumtimes nothing better than ur own throbbing cock, alone-time! DONT Worry!
     
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    solo sex can be some of the best sex ever . As long as your not excluded from sex with your partner , I see nothing wrong with it .
     
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    I've read somewhere that sometimes doing that is in place of the sex with a partner. While nothing is wrong with it, a chronic thing may be something to worry about.
     
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    Well, put it to you this way:

    My partner and I have been together for damn near 7 years now.

    We jerk off each other.

    We jerk off ourselves.

    By ourselves, and together.

    While sexual intimacy is important in a relationship, it's also just as important to be intimate with one's self, too.

    If you're feeling insecure because your partner masturbates or that perhaps you are not fulfilling your partner's needs sexually, then I would encourage the two of you to seek couple's counseling, as brooding over this issue is certainly not going to help your relationship.

    All the best!

    Take care.
     
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    Normal, as long as masturbation is not preferred to sex with the partner.
     
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    I'd agree, as long as you add one word to this statement..."always."

    Normal, as long as masturbation is not ALWAYS preferred.....

    Sometimes it is preferred and there's nothing wrong with that, I think. But it ideally should be a sometimes thing.

     
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    Sometimes a person just wants to get off and go to sleep without all the extras. As long as it's not adversely affecting the relationship I don't see a problem.
     
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