just had sex for the first time, question too

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  1. Mr 604753

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    ok it took me like 30 minutes of...um....sexing. I guess thats the word.
    Well anyways i couldnt "ejaculate" even though i was super excited. I had to do some hands on experience to finish the job.
    Also i lost the erection twice,about 10 and 20 minutes into it. It lasted like 20 seconds though.
    Is that normal? I had only two drinks that night total about 2 hours before.
    I couldnt seem to do it fast either, its was slow, and sloppy, i couldnt "thrust" fast for some reason.
    It was quite the funny experience.
    She was an older woman so i told her before that ive never done it and she laughed and told me it was obviously ok if it wasnt good the first time but she had an orgasm and wasnt faking it.
    I also told her to not fake it and that i wouldnt be mad if she didnt cause it was my first time. We talked about all that stuff so i would....um i guess feel comfortable. hahahaha
    Will it get easier or faster as you get more experience? i tried to not laugh during the entire time cause it was so funny.
    By the way i was standing up and hitting it doggy style, which im not used to standing up etc..
     
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    Yep I'd say that's all pretty normal for the first go-around. Mine was not much better, and the girl had to finish me off manually :) She did a good job of that, though, I'd have to admit....

    At least you gave her an orgasm, that's a very good thing.....Just relax some, and try having her ride you next time. That probably more closely mimics your masturbation habits....if you're like many guys who masturbate on their back on a bed.....
     
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    Yeah I couldn't come my first time and the girl had to show me what to do....I was young though....And also use to loose my erection like that when I was horny but not really into the girl....I think it is normal especially being your first time with just the whole mind thing that you are actually doing it....Just out of curiousity - how old are you....
     
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    I'd have to say that if you are familiar with where you have to go mentally to ejaculate while masterbating, that is where you have to go mentally in that situation where you're with a partner that you're having difficulty with in that regard. Enjoy the experience for yourself and you should always come out happy with the results. She did her thing, you need to do yours, even if it means you have to go somewhere else mentally.
     
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    but when i do my thing on my own i just do it, i dont really think about it, twice a day usually, but i need to stop cause ive grown too dependent on it instead of seeking an actual girlfriend. i dont really think about anything in particular, just finishing up :)
    Im almost 22.
    i dont just want to have sex with any woman though i want to have a relatioship but she was older than me so thats out of the question, i just wanted to get together with this woman cause she was pretty damn hot and wanted it and so did i so i t was mutually beneficial.
    and boy getting sucked up hurts like a mother ****er! its so sensitive to the touch that it hurts....ow!
     
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    Think about this....you have been masturbating for a long time now...you have learned what works and doesn;t work well for you. The first time you masturbated, while it felt good, probably wasn't your best experience, either. But you learned, and got better, and things worked out.:smile: Relax, take some more time in foreplay, exploring your partner, learning her body. Touch is an amazing thing, all over, and it will let you learn areas on her body that excite her and give her pleasure. The back and forth will help excite you even more, and help to prepare both of you for the ultimate coitus. Sex is an EXPERIENCE, not a single act. Like anything else, experience helps you feel more comfortable with the situation, and let yourself enjoy it, rather than thinking and analysing it. Give you and your partner a break, and just try and have FUN with the whole experience. How you thrust and all will take care of itself, once you learn to relax more. It's deep in the genetics to know how to breed .:biggrin1: Nature will take over if you just let yourself go into the whole experience. End of rant .
     
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    if getting sucked hurt, she didn't do a good job!

    also: despite what one sees in just about every porn film, thrusting fast isn't the end-all-be-all. going nice and slow, letting the person feel evvvvvery inch as you slide in and out, can be incredibly intense. i know of what i speak, from both sides of the experience... ;)



     
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    Yeah I agree w/the previous poster - ole girl didn't know what she was doing....Getting a b/j should hurt but feel damn great....Just remember once you have had sex once - you will start getting the urges and wanting some more....Yeah you might want to lay off the whacking if you want to blow your instrument in a women since you are just start off....
     
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