Just Found Out Al Parker Was Actually Bisexual; don't know how to feel

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I ain't gonna debate anything about the HIV/AIDS pseudoscience in here. Mainly because this is somebody else's thread and the topic is completely irrelevant.
I am Greek. That is what I implied.

You are definitely older and you are definitely at least a Kinsey 4.
All this outrageously homophobic rant makes me even wonder if you are truly bisexual. But I have no clue and so I respect your self-identification.
The romantic aspect is a lot more important than the sexual aspect, because letting our dates know may help them proceed with or halt dating us, altogether. I have never told my hook-ups "You know what? I fuck both men and women, but I prefer gay men as partners", but this is something I almost always touch upon on my second dates, at least when I feel like I really like the other person.
What you are describing as continuous change is not true for hetero- and homoromantic bisexuals, only for biromantics.
PS. I don't really know if homoromantic Kinsey 4 is redundant. In my book, it is.
Haha just what do you assume my age is? My writing is not homophobic or biphobic. I guess I have a tendency to be blunt?

What are the age accelerating drugs that bottoms take? Did you mean prep/ Truvada? I wrote about that in reply to you or someone else. I don't want a debate about what causes HIV or AIDS deaths as no matter what I write or show you I doubt you would believe.

Okay now I understand what you meant about the romantic aspect. When I date, before I partner with or sleep with men and women I just flat out tell them right from the start that I am bisexual, have never been in a monogamous relationship and will be dating, having, or wanting to have sex with other men and women with him or her, or without him or her. When I was into going to meat market sex cruise pubs and dance clubs 98% of the time I went just to be with friends, meet people, get drunk and smoke hashish and trip on LSD, and the low # of times I did hook up I didn't enjoy it nearly as much as when I dated someone, and some of the men and women I had hooked up with and we both knew it was well a one night stand, a hook up, not dating or even going to ever evolve into some fuck buddy type of 'relationship', or dating, GF/BF and we had clearly communicated this, then these crazy women and men became obsessed, showed me how they have no boundaries or desire to give someone their own personal choice or freedom, and stalked me!
 
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Haha just what do you assume my age is? My writing is not homophobic or biphobic. I guess I have a tendency to be blunt?

What are the age accelerating drugs that bottoms take? Did you mean prep/ Truvada? I wrote about that in reply to you or someone else. I don't want a debate about what causes HIV or AIDS deaths as no matter what I write or show you I doubt you would believe.

Okay now I understand what you meant about the romantic aspect. When I date, before I partner with or sleep with men and women I just flat out tell them right from the start that I am bisexual, have never been in a monogamous relationship and will be dating, having, or wanting to have sex with other men and women with him or her, or without him or her. When I was into going to meat market sex cruise pubs and dance clubs 98% of the time I went just to be with friends, meet people, get drunk and smoke hashish and trip on LSD, and the low # of times I did hook up I didn't enjoy it nearly as much as when I dated someone, and some of the men and women I had hooked up with and we both knew it was well a one night stand, a hook up, not dating or even going to ever evolve into some fuck buddy type of 'relationship', or dating, GF/BF and we had clearly communicated this, then these crazy women and men became obsessed, showed me how they have no boundaries or desire to give someone their own personal choice or freedom, and stalked me!
You are in your 50's-60's. You've already mentioned your dad's age.
Antiretroviral drugs are aging inductors, yes.
I can elaborate on this on a personal messaging board, not here.
People are entitled to fall in love, mate.
Even if you may have warned them that it is hard for you to commit.
That's neither's fault.
 
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You are in your 50's-60's. You've already mentioned your dad's age.
Antiretroviral drugs are aging inductors, yes.
I can elaborate on this on a personal messaging board, not here.
People are entitled to fall in love, mate.
Even if you may have warned them that it is hard for you to commit.
That's neither's fault.
Nope. I am from the end of Generation X.

I change sexuality ratios on here because despite being bisexual there is some stupid pointless strictly enforced "stay in your lane" rule about how if you are bisexual and list yourself as more equal and not at 90% same sex you cannot post in the "ask a gay man" forum at all.

