Some folks really are that naive or that delusional or that caught up in their own fetishes and turn-ons. However, I’m aware that for many people it’s just self-aware fantasy and paraphiliacs. Many (if not most) queers know that probably the majority of these guys who hype up and promote “straightness” and being “gay4pay” are at the very least not conventionally, inherently heterosexual or in are somewhere in the gender, sexual, affection, affirmation, romantic, emotion, commitment spectrum.
Then the question becomes why in 2022 do so many dudes still use “straight”, “gay4pay”, non-homo presentation to get attention, to build ego, to build a brand, as sociological protection? And why do so many queers still get off on the “straight fantasy”? I do mostly know the multiple reasons, but I’m not gonna get into it.
It would be easier to just dismiss it as mere porn/sex work fantasy if there wasn’t still so much male homophobia and internalized phobias in porn (and of course in the world in general) and if there still wasn’t so much queer mental health struggles, gay panic, gay resentments, “straight” and non-homo superiority views, people not knowing how to deal with fluidity, contradictions, hyper-sexuality. All of this makes stuff makes it difficult to view it as “just fantasy”, as it does effect and also feeds off of problems, whether you want to admit it or not. But I’m not here to kink/paraphiliac shame, just talk about reality.