Just for one...

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by Rugbypup, Jan 31, 2008.

  1. Rugbypup

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    I would like to know what you guys think.

    Are some people born natural life long spinsters or batchelors?

    They just dont have it in their design to ever have a relationship.
     
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    I believe this occurs ...yes.
    Some people for what ever reason have less need(s) for a companion.
    I believe it is on more of an up swing of happening now than in the past.
    There are so many things that can & does fill a person's life if the desire they don't fit into a marriage type life style...
    I'm sure there are many many other reasons to list
     
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    hella Yea !
     
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    Yes. I can think of several examples.
     
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    I think the answer is yes to this question. In my experience, I am 33 years old and have never had a relationship; that's not to say I haven't tried to find someone to settle down with, it's just never worked out for me. I don't lay blame to myself or the people I've dated. For whatever reason it just hasn't been in the cards so to speak for me thus far. I have noticed that over the last few years I have become very comfortable with my life and myself and worry now that I wouldn't be happy or even able to adjust to sharing everything with a partner. Where I once focused a lot of attention and wished I could meet someone special, now I find myself uninterested in even "going out" and would rather spend time with friends or just stay at home.
     
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    I do know a few people who have never been in a relationship, and there are various reason why, but they are all OK.

    Sharing is difficult for a lot of people. Usually the progression happens naturally, though. If you haven't met someone romantically you love & trust enough to share with, emotionally or materially, there's no reason why you should.:smile:
     
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    Pretty sure i am one of them
     
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    Definitely.

    I understand where spfldstyler is coming from and I find myself heading down that type of path, and I'm OK with that.

    I find all the joy, entertainment and support I could ever handle in my friends, it would be downright greedy to ask for more in the form of a relationship.
     
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    I've dated many. Yes, they exist.
     
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    No, There is a lid for every pot.

     
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    I say yes. I'm going down that road. Just over 30, got a stable life, but haven't been able to do the sharing thingie :D
     
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    There are people who are now called QuirkyAlones...

    Quirkyalone - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

    who while not necessarily opposed to being in a relationship, may not actively seek one.

    While I have been alone most of my life, and have only been in one long term relationship, I don't necessarily consider myself a QuirkyAlone, although I appear to be on the surface. I've always daydreamed about being in a relationship, and it's important to me.

    However, I am also wanting to enjoy "playing the field" for a while too, since I didn't get to do a whole lot of that either! I'm open to all the possibilities at this point in time.

    I think some of the QuirkyAlones are probably perfectly happy not being in a relationship.
     
  16. rob_just_rob

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    Your situation sounds sort of familiar - I like the idea of being in a relationship, especially when I'm not in one. But I haven't found myself in a relationship that I could see lasting a lifetime. There has always been something tangible missing.

    (There's probably a word for that, and it's probably considerably less endearing than "quirkyalone". :rolleyes:)
     
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