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My wife and I have a wreck of a sex life. Mostly because, I think, she has a medical condition which has been discussed here in other threads (too much pain for sex). Another problem is that we just don't discuss it much, if at all.
So I just want to vent a little because there doesn't seem to be a workable solution at this point.
I tried to bring it up a couple nights ago. "I think my penis is getting smaller," I said.
"Why?" she asked.
"Because it never gets used." Ha ha. I tried to open with a joke. She wasn't amused.
"The smaller the better," she said. "A tampon doesn't hurt."
Before I could answer she added, "I already told you you can have it, all you have to do is ask."
The problem is, she doesn't want it. I don't know if it's because I don't ask enough, or because it hurts too much. It's a combination of both, I suppose. But why would I want to ask? She doesn't want it. She'll say yes, we'll do it, it'll hurt her, she'll be resentful. Or she'll say no, and feel guilty, then feel resentful.
So maybe I ought to resign myself to a life of either abstinence or porn.
Otherwise, we have a pretty good marriage.
So I just want to vent a little because there doesn't seem to be a workable solution at this point.
I tried to bring it up a couple nights ago. "I think my penis is getting smaller," I said.
"Why?" she asked.
"Because it never gets used." Ha ha. I tried to open with a joke. She wasn't amused.
"The smaller the better," she said. "A tampon doesn't hurt."
Before I could answer she added, "I already told you you can have it, all you have to do is ask."
The problem is, she doesn't want it. I don't know if it's because I don't ask enough, or because it hurts too much. It's a combination of both, I suppose. But why would I want to ask? She doesn't want it. She'll say yes, we'll do it, it'll hurt her, she'll be resentful. Or she'll say no, and feel guilty, then feel resentful.
So maybe I ought to resign myself to a life of either abstinence or porn.
Otherwise, we have a pretty good marriage.