Hard to commit? It was a hook up. Not dating or going to lead to anything...and if someone stalks me or wants "too much too soon" I just politely tell them no thanks and to not contact me again.

I agree with you about the prep/pep/antiretroviral meds being superly aggressively marketed to bisexual and gay men, and now even women. It is crazy and my friend who was on Truvada temporarily for possible HIV exposure said it the med is horrible, has weird side effects, and the only reason he took it was to prevent possible HIV infection from slipping up as a top and having unsafe sex with an ex-BF who he is pretty certain was lying about how his ex BF is HIV+ or living with AIDS. My gay friend is not into drugs, does not drink or even use Amyl/Butyl/poppers, and he does not date, partner with, or have sex with men who drink, take other drugs, or smoke.

Yes it is illegal to lie about being HIV poz or having AIDS and having unsafe consensual sex in many countries, but people do it all the time. I saw this all during the 1980s, 1990s, early 2000s and even today I correspond with gay men into certain sex kinks such as bondage that we both enjoy, and I know some of these men are poz as they told me before but they forgot they did this, and on websites we are both on and on twitter they claim to be "HIV NEG ON PREP".

Have you ever known anyone who is HIV+, "long term survivors', or who had AIDS and died from it? They don't die from drugs and alcohol unless they take an intentional overdose as suicide and self-murder. Drew/Al Parker died from HIV/AIDS not from soft or even hard drugs or from a drug overdose.
 

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Nope. I am from the end of Generation X.

I change sexuality ratios on here because despite being bisexual there is some stupid pointless strictly enforced "stay in your lane" rule about how if you are bisexual and list yourself as more equal and not at 90% same sex you cannot post in the "ask a gay man" forum at all.

Hard to commit? It was a hook up. Not dating or going to lead to anything...and if someone stalks me or wants "too much too soon" I just politely tell them no thanks and to not contact me again.

I agree with you about the prep/pep/antiretroviral meds being superly aggressively marketed to bisexual and gay men, and now even women. It is crazy and my friend who was on Truvada temporarily for possible HIV exposure said it the med is horrible, has weird side effects, and the only reason he took it was to prevent possible HIV infection from slipping up as a top and having unsafe sex with an ex-BF who he is pretty certain was lying about how his ex BF is HIV+ or living with AIDS. My gay friend is not into drugs, does not drink or even use Amyl/Butyl/poppers, and he does not date, partner with, or have sex with men who drink, take other drugs, or smoke.

Yes it is illegal to lie about being HIV poz or having AIDS and having unsafe consensual sex in many countries, but people do it all the time. I saw this all during the 1980s, 1990s, early 2000s and even today I correspond with gay men into certain sex kinks such as bondage that we both enjoy, and I know some of these men are poz as they told me before but they forgot they did this, and on websites we are both on and on twitter they claim to be "HIV NEG ON PREP".

Have you ever known anyone who is HIV+, "long term survivors', or who had AIDS and died from it? They don't die from drugs and alcohol unless they take an intentional overdose as suicide and self-murder. Drew/Al Parker died from HIV/AIDS not from soft or even hard drugs or from a drug overdose.
I can tell you are in desperate need for human contact, but this is not the right way.
(I am on my two-week holiday, and I am already bored to death.)
You are still old, mate. A 45-year-old is a middle-aged person. I am thirty and I do not consider myself young anymore.
I did not deduce you are gay-leaning because of your 90%-10% ratio. It's obvious in what you have written.
This is the last time I am mentioning HIV/AIDS pseudoscience, whatsoever. If you'd like to, message me privately to talk abt it.
 

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I can tell you are in desperate need for human contact, but this is not the right way.
(I am on my two-week holiday, and I am already bored to death.)
You are still old, mate. A 45-year-old is a middle-aged person. I am thirty and I do not consider myself young anymore.
I did not deduce you are gay-leaning because of your 90%-10% ratio. It's obvious in what you have written.
This is the last time I am mentioning HIV/AIDS pseudoscience, whatsoever. If you'd like to, message me privately to talk abt it.
I get bored at work. Being in your 40s or even 50s is not middle aged.

I did come out as "gay" first decades ago, before I learned I am bisexual but this is extremely, extremely super common. I have other bisexual friends who also had this experience.
 

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We don't go around talking to strangers or friends and says 'My name is Karl and I am a HOMOROMANTIC KINSEY 4!'
I agree. These distinctions are not navel gazing. It's just observation of phenomena or trends. Nothing wrong with that. It helps clear up misconceptions if anything.

I'm tired of ignorant people assuming they know how bisexual people function and live (as if there is one size fits all for bisexual existence. Smh) and these breakdowns help to explain the differences.
I understand that the romantic side for bisexual people can vary from person to person. But, I do feel weird about needing to apply a term for each 'feeling'. Like heteromantic, biromantic and homoromantic. In a dating setting where you're supposed to discuss your personality and feelings I just think there's a better way to express that you romantically prefer a specific gender rather than giving yourself another label. Idk, I can understand why ppl use the labels but at the same time it feels so robotic.
He's an older Kinsey-4, who very typically self-identifies as a Kinsey-3.
I can spot my people from outer space.
LMAO
I do agree. Adding the romanticity specifier is actually very important.
Like this for example, by categorising and labelling him as "an older kinsey-4" it's like you're talking about some kind of robot or object; turning him into some type of statistic rather than talking to him like an actual human being. There's something more human about saying "i'm bisexual but i prefer to date women" than saying "i'm a heteromantic bisexual". It's like we're turning dating into online shopping with small summaries of our entire feelings and emotions.
 

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I understand that the romantic side for bisexual people can vary from person to person. But, I do feel weird about needing to apply a term for each 'feeling'. Like heteromantic, biromantic and homoromantic. In a dating setting where you're supposed to discuss your personality and feelings I just think there's a better way to express that you romantically prefer a specific gender rather than giving yourself another label. Idk, I can understand why ppl use the labels but at the same time it feels so robotic.

Like this for example, by categorising and labelling him as "an older kinsey-4" it's like you're talking about some kind of robot or object; turning him into some type of statistic rather than talking to him like an actual human being. There's something more human about saying "i'm bisexual but i prefer to date women" than saying "i'm a heteromantic bisexual". It's like we're turning dating into online shopping with small summaries of our entire feelings and emotions.
I agree with you, but a bisexual person who prefers dating people of the same sex are perfectly described in two words: homoromantic bisexuals. And so forth.
I very rarely label myself as a homoromantic bisexual, but that's what I am, technically speaking.
 

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I understand that the romantic side for bisexual people can vary from person to person. But, I do feel weird about needing to apply a term for each 'feeling'. Like heteromantic, biromantic and homoromantic. In a dating setting where you're supposed to discuss your personality and feelings I just think there's a better way to express that you romantically prefer a specific gender rather than giving yourself another label. Idk, I can understand why ppl use the labels but at the same time it feels so robotic.

Like this for example, by categorising and labelling him as "an older kinsey-4" it's like you're talking about some kind of robot or object; turning him into some type of statistic rather than talking to him like an actual human being. There's something more human about saying "i'm bisexual but i prefer to date women" than saying "i'm a heteromantic bisexual". It's like we're turning dating into online shopping with small summaries of our entire feelings and emotions.
These terms simply existing aren't dehumanising people. Nor are they there to be used in everyday conversation either. That's silly. Lol. No one is suggesting going to a bar to hook up and identifying yourself as "homo romantic" to a potential partner. This is a misunderstanding.
I agree with you, but a bisexual person who prefers dating people of the same sex are perfectly described in two words: homoromantic bisexuals. And so forth.
I very rarely label myself as a homoromantic bisexual, but that's what I am, technically speaking.
Precisely. There is a difference between simply using technical terms to describe something and regular colloquial speech. No one suggested you must ONLY refer to yourself by these academic terms.
 

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I'm sorry but bisexual men that only date women and only use men for sex is a major redflag to me, they might as well be straight in my book. Avoid them at all costs.
Straight men are not turned on by dick and thought of sex with another guy....somehow straight people understand that better than gay people.
 

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Straight men are not turned on by dick and thought of sex with another guy....somehow straight people understand that better than gay people.
Bisexual men that only use gay men for sex might as well be straight to me. Reading comprehension is lacking these days. Go back and reread what I said before you quote me again.
 
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I'm sorry but bisexual men that only date women and only use men for sex is a major redflag to me, they might as well be straight in my book. Avoid them at all costs.
You've got every right to be avoiding 'em.
But they are not straight.
 

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I agree with you, but a bisexual person who prefers dating people of the same sex are perfectly described in two words: homoromantic bisexuals. And so forth.
I very rarely label myself as a homoromantic bisexual, but that's what I am, technically speaking.
You've got every right to be avoiding 'em.
But they are not straight.
I understand that 100%, and I have used the labels in conversation also. I'm not sure if you're agreeing with this guy. If you are, I'm curious. With the use of these labels why is it ok for you to be a homoromantic bisexual but, heteromantic bisexuals should be avoided. This is why I find the labels confusing at times you want to be accepted as a homoromantic bisexual but heteromantic bisexuals are seen as people with internalised homophobia. It's ok for you to "use" women for sex and exclusively date men but it's problematic for someone to "use" a man for sex and exclusively date women. It just seems like these labels can be used to isolate some bisexuals from other bisexuals because their lifestyle is disapproved of.
 
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I understand that 100%, and I have used the labels in conversation also. I'm not sure if you're agreeing with this guy. If you are, I'm curious. With the use of these labels why is it ok for you to be a homoromantic bisexual but, heteromantic bisexuals should be avoided. This is why I find the labels confusing at times you want to be accepted as a homoromantic bisexual but heteromantic bisexuals are seen as people with internalised homophobia. It's ok for you to "use" women for sex and exclusively date men but it's problematic for someone to "use" a man for sex and exclusively date women. It just seems like these labels can be used to isolate some bisexuals from other bisexuals because their lifestyle is disapproved of.
He has every right to avoid 'em.
If it's casual sex, I don't see the point of avoiding 'em, but I don't care if one does.
It's their choice.
When I was single, the only women I'd have sex with were the ones who knowingly would have a one night stand with me. Knowing how much better I feel in a same-sex relationship hinters me from dating women (even if I catch feelings for some, sometimes).
 

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I've always heard that bisexual men or women were attracted more to the same sex. All I can say is Al Parker was one of the best looking men I ever saw. He had the perfect muscular, slender frame, mesmerizing face, best looking mustache I ever saw and the most perfect, ample cock. Best overall package ever.
 

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I've always heard that bisexual men or women were attracted more to the same sex. All I can say is Al Parker was one of the best looking men I ever saw. He had the perfect muscular, slender frame, mesmerizing face, best looking mustache I ever saw and the most perfect, ample cock. Best overall package ever.
I think it's exacly the opposite - surveys suggest most bisexual people are more into opposite gender and almost exclusively date opposite gender;
One survey found that 88% are in heterosexual relationship and 12% in same sex relationship ( only people who were/are surveyed were considered)
Another one found that 84% of bisexual men are in heterosexual relationships...
 

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I've always heard that bisexual men or women were attracted more to the same sex. All I can say is Al Parker was one of the best looking men I ever saw. He had the perfect muscular, slender frame, mesmerizing face, best looking mustache I ever saw and the most perfect, ample cock. Best overall package ever.
Actually it's the exact opposite,we live in an highly heteronormative world so it makes sense that heteroromantic bisexuals will be the majority of bi people
 

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Actually it's the exact opposite,we live in an highly heteronormative world so it makes sense that heteroromantic bisexuals will be the majority of bi people
Bingo. I am usually the outlier with other bisexual guys I meet. In that I actively want a boyfriend.

Most other bisexuals I know personally (many of whom are closeted) lean towards relationships with women. When we hook up its usually just that, hooking up. Nothing more. And that's fine by me personally. If I get a boyfriend it will be an out and proud person preferably in a country with pro lgbt attitudes.