Just wanted to make an announcement.

Discussion in 'Et Cetera, Et Cetera' started by B_Christofferb, May 10, 2007.

  1. B_Christofferb

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    Recently I have been having different feelilngs towards my sexuality. So, therefor, I have realized that I am into guys. I think I am bi, and I have changed that on my profile here on LPSG.
     
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    Thats the exact reasoning I used when I set mine up. Having the thoughts, looking at others, etc....doesnt mean total straight, so I went with 80 / 20. I presonally have no issues with who I am or who anyone else is. To whoever may judge you....you'll live no matter what they think.
     
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    Your self honesty and the courage with which you are able acknowledge a greater awareness about your sexuality calls me to look at you with great respect and admiration.

    At the risk of putting you off, cos I know how you feel about Christianity and respect your feelings, however, I am sharing as that is who I am and I know how judgemental people can be in the name of religion...

    I don't think that any sexual preference is better or "holier" than the other, I believe that it is a calling from God (just as people are called to be doctors, teachers, married, single and even parents) and that our sexual preferences somehow complete God's vision of the type of people he would like us to be. End of sermon.

    This realisation doesn't take anything less of yourself, in fact it makes you more...as you continue to learn more about yourself, so you will grow. I hope that you are sitting behind your computer with pride in your heart - you have every reason to be!

    Be assured that my care and support is with you as you continue to discover (and hopefully embrace) more and more about yourself!
     
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    That's okay Christofferb, as I'm sure you have noticed you are in excellent company. :smile: Some of the hottest and smartest guys here are bi or gay. :05:

    I am curious about something though. Why did you as well as many others make the jump from 100% straight to 70% straight/30% gay or whatever, if you haven't done anything yet? :confused: Educate me. Maybe, I'm not getting a clear picture; but until you act on these thoughts or feelings it seems to me that your gay percentage should be 1%.

    Let's assume that maybe you and 4 friends jerked off while watching a porno movie in high school. If you didn't touch them and they didn't touch you, but you all obviously saw each other and all got off I wouldn't assume any of you were bisexual or gay. I wouldn't even assume you were bisexual if looking at the gallery got you hard. So clearly, I am missing an important component. Can you or someone else explain this to me?
     
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    * the crowd cheers *


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    Good to realize that you have more opportunities to experience life. I like sex, I love orgasms and love to give them to others. Since I started to explore the bi side of sexuality, I'm having more pleasure than ever before. I wish I had started earlier. Just be careful and be safe. You're going to love what's ahead.
     
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    Good on ya, cristoffer.
     
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    Both this thread and njqt's post deserve long and thoughtful answers, but at the moment I am obligated elsewhere. Short version: Good for you, Cristoffer, that you have the courage to declare your feelings and understand yourself well enough to know that what you are feeling is not confusion, but simply an orientation that is hard for monosexuals to grasp sometimes. And, as to njqt's honest question, if you think about you will realize that almost everyone has an orientation well before they have any experience to back it up. We'd never question a virgin who was sure s/he was a heterosexual, (in fact we have boatloads of those here on the board) but bisexuality is something that troubles us. Because it is hard to pin down and understand, we want someone to "prove" it before we accept it. Fact is, just like you were het long before you were sexually active, he may well be right in his declaration even if he hasn't tried anything yet.

    More later!
     
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    Self-discovery is an incredible thing. Most people are terrified of being honest with themselves, for whatever reason. I'm glad you have enough self-awareness that you recognize and accept who you are! You Rock!
     
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    Excellent, it's good that you can be true to yourself, and hopefully be comfortable at the same time. :)
     
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    Would others had your self-acceptance and courage. Be happy in who and what you are. Sam
     
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    First off, thanks for the encouranging comments! Well, I have been with a guy. I have been with many guys. The reason I have been with many guys is because I do escort. But, recently I was with a guy because I developed a passion for said guy; and I wanted to. I have also hidden this crush I have on a friend, and I hope that I can act on my feelings. He is gay, and I know he finds me attractive and would date me if he knew I was gay or into guys. I am not going to tell him now since I want to make sure - last thing I want is to hurt his feelings in the end by discovering I was just going through some phase, which I highly doubt I am. Thanks again for all the encouraging comments, I really do appreciate them and they really help me feel comfortable in my own skin. You guys are, believe it or not, much more supportive than most of my current friends and I find it hard to believe since you guys don't really know me face to face.
     
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    I admire you, Christofferb, for having the courage not only to see clearly what is changing within yourself but also to admit it to yourself.

    NCbear (who, truly, saw this coming awhile back based on some of your earlier posts :smile: )
     
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    LOL what hinted you?

     
